Huggers?

“Some people don't like to be touched, others regularly hug friends and family.

My cousin who is half Italian told me that in their family, if you were going out to the store, you'd hug everyone in the house good-bye, then hug them all hello when you got back...

That seems a little extreme (in a nice way) but I do like my hugs.

How many of you regularly hug friends, incl. same sex friends?

Just curious...”

“Most of my friends are huggers.”

“Some I do, some I don't. Depends more on the moment than the friend.”

“Don't touch me!


















Unless ya mean it.”

“All those huggings, no wonder nothing ever gets done.

Nope, my family and friends are not huggers.”

“Giving a hug feels good...:)”

“I like to slam foreheads with my friends.
ROCK ON DUDE!!!”

“hugs are namaste manifest
like crazy mike said.....giving them feels good!
i come from a long line of pasta eaters too....gotta hug when you part....ya never know....”

“My family are not huggers, but my husband's family likes to hug all the time. I'm uncomfortable with it but try to get over it. The huggers seem more relaxed than the non-huggers, so I consider hugging to be a good thing.”

“Please Do Not Hug The Bears.”

“In spite of being a dour Scot, my family were seni-huggers, but I've never been big on it except with my kids and the current significant other. I work and live half my life in French, however, and everyone hugs and gives a kiss on both cheeks as soon as they're in sight of each other. I am considered very strange because I don't see why I should kiss every woman on her birthday, after work, coming back to work after weekends etc. After knowing and working with me for 25 years, they just grab me and kiss me now. Ya just hafta take the bad with the good.”

“Walkindude, could we just be aquaintances? Always?


Yikes!”

“Come on Skully!
Be my friend!”

“I hug family-I hug strangers if they want too-
I pat a dog or hug it too if it wants-
I will offer my hand always.”

“i can hug with the best of them. i hug just about everyone i know, though not everyone. some people are uncomfortable with touch, i am not one who is.”

“I'm a Solitary person, not much of a hugger lets leave it at that.”

“I think I'm part teddy bear. Unless I hate your guts, or your a guy, I'll happily give you a hug. Kissing's another matter, we gotta be serious. It's just the way I was brought up.”

“Where's Le Francais Backpacker...he'll outhug everybody here.”

“my family is too... I hug lots of people now (I had an attitude adjustment)... I love hugging my Dad now, he gets REAL uncomfortable”

“Big on hugging. I always hug my friends/fam. hello and good-bye, male or female. The kissing on the cheek thing is a little difficult. It drove me up the wall in Holland. Always kissy-kissy. It seemed sort of snobby.”

“I grew up in a STRICTLY non-hugging family. We don't hug or say "i love you" to this day. It is understood (I think?!!!).

It got to be a joke with my college friends. They would come home to spend the weekend. I would say good-bye to my parents (from a safe distance) and then jump in the car. My friends would make an elaborate show of hugging my Mom and shaking my Dad's hand. My Mom would just freeze up and grimace.

It started with college friends, because I would receive a newspaper clipping, or a tin of cookies with NO note or letter or other identifying feature. I would jsut say "oh, it must be from my mother". When a note for communications purposes was needed it was usually signed either "Your Mother" or "your Parents". No "love" or other sign off. Often my mother would send stuff from work and it would be a typed message, with a typed "Your Mother".

For some reason that still escapes me . . .my friends thought that was strange and then plotted to hug my Mother whenever they had the occasion. When drunk, they often told her "I love you" as well.

I do, however, hug my kids and tell them I love them. So all is not lost.”

“And I hug my sisters every time I see them. I also hug my brother (isn't he adorable?) and my other close relatives. And I hug my friends. Kissing is a different story, however. That's strictly family.”

“I'm a hugger.

I hug my parents, my sisters, my brother...my friends, my wife's friends...I do hold back a little with my guy friends, other than the closest ones.

My dad is pretty uncomfortable with the hugs, everyone else seems OK with it.”

“We only hug when we haven't seen one another in awhile and when we are going to not see one another for awhile. Rarely does the word "love" every come out, that is just implied.

I also prefer hugs that don't involve the "patting" on the hands on the back for some reason. Those feel just alittle impersonal more so than a good squeeze and "rub".”

“I would like to make a motion that we move this "hugging" conversation over to, and merge it with, the "biggest Breasts on TT" thread!

All in favor say "Aye".”

“Just to get the ball rolling, let me say, for the record, that I like hugging women with big firm breasts. Nice jolly warm ones.

The line forms right HERE.”

“Group hug . . . .anybody ....


hallooooooooooooooo out there”

“Hmmm, hugging for the breast contact. That's something we should think about on the Save Boobs, Save Lives thread. We could promise you all hugs if you donated, but I'm not sure how to work out the logistics just yet.”

“I never was exposed to friends hugging till I moved to the SF Bay area, then every body hugged everybody. Got used to it with female friends, never have gotten the hang of it with guys.

Never hugged Dad, the Colonel, until he retired. ;-) He loosened up some after that. I can still remember in second grade or so that I was too old to be calling them Mommy and Daddy. LOL. He's turning into a sentimental fool now that he's medicare age. I hug my kids whenever they will let me, but the big guys only accept hugs when leaving town.”

“Is it wrong of me to enjoy humiliating Sauron by kissing him in front of his friends? Just asking.”

“Skully..."wrong?"

No, it is your maternal duty.”

“'Swhat I say when he complains. It's in the contract!”

“Hey skullcap can I give you a hug....:)”

“Get in line, dude!”

“That subject came up with a friend recently so I'm glad to see this thread. I'm not a big hugger, only my old long time friends, or family. I dont do Public displays of affection either ie holding hands, touching, etc. I dont think I'm strange just private.”

“You da man Goose!”

“Sorry Crazy Mike, somebody else already has dibs on that ; )
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“:(”

“Is it me? I'm trying to remember...”

“If you're a hugger, this middle school is not where you want to go.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20071106/ap_on_fe_st/odd_detention_for_hugging_2

Ill. student gets detention for hugging

Tue Nov 6, 5:56 PM ET

MASCOUTAH, Ill. - Two hugs equals two days of detention for 13-year-old Megan Coulter. The eighth-grader was punished for violating a school policy banning public displays of affection when she hugged two friends Friday.

...”

“the hugging thing is silly but these stories seldom have only one side. i'll use this as a platform to vent a little bit.

a kid at school has been a bully towards my older son for years. the kid has been a royal pain for as long as i can remember. we follow the formula and put pressure on the school and for the most part they have at least tried, but the kid is a real twirp with a terrible family life.

anyway, a few weeks ago this kid is in the hall in front of some girl and my son. he looks at the girl and say, "do you dare me?" she apparently stood there mute. the kid whacked my son over the head with something... made a heck of a goose egg by the time he got home. then he said to the girl (laughing), "i wish it had a razor blade on it."

this time the school suspended the kid for one day and apparently the kid was grounded to his room for two weeks.

here is the kicker. the parents asked that their son be moved away from mine in class. apparently they told the school that my son has it in for their kid and that be blew the entire thing out of proportion.

...which has me wondering why i should not be upset at their sons committing assault and battery against my son (call it what it is) leaving a huge lump on his head. also, if they felt my son was blowing everything out of proportion why did they feel the need to ground their son for two weeks in addition to the schools suspension? finally, i have to wonder if they are really so stupid as to think that the decision to report the incident and discipline their boy was my son's decision? it was my call as my son's parent and the school's call as those responsible for managing a safe environment for learning.

i have made it clear to the school that the next incident battery will result in my filing a complaint with the local police whom i know (for a 100% fact) will pay the parents a visit to take matters to the next level. i told the school that i have this kid under my microscope now and they should feel free to tell his parents that if he so much as twitches i won't hesitate to get the authorities involved and i am not talking about the school principal and teachers.

just venting a little. sorry.”

“no problem. vent away. Been there, done that with the public schools.”

“Sorry about that, Jimmy. Bullies suck. But his parents suck more for creating one. There should be a mandatory parenting class for parents who have kids disciplined in situations like this before their kid is allowed back into school.”

“As a rule, we Canucks don't hug. Here in Quebec we kiss members of the opposite sex on both cheeks - left then right. Being a dour Scot it took me about thirty years to get used to the practice - I would pull away when they tried to kiss me and since I have always worked in a French language environment it drove people crazy especially at the beginning of the school year and at Christmas, both when leaving for the Hols and returning, when people would throw themselves at each other in boundless joy at seeing each other again.

Now that I hang round with so many Cousins to the South I have resolved to try and get used to hugging when I'm at a TT event or other.

Wish me good luck.”

“gremlin, i'm guessing it might be a regional thing because we've always been crazy huggers when i was growing up (and i'm a canuck). my dad's a brit, though, and hated to hug anyone. it was always funny to watch him get forced to do it because it seemed like he was afraid his pelvis was going to accidentally touch the other persons...”

“I had forgotten about this thread. Fun to see it come back up.

I hiked with a Canadian friend this past weekend, who I had not previously met. She seemed pretty happy with the pre-hike and post-hike hugs. :)”

“Now yer talkin', Fritz!

These TT events have gotten pretty sloppy with all the huggin'.”

“That's a sad story about the school, Hyway.

I'm a big hugger, so sue me.”

“I can understand why the school would do that. When Savannah was in Middle school I would see the girls there give hugs so passionate I wondered about their sexuality. I just want equality between the sexes, if the girls can have their traditional form of saying hello and goodbye (hugging) why can't the guys have ours (punching in the shoulder or wrestling someone to the ground) :).”

“hugging leads to dancing which leads to sex standing up which is, of course, from the DEVIL.”