Choices

“The only 100% guaranteed birth control pill is an aspirin -- held firmly between the knees.”

“LOL Gordon! that's good!”

“Newgirl, you gotta give him a new name. He ain't Belowzero anymore now, is he????? I suggest Just barely marginally slightly above zero. LOL”

“Um....actually, if he has turned it around, he really ought to be Well Above Zero.”

“Here's another other side for you. The dead beat Dad's side. For the record, I am paying all my support on time. Calling (and leaving messages), Emailing, and not getting any replies, setting up a visit, only to arrive and they are gone. Begging them to go skiing with me, on me, and I'll bring the chow, just grab a snack and drinks. Over 1/3 of my check goes to the kids MOTHER, who chooses how she will spend it. At least she is working. Her check added to it all, and they can live better than I. But that's not happening. (She's a spendthrift).

I can see where the Dads get extremely frustrated in their efforts to interact with their kids. And then the character assasination to my friends, that I "never" see the kids, or the support is late (Never happened).

I tried to set up to see my daughter for February vacation, there were other plans made. (I will see her next Thursday for a few days).

There is a good deal of frustration on this side also. NONE of it justifies not sending support or at least attempting to interact with the kids. I won't stop trying, but I can see where many men will.....

Just another side of the coin.”

“Uphill Klimber - You mentioned some good and valid points. Some situations can be worse.

"I won't stop trying, but I can see where many men will....." - A great attitute, hang in there.

In accepting responsibility one sometimes has to accept abuse. When the scales tilt wildly in the wrong direction, it can be difficult to hang on.

When separated by thousands of miles, visits become difficult, very expensive and sometimes impossible. The children have plans and commitments to various activities, and one is forced to intertain rather than visit. If the intertainment is not sufficient, the children will chose their other activities. That is just one of the frustrations of some of the unfortunate situations.”

“Spelling - entertain, notintertain.”

“Actually, guys, Belowzero chose his name on TT. He chose it, because he spent 3 months in the mtns. around Helena, MT in the dead of winter backpacking. There were many nights when his group was out there and it was 30 degrees below zero. It has nothing to do w/ him being "less than" anything. Unfortunately, he hasn't taken to TT. No offense meant, it just isn't his thing.

Uphill, I am sorry you are dealing w/ an ex like you described. Keep trying. Your kids will appreciate it someday. It is unfortunate when the mothers take advantage of the fathers in some of these situations.”

“I like it, his name describes when he likes to hike. Chilly!!!!”

“Yeah, it was a pretty interesting journey. He knows how to do some serious backpackin'. He snowshoed on snow that was waist deep (he's 6'2"), he knows how to make these handy little snow shelters, it's crazy. Maybe I can get him to get on here and post about it. Even though he's way into it, I never tried it until we were apart. Now I regret that, I wish I would have gone out my first trip w/ him. The friends I went w/ turned out to be pretty big bping snobs and not very good teachers.”