Life sucks!

“Just as my eagle project is really going well and life is swell I find out that my grandfather now has allztimers. :( This is after losing both my grandmothers with in the past 2 years, and the grandfather with alztimers had collen cancer. Dang this sucks.

I haven't been on TT in a while I still have it as my home page, but I don't read it often. I love this site but it is SAT Crunch time and Eagle Project time and Spring Track time, so I'm kinda bussy.

TTYL”

“Hang in there. Spend what time you can with your grandfather. Transfer his memories to yours while you still can. My time with my Grandfather in the last days of his life are some of the most special of my life.”

“Ice, just think what Grandpa feels. Altzheimers isn't about just losing one's memory, it's debilitating health wise. It will be very hard on your whole family, especially your mom, so try to buck up a little.”

“My Grandma had that disease (altzheimers). It sucks Tea, but Pathman gives some good advice, I'd take it if I were you.

Hang in there, and good luck with the SAT's and the project.”

“Keep your head up dude.Don't give up.And be strong for your mom.

8)”

“That's rotten pal.

It must be tough to see the end coming.

Three of my grandparents were born in the 1880's and I never knew them.

My one granny was born in '01.....the previous '01.....she made it to '98.

Good luck”

“My grandmother died from a terminal illness other than alzheimers. I volunteered to help care for her after school and on weekends. It was the best time we ever spent together and I will cherish those moments always. Learn as much as you can from him while you still can and you will carry it (and him) with you for the rest of your life. Good luck Tea.”

“Hang in there Tea. The best advise has already been given above. Just try to keep as positive as you can.”

“Some of us know what you're going through. Unfortunately growing old is a fact of life, and we can be so fortunate to even make it to that period in our life. Chin up, dood, and make the best of it while you still have time.”

“My grandparents all died before I realized how important they are in our lives. One of my grandmothers died before I was born. I have some memories of my other grandparents, but listen to everyone, Tea. It won't be easy to be near someone you love who is dying, but you'll have that time forever in your heart.”

“Sorry to hear about your G'Pa. You'll be strong and be a help to everyone in your family through this, I'm sure.”

“Tea, you have my sympathy...but it may not be as bad as you imagine. My great uncle passed on last year. He was diagnosed w alzheimers two years before but had a stroke before it got real bad. He went peacefully and quickly in his home, with most of his mind and facilities about him. I will put him and your family in my prayers bud.”

“Hey Ice Tea,
I know the feeling, spend as much time with him as you can, do things that he has done all his life, even if he can't fully do then take it as far as he can go, help him like he helped you when you were young and didn't know what to do, build his confidence, encourage him, be strong for him like he was for you.....he will get strength from you and you will learn from him. Involve him in your eagle project as much as you can. (just a suggestion) tell him you need his help!”

“Tea, I lost all 4 grandparents within a year myself. It is hard, and it changes you forever....but not in a bad way. Privately cry, scream, grieve, whatever it takes. It is the time in life where you will learn that death is part of it all and sometimes not the bad part.

Hold tight to your memories, enjoy the time you have left with him. Treat him as you always did, love him, let him love you.

You'll be in my prayers kiddo!”

“Tea, never wallow in the despair and fear of death. Instead, maximize the value of life. Support your family by becoming a beacon of hope for the future. Study hard, apply yourself to the best of you ability, and savor the richness of the strong family bonds that will be with you forever.”

“Im sorry to hear about your bad news, but everyone is correct, at this point you still have time to spend with him, learn from him, and love him as much as you can.. Its a true tradgy. But this should be a lesson to everone as well, our time is short and never a garantee that tommrow will come, dont forget about everyone else. I run a towing company for accident recovery.. with some fatalities. You can never go back and tell them that you love them or even give them a last hug. I see this everyday. And it remindes me that everyday that i have is a true blessing. So use the time that you have, for you may never have the time again. I dont mean to be so brutal about this, but our lives are so busy that we think that we will just do it tommrow and then its too late. My prayers are with you and your family.”

“Grammy-winning superduo Milli Vanilli is no more! It breaks my heart to report this, but one of the members died in Germany of a drug overdose! I don't know if it was Milli or Vanilli, but whichever it was, this drug madness has got to stop. Why would someone like Milli or Vanilli, a man who had it all, turn to drugs? It just boggles the mind. I want to leave you with an impromptu prayer for the departed: Milli or Vanilli, you know it's true. Ooh, ooh, ooh, we loved you. Rest in peace, friend.

And remember, birthdays are good for you: the more you have the longer you live.”

“Teacakes, quit fussin' over those darned SATs and hang w/ yer' G'Pa! Cramming for those tests isn't going to do anything, but burn you out.”

“Wow. Good stuff here. It helps me; I buried my favorite uncle yesterday.

Tea: listen to the advice given, esp chili's.”

“I'm sorry to hear that Ice Tea. My wife and I have moved in to my wife's grandmother's house so my wife can take care of her grandmother who has alzhymers...along with taking care of our two daughters (1yr & 4yr). So I'm kind of familiar with that subject.

Like the others have said don't worry about your SATs etc. They aren't realy that important and will always be there. Spend time with him.

Realize with alzhymers that sometimes the "patient" will do some unusual and at times frustrating things. They don't do it on purpose...that has taken me a while to realize.

Hang in there! Remember there is ALWAYS a purpose for EVERYTHING that happens. The good and the "bad".”

“le Subtil,
I'm sorry to hear about your uncle as well.”

“Tea,

That sucks man. My thoughts are with you and your family.”

“I'm really sorry, Ice Tea. Do what you can to help out with your folks. I know that you will do great on your SATs.

And everyone else, I am sorry about your recent losses. It is hard to lose people from the fabric of our families. For some reason scrapbooks always make me feel better, like I captured some bright energy from those who have gone.”

“Tea, sorry to hear about you grandpa's diagnosis. Follow the advice that's been givin. Give your grandfather the gift of your time. You won't regret it. Don't sweat the SATs, you can postpone or retake them if you aren't happy with how things are going. You won't have a second chance with your grandpa.”

“Thank you all, I am going to call him every day that I can and tell him how I am doing. I know he is proud of me, I just hope that he lives to see me graduate college. I know he will be proud of me when I get my eagle as he him self being a scoutmaster back in the day.

Thank you for your advise and prairs.

BTW I got my braces off after 2 1/2 years, I love my smile now, to bad it isn't showing now.”

“It was very hard when my mom died I still am not the same yet just be strong thats all I can say.”

“Ice Tea be strong, and patient. Knowledge is power, your time together is precious and sometimes we don't realize it. You now know that it is.

My fiancee was killed 3 years and 10 months ago. It was sudden it was like going from living life to the fullest to just existing. I take solace in that we said how we felt everday. I knew how much he loved me and he knew how much I loved him... I have no regrets other than he's gone. Say it when you feel it. And LISTEN!!

Good luck.”

“Congrats on the braces! See? Every could has a silver lining, especially now that it's not on your teeth.”

“Sorry to hear the news Tea and Le Subtil.

I'm glad to hear you are going to find ways to be there for your grandfather. Alzheimer's is a long slow moving disease. Cards, visits, smiles and things like that can mean a lot. You'll see that what you can do changes over time. Calling every day may turn out to be too much, but do keep a regular and positive presence. Having the chance to do right by someone before they die doesn't keep you from getting wounded, but the wound sometimes heals a lot better for it.”

“Tea, I remember when I got my braces off. I just loved my teeth. I kept smiling at myself and looking in the mirror. WEAR those retainers, or the teeth won't look so pretty in a couple yrs.”

“Sorry to hear it Tea. I only have one gp left and some aunts and uncles. I wish I was closer to most of them. One GP set passed away early in my youth. I hardly remember my pops father, but his mom spent a year or better in our family room rack in a hospital bed and O tanks about. Nurses stopping by every few days, myself and sib's pinching in for the cause. She was eventually move to a Folk Home for better care. One evening she died moments before pops and myself arrived from a Mass. 1st. time I saw my father cry. At the impressionable age of 12. There is a certainy in death that life doesn't provide us.
I really miss papaw thought, its been 3yrs. That SOB fought like the dickens till he realized it was time. I remember him just mumbling away, stories about the past, and how the nurses were out to get him. What a coot!

Hey respect your elders!! Cherish the moment! Make memories last!”

“I have such a bad sore throught, I am coughing like crazy, and to make thing worse after going to the doctor I had to go sand down the walls for my E project. Tomorrow I have the english part of the HSPA, the same english part that I failed during the pre-test, but I don't believe I failed. Heck I have a A+ in english, there is no way that I could have really failed it. I think it is because they wanted all the students to take the remediation (my school graded the tests).”

“That sucks!

8(”

“CAn some one give me a name of a good book on Alzhtimers?? I'm looking for a book that I will give me tips to help my grandfather, and to help me understand the dises.”

“Ice - not sure of a book, but here's a weblink that may be helpful:

Alzheimer's”

“I think this is the one my wife read when she found out her father had Alzheimers Disease:

The Loss of Self : A Family Resource for the Care of Alzheimers Disease and Related Disorders
by Donna Cohen, Carl Eisdorder, Carl Eisdorfer (Contributor)”

“I've known a number of people with alzheimers. I'm convinced that it's the mind's way of coping with what is happening to one's body. It's not easy to see that happening to someone who is important to you but it just might be making their life a bit better.”

“Thanks guys”

“Here is Alzheimer's Association

Take a look.”

“Pathman, a couple of good suggestions”

“My son Chris/Prophet on myspace, had his Jeep stolen, for those of you in San Diego, please eyes out for it.

For those of you not, please prayers!!!! His job depends upon it, and ALL his worktools were in it too, two bags of them. He sunk a lot of hours of work into this Jeep.

my brother beat me to it but i thought i would say it again. y'all know what it looks like so if you see it do me a favor and kill the occupant. 1996 JEEP CHEROKEE, GREEN, LIFTED, 31" Super Swampers, GREY TUBULAR BUMPERS front and rear. it's modified beyond all reasoning so you cannot miss it. if this doesn't work out i'm out.


Why do bad things happen to the greatest kid you have? Last year someone broke into the jeep and stole all of his schoolbooks, calculator and supplies. This is my hardest working child, my most responsible one, this is the kid who pays for DSL for us, and buys us food. This is the kid who goes to Bible Study. Works and pays for his own college.”

“Insurance?”

“I'm not sure about in CA but in NC the tools would be covered under Homeowners Insurance and then because they were work tools it is scetchy.

What coverage did he have on the Jeep Pam?”

“if this doesn't work out i'm out.

What does that mean?”

“We are talking about a starving student, he only had the basic insurance, i doubt theft would be part of that. I'm out means out of his job. Those two bags of tools were for his job, plus of course the jeep was for getting to all the job sites, (and college of course).”

“Dang Pam. Didn't you say before that your other (the crapier one) kid reads trailtalk?”

“Crap!”

“Sarge!!!!!”

“none of the kids reads TT.

i did lead jersey here, he's a young man i met in myspace on the other side of the U.S. that was in need of your help. i adopt kids or they adopt me all over the place and i take them under my wing, i am "the ma", or some people call me "scout mama". i have lots of "children of the heart". NONE of them are crappy! some of them do need more loving and guidance than others.”

“crazy!!! She knows what I meant!”