Dating sucks

“Maybe some of you should look elsewhere for your happiness. Look to God first. Worry about a husband/wife later. First you need to learn what marriage is all about - hint: it's not about making you happy. Forget your selfish ways and turn to Christ.

that's my opinion - flame away”

“Who is selfish?
HPD, obviously you can tell us what marriage is NOT about, but,in your own words, what IS marriage about?
Please let your wisdom shine on you.”

“I had a girlfriend that wanted me to convert to Catholicism once. That was pretty much the end. The relationship wasn`t going to work if I had to lie to myself to stay in it.”

“I think if I am going to turn to a fictional character I would chose superman, at least he actually takes an active role in helping someone in trouble.”

“I would turn to Badman.”

“sorry for the spelling error, my bad...of course I meant Batman.”

““Rosey, I have met some nice guys via internet dating. Thats all there was to it - nice guys. End of story. I might have considered them as friends, but of course they and I were looking for something different than friendship.
On the really positive side, so far I have not run into Mr. Psycho.”
Euro hike
10:22:34 AM
11/19/09

There in lies the problem. Single women all want that exciting guy who makes their motor run, but as soon as they get them they want them to become the nice guy they had no interest in when dating.”

“I must have missed the part where someone said they are looking a relationship to make them happy.

I like God but he loves me, so its awkward when we try to date.”

“...but, but, but what is so wrong to be in a happy relationship?!”

“nothing....”

“...oh! ....okay.”

“nothing wrong with double tapping”

“Are you back in the dating scene?”

“Are you back in the dating scene?”

“Is double dating okay?”

“After going through my past year of hell, I can tell you that there is something somewhat disturbing about most of the "premier" Relationship or Marriage counselors. I began to notice most of the BEST seem to be people with the worst relationship records.

We had one clown who granted had a failed marriage, his present marriage was in and out of the toilet more than a plunger and he had some SERIOUS control issues. OKAY the solution would be "develop a relationship with God". I totally agree, but HE WAS an ordained Baptist minister.

The problem is what IS a relationship. I agree with HPD on developing a relationship with God is the beginning. The true relationship develops when both parties work together to create a better level of life together than either would have alone. This means as I work to make my partner better I become better.

Look at the best performing "groups" in the world. You often see a humility in even the perceived "leader" as to their true "superiority". They may be the lead but they realize that they truly have no value without the others.

So I guess the true relationship starts in basing yourself in a connection with a true relationship, if you have no God then you are in essence saying,"YOU are God." (LOL)

Sorry but it is true. Once you get that relationship you begin to work to make yourself better and as that grows you can finally begin to develop a relationship with others from an understanding of your own capability and humility.”

“Yes, it hasnt gone unnoticed around here that you had a hell of a year. You have been hell to be around with.

You are not going to turn that new gun against yourself, dont you?”

“Are you back in the dating scene?�

I just kinda sit around and watch...with an occassional trip to Walmart or the Red & White to spicy things up.”

“I think most of his posts have some sort of reference to his plight.”

“PMSing is not pretty.”

“PMSing??

Is that what you mean:
(from the urban dictionary) A powerful spell that women are put under about once every month, which gives them the strength of an ox, the stability of a Windows OS, and the scream of a banshee. Basically, mans worst nightmare.
OMFG! SHE HAS PMS!!! RUN FOR YOUR LIVES!!!! *explosions and screams*”

“All I need to do is date someone with tourettes and I will have covered the entire crazy spectrum.
nemster

well too bad you didnt meet me a few years ago...i have tourettes and I dont think I am too crazy...but hey..ask Chili...

When I started looking at dating as an adventure, it became alot more fun! And Hey..I met Chili not too long after that...and the fun has never ended...”

“Life with me IS and adventure.”

“*
last edited: 11/20/09 2:05:06 PM”

“Yep...everyday...”

“I was quite looking forward to my NYE date. She just bailed one me (she's sick) leaving me with event tickets, that I couldn't really afford in the first place... now, where to find a last minute date?”

“That sucks simer. At least it was a legitimate reason to bail. I got dumped on Dec. 30 a few years ago.”

“Post an ad on craigs.”

“bummer simer, been there...this will be the first NYE in like 18 years I am not "working". Will be on call but gonna go relax.”

“Go all in and hire an escort. Sometimes the only way to cut your loss is to invest deeper.”

“now you tell me....”

“So what did you do?”

“Did your male friend you decide to treat at least go down on you for the free tickets?”

“I tried to get rid of the ticket before hand, tried to find a friend, tried the cl thing, no luck anywhere. Tried to sell it at the door, too damn cold out to stand out there for too long, ended up selling it cheap to some drunk guy that wanted to stand outside and try to get more for it. Made it to the show, drank a lot, had a good time, would have been better if I wasn't so worried about how much money I had spent.”

“Ouuh. That sucks. You made the best out of the situation.
Somehow New Years parties are not my cup of tea. I love Christmas. Christmas is family time :-)”

“Oh gawd...I think it's time to give this a try. any tips? remember I am out of the loop for ages...

Not sure if I am ready for that crap, but I have to start sometime. when should I run like hell? what is a good sign?

what?????”

“He must have a job.
Must backpack.
Must have a sense of humor.

If he has small kids......run.”

“Good luck.
Actually, it may be fun - as long as you don't fall in love. Then it may suck big time.”

“I do have a couple criterias he must meet I guess.

He must spell better then me...being one of them.

I feel I am too damn old to date. oh boy.
Euro I hope it'll be fun.”

“Too old??

Get out!”

“Too old?
Nope, you're not :-)

I had a couple of dates last year. They were fun.
I didn't expect to meet the love of my life. I just wanted to get out of the house. All I was hoping for was to meet someone who was fun to talk to for a couple of hours, maybe for a walk around town, a coffee or a drink at a bar, an interesting afternoon at the museum. Sure enough, I didn't met the person I want to spent the rest of my life with, but I spent a couple of hours having nice, random conversations and doing something interesting. It was certainly better and more interesting than sitting at home, alone, bored to death with oneself and talking to people that aren't there.
So which options do you prefer: a) stay at home, alone and talk to your furniture? or b) get out of the house, doing something fun while meeting someone else, even he probably isn't going to be the one you want to spent the rest of your life with?”

“Yeah I know all about talking to the furniture. LOL
I am really dumb as hell when it comes to meeting people, so we'll see how it goes I guess.

well, I am going out with a friend of mine tonight [for the first time in YEARRSSSSSS] Not a date, not a guy. she had free tickets to a comedy club. baby steps I guess.”

“Just relax and have a good time.”

“Just don't play games.”

“What about chess?”

“he has to have more hair then you!”

“What if it's all on his butt?”