Dating sucks

“i don't know why you want to date right away anyway...Enjoy being single for a while! If you stop looking you'll find someone. Give it some time!”

“Yeah, wingding0! You go girl! That would get the "wonder how they are in bed" question out of the way.

I've never done that! ;)”

“Dang it! wingding is in CA.”

“Gemini is a smart woman.”

“Dating when its cold is good, then you have an excuse to snuggle up for warmth....wouldnt want to get hypothermia....”

“Ya know, I was just really starting to enjoy single life for the first time ever, and the dude I'm seeing right now shows up. The nerve of him! Ruining the great life of a bachelortte I had going!”

“When I was about 33, I dated a woman who was 45. We met up at the college in the fitness center. Man, was she in shape! It only lasted a few months because she got into grad school in another state. I think the youngest woman I've ever dated, relative to my age, was about 29 when I was 35.”

“aero dated a relative?”

“We're all related up here in MT. Newgirl's actually my niece!”

“Ewker, I agree with .....

someone who said

"Don't date a twit".

Other than that, use it before you lose it, but keep the germs separate.”

“hikerchic - I tried online personals a few years back - it seemed like the guys didn't even read what I was looking for before responding.

I don't like all the formality of dating. I just want someone I can be comfortable with.”

“Seems to me, the best place to start is with a friend.

I spent many years focused on the wrong things. I believed my eyes, when it was my mind, and my heart I should have listened to. Goes with the turf, I guess. Age, I mean. When you're young, perhaps the hormonal overtones are so strong, they overpower the wisdom which comes far too late as we age. But as I've aged - and I can only speak for myself - I've come to realize that some of the friendships I've made have far more substance than the initial lust I might feel when I see someone "attractive", and think I could have a great relationship just because she's "pretty", "cute", or whatever.

While I can't say I've completely outgrown the lust issue - and I'm not really interested in eliminating that from the criteria list - I've come to accept the fact that many of the friendships I have with women could be very interesting and satisfying relationships that include romance. And I look at these possibilities as far more probable successes that spotting some babe at a bar, and taking aim.

I dunno. Perhaps I've been single too long. But I like to think I've reached a level of maturity that allows me to see with far more than my eyes. That's what I'm looking for. Oddly, it's still hard to find.”

“One out of three ain't bad. As long as we, as men, realize that women have no earthly idea what they want.... and accept that fact, and are willing to deal with any of the above (post title), then we shall overcome.


I feel your pain Obi!”

“get used to being ALONE!!! I am now just getting used to it. Alone is ok, lonely is destructive. This mangey bunch of psychopathetic people here on TT are a great source of companionship. Get a dog and buy a canoe...I hope your getting alimony, and not paying it.

See ya on the trail this fall/winter, I hope.”

“A couple of thoughts:

Being single doesn't mean that you are alone.

I do agree that you must be satisfied with yourself before you can be happy in a relationship.”

“Love, Lust, Maturity
"One out of three ain't bad. As long as we, as men, realize that women have no earthly idea what they want.... and accept that fact, and are willing to deal with any of the above (post title), then we shall overcome"--Buddha Bear


This woman knows exactly WHO AND WHAT she wants. Ewker, don't listen to him. Just remember the words "Come here,baby. You know what I want!" and you'll be awright. LOL
I'll let you know how this weekend goes when I gits back. I feel wild!!!!!!”

“A couple of bad relationships and you'll be glad to be alone.

Seriously, I've had three "This is going no where" relationships and two bad relationships. The two bad ones make me realize how nice it is to be alone. Being happy alone makes it easier to be patient for the ultimate friend and lover. Of course, death is much more appealing and with my luck, I'll live to be 90 years old. JUST KIDKING! Being alone isn't so bad. :)”

“Back from my weekend date. REeeeoww! I've got 2 options for school tomorrow. 1) Wear a turtleneck or 2)Recite my mantra "Oh what the heck, Go for it any-way!" and just forget the turtleneck and then everyone will KNOW what a hussey I am. LMAO
White traysh, no account, floozey.
Twas a fun weekend that included romance out on the highland rim of TN,bike rides, waterfalls, gorgeous sunsets, quiet forests, smooching, boinking, and more boinking. Ain't nothing wrong with dating in my book.”

“Sorry, being married is not the same as dating.”

“Sorry, Dana. Artex is correct: Not Dating.


So, it's Sunday afternoon... where are all the sucky date stories from over the weekend? Still nursing your hangovers?

LOL”

“I got stood up :( but had fun with my friends anyway”

“Yer just po'd cuz I got more than my money's worth by getting a combination hubby/boyfriend. Life is good.”

“Friday - The "set-up". It didn't happen, we got rained out, but i ran into a hottie that used to bartend at a wine bar that I used to go to.....Daddy got digits.

Saturday - Went out with my brother's sister-in-law(we're friends), and her fine looking friend from Columbus. We got along well, but her favorite movie was "Amelie"! Yikes!

Sunday - Read Artex's book "Pimp Like Me". Great read, many tips.”

“Daddy got digits.

So how is your thumb and her four sisters?





hehehehee”

“overworked.

lol!”

“rothl! Lizs, I'm glad you are here to clear up the "Daddy got digits" thing!

BB, I'm sure that the reason you just got digits is YOU REFER TO YOURSELF AS DADDY! Haven't you learned from Rob's mistakes?! lol”

“The Godfather never makes mistakes.”

“I was taken out to a VERY nice dinner at a fancy restaurant, then back to his place to jump in the hot tub. :) Sunday, he took me to church (we wanted to see who would be struck down by lightening first), then went for a ride on his motorcycle and grabbed some lunch.

As of today, dating is OK in my book too. :)”

“Obi wan, I understand exactly what you're saying. I wish I could find a guy whom I'm friends with first and then have it turn into something beautiful. Actually it did not too long ago but then he ended up going back to his ex. So, geez, what do you do?

Although for me, I meet nice responsible guys, good looking guys, guys friends set me up with because they think we would be perfect together, but then for some reason, the chemistry is just not there for me. I can't help it. I can say that I want a guy that is this or that but I need them to knock my socks off too! Is there anyone out there that can do that? Maybe I'm too picky. But I've tried liking these so called perfect guys for me but they don't do anything for me.

And I'm not lonely either....just single and alone! I'm happy too. Just would like someone to share that happiness with, you know what I mean?”

“I don't really remember the weekend. I know that my band played a show at the UW on Thursday and I had 5 empty kegs at my house this morning...no dates/phone numbers for me, but I slept in my front yard so I guess I kind of went camping. Rock and Roll!!! Owwwww”

“Ah, to be young again...”

“You're v lucky there Dana - I get in no end of trouble when I try to combine wife/girlfriend.”

“Disqualified
"Sorry, being married is not the same as dating."
Artex
05:16:02 PM
09/21/03


"Sorry, Dana. Artex is correct: Not Dating.




LOL"
Tilt
05:46:25 PM

I think you are both wrong.

us marrired folks can still go on hot dates!! having sex after the hot date is not always guaranted...something to do with "to drunk to ****" thing.”

“Who's the stick in the mud, Y? The wife or the girlfriend?

There's a simple solution, regardless of which one it is: Another girlfriend!”

“they're both selfish witches.... if they really loved me ;o)”

“lol...might I suggest two new girlfriends then? lol...”

“lol Bit - you can do this... I never knew!”

“Only if you live in California...”

“go to utah and get 2 wives.”

“I can't think of anything scarier maple ;o)”

“you knucklehead. jeez.”

“I hear ya on the "too drunk for sex" thing. I have heard it can be a problem, but somehow I've never gotten that drunk. hahaha!
Mr. LoverLover always seems to talk the poor little lush into "c'mere little girl, I got this really cool trick to show ya!"
what a guy!”

“My wife and I double dated with an old buddy of mine and his wife. This is a friend that I've known since 5th grade. We were close friends in high school, but went our separate ways since then. I talked to him at our 30th reunion, and we've been hanging out as a foursome since then. It is a lot of fun to reconnect with an old friend. His wife is great and has become fast friends with my wife.
Just reporting that our double date on Sunday night went very well. Dating can be a good thing.”

“lol.... however, again>>!!MARRIED!!

sheesh... I think you "marrieds" are really longing for a date, despite how miserable we tell you it can be (excepting smileygirl and her hot tub fun... repenting at church the next day??? lol!)”

“Lizzy, as I've stated on this thread a long time ago, I sympathize with the singles. I never particularly liked dating, but I like having a relationship. One of my daughters is going through the gauntlet of the dating game and has found some losers. I tell her to try to meet as many people as she can, and in the right places. It worked for me.
Confessing the day after can also be fun.”

“Its true. I admit it. I do not like the single scene and at this point in my life, I'm sure I'd like it less. Married "dating" is a fun as heck way to keep the spice & spontaneity in marriage. Boot the youngsters out to friends for the weekend and go for it. I'd be scared to death if I had to go thru the dating thing again. I feel like I'm 1) more naive now than I was at 17 and 2) too set in my ways to cope among other things. I do feel for the single set just remembering some of the turkeys I dated before and watching my kid go thru it at 16. Not for me. I guess I prefer the spice of dating with the security of marriage and the love that goes with it. So I guess that does disqualify us marrieds on that front.”

“Dana & Dunny. It sounds like you folks found good mates, realized the what you had, and took the appropriate measures.

Many of the people complaining about how dating sucks on here who are female, had what you had at one time, and dumped it becuase of lack of fortitude, or the thought of something better. It's true, and I have no sympathy for them. They deserve what they get, and the "where's my prince charming" gamit is old, stale, and a disguised plea to right their mistake.

The nice guys are gone, good luck coming to terms with reality.”

“I finally caved into my stalker. NIce gal, I've known her for close to 10 yrs. BUT I'm really not in the mood to pursue this any further than it has already has gone.
I made a grave error while pillow talkin'. She took it like a champ and admitted to admiring my 'brutal honesty' about us.”

“although liz is berating us married folks, she's never explained WHY she had to move to another state. Protection, avoidance or what from Iowans?

Come on liz, what are you running from? lol”

“Noooop, noooooop.... If ya got the papers on 'em, it's just Two Old Married Folks creaking around the neighborhood, LOL”