Dating sucks

“sunshine-
What's "TDH"?

Tie Dyed Hippy
Totally Dangerous Hombre


They say nice guys finish last.

I think some girls/women are attracted to "outlaw" dude.

The trouble with that is that they are hittin' on every girl willing to give them the time of day.

These guys are thinkin'......."if I hit on ten, I'm bound to get one"
Watch out for the "Ten Percenters".

BigFoot-
Day-um, boy!
That's livin' the blues.

It could be worse.
You could be livin' country music!
Ya know, cheatin', beatin', etc”

“They say nice guys finish last.

I think some girls/women are attracted to "outlaw" dude.

Isn't that the truth!

But, nice guys stay the course and finish strong!”

“Sometimes I can't help but think that people are just no damn good, but before long I'm my old cheerful self once more.


Some thoughts on the subject at hand from my collection...


"Men think that women like guys who are dangerous. As a result, guys will often smoke cigarettes, drink too much, and ride a motorcycle without a helmet. Women don't like guys who are dangerous. Women want us to think that because women are trying to kill us.

Dennis Miller
(courtesy of AmyG)



"There's no education in the second kick of a mule."

Senator Earnest 'Fritz' Hollings
D - South Carolina



"It is impossible to love and to be wise."

Francis Bacon



"Whatever was required to be done, the Circumlocution Office was beforehand with all the public departments in the art of perceiving HOW NOT TO DO IT.

Charles Dickens
Little Dorrit. Book ii. Chap x.



"Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk."

His Holiness Tenzin Gyatso
the 14th Dalai Lama of Tibet



"You know, Hobbes, some days even my lucky rocketship underpants don't help."

Calvin



But above all,

AMOR VINCIT OMNIA”

“(and The WorldWideWeb Acronym and Abbreviation Server drew a blank on 'TDH')”

“The reason dating sucks more when you're are older is that most women you will meet have kids. Now your dealing not only with her, but her kids and many times her ex husband which in most cases try to make life miserable for each other. They have a hard time doing anything or going anywhere and are generally miserable with their own situation. You start getting the feeling like your cleaning up someone else's mess. Dating on this level is a whole different thing and many times is the ultimate pain in the A$$.”

“Rich, my brother said sort of the same thing, that he didn't mind the kids, he loves kids, but he wanted to date a woman who was happy with herself and her life.”

“I'm not saying I mind kids. I like them and worked with them for years. It's the stress between the adults involved that's the problem. It's extremely difficult if not impossible to find a women in this situation that is happy with herself and her life, let alone the other qualities that people here are seeking.”

“TDH=Tall, dark and handsome.”

“I think dating is great. A nice dinner at Chez Phillipe, blues and dancing at B.B. King's Palace on Beale Street, a late night drive along Riverside with the Moon softly shimmering across the Mississippi. A glass of wine for a nightcap.

And at my age, you don't have to play a lot of games.”

“hehe..it is tru nice guys finish last....it's the ones that finish first you gurls don't like..*man i'm on it today*”

“As a male, I must disagree...Dating does NOT suck, provided you quit looking for a date!...

Follow me here; quit looking, get back to your life and make it YOUR life, establish a routine, get happy with yourself and the life you have created...THEN AND ONLY THEN you will have something to offer a date besides dinner and a movie....

When you have reached this plateau...love will walk up and tap you on the shoulder when you least expect it.”

“Big Foot, imho you've gotta get over it before you move on. Most say find someone new to get over someone old, but I think that you miss that time you need to get "yourself" back. All that you lost of yourself in the name of compromise.

rich, all those women who have kids have an ex who has the same kids, so women have to deal with it as well.

I can't agree with you more Lyndy, it's hard to find the same in a guy - one who isn't lonely and miserable without someone in his life.

Recently a friend of mine asked me if I would meet her neighbor and I agreed. He's a registered Maine Guide, loves the outdoors, hikes, bikes, etc...
So we sat at the bar one night, me with one ear listening to the pompous ass talk about himself, and the other ear listening to my friends laughing and having a great time. I'm too old to waste my time, so I tuned him out...right after he tried to impress me by confessing to stealth camping on Katahdin, claiming that it wasn't hurting anything. JERK. Had a blast with my friends that night. Having the best time of my life right now, and not lookin' to ruin it.”

“I agree with Super Troll 100%.”

“Dating was much more interesting after I got divorced after a brief and painful marriage. It seemed like women came out of the woodwork when you had some sort of "history". I really enjoyed it for awhile.

Now I'm re-married and my wife frowns on that sort of thing!”

“Yah I meet women I'd like to date all the time. So far, my wife has said no.”

“I agree with supertroll, too. That's how I met my wife. We just kept running into each other doing the things we liked to do. One day we went backpacking together and I asked her to marry me. What could she say? We were 8 miles into the wilderness and I was carrying the food.”

“bitpusher..ya..your wife said no to me also *shrugs and runs!!*...ok time to do some work..laterz~”

“I married my high school sweetheart at the age of 20 (21 years in August). We go on dates as often as possible with two children still home to take care of.

Dating does NOT suck.”

“I used to enjoy it. My wife made me stop that one too.”

“I kept running into my husband too. He just about had to hit me over the head before I realized that he wanted to date me. Of course he couldn't just ask....that would have been risky, right? Don't complain about games unless you aren't playing them too. We went on a date and I told my Mom afterwards that he was the man I was going to marry. I was 25. How did I know that he was the one? For one thing, he dropped the game playing and behaved like his own goofy self on our date. We had a lot of fun. Be honest, be yourself.”

“Sh-uh! You should try being married and dating! It's hard work!




















Joke!”

“Every once in a great while I find myself out on a date, but it seems like a lot of work. I figure that eventually someone will come along that makes me smile while I'm out enjoying life.

Let's forget about being depressed about dating and go backpacking.”

“My most memorable date:
The Webster County Beef Queen!”

“I had a guy tell me on our 1st date that he was not paying for every meal. Plain out told me if we dated I was paying for half of everything. And he made 2x what I did!

Anyway, after the initial shock, I agreed. I would hate to be the guy and feel used.”

“SuperTroll is right.

When I was single, over twenty years ago, I disliked dating.

I decided that I had to be happy with myself.......not like THAT nigal!

It just kinda happened.

I too see a lot of women whom I would like to date.
My wife just isn't cool about that though.”

“"I decided that I had to be happy with myself.......not like THAT nigal!"

LOL! To quote the great Rue Paul, "If ya can't 'love' yoself, how the hell ya gonna 'love' someone else?"”

“The worst place I ever took a date:

The all-night "Planet of the Apes" film festival at the drive-in.”

“Okay, Aero, maybe you can take "being yourself" just a tad too far.”

“hey, the popcorn was free!”

“Is Charlton Heston YOUR president?

Women are like capitalists......they control the means of (re)production.

aero-
Was that some kinda "joke" date?”

“Why was that so bad, aero? Somewhere in the middle of the fourth one, you realize it really sucks and it's time for some serious window-fogging...”

“Tom-all my dates seemed to think I was a joke!”

“aero-
"Short and painful marriage"??

I suppose that beats the $hit out of a long and painful marriage.”

“To be treated like a girl?

I just wanted someone to go backpacking with!

lol. The only thing that sucks about dating is telling my Mom for the millionth time 'nope, it didn't work out.' Everything else I can deal with.

Sunshine, sorry to hear your dude dumped you. He had potential too. Didn't he send you flowers?”

“JUst get an inflatable date. You can store her on a shelf in the closet when you are done and she doesn't say anything to P1ss yoy off.”

“I lost my ASSets too. But I was young enough that it wasn't too bad.”

“aero-
Both cheeks?

biz-
Do women REALLY like flowers?
Or does it just seem like frivilous a$$-kissing?

Personally, I dislike flattery.”

“Sunshine, if your looking for TDU, I'm your man. Sorry to hear about your broken heart. If you ever posted about it, I missed it. I hope it was long ago and far away, not recently.

It's been a year since I broke off my engagement. It still hurts a bit, but dating doesn't have to suck. Meeting a nice woman can be hard. "Two prospects you had going", Artex? You trying to pick up women in bars? That's a low percentage proposition. Trying to pick up women at a women's golf tournament or softball game probably isn't your best bet either.

Years ago, I had a girlfriend who got me into ballroom dancing. When we broke up, I had a great time. Knowing how to dance, and going to dances, can be a great way to meet women. Dancing, especially Latin dancing, can be a great icebreaker. I was in my late 30's and getting hit on by 21 year old girls. That's great for the ol' esteem even if I gave up 21 year old girls many moons ago. I always prefered dating women who were older than I. Women get much more interesting as they get older.”

“Hey arclite, try church, the women always outnumber the men. ;-)”

“But after reading this thread I realize it could be a lot worse. At least I've never had to say
'nope, I found out he's married.'
or 'nope, he's into Planet of the Apes Mom.'

:P






j/k aero”

“Do women REALLY like flowers?

yes. don't ask too many questions.

Do men REALLY like uhm, never mind.”

“Laugh all you like biz, but I bet that girl is still talking about that date years later!”

“Ü”

“Bad date turn into great stories. Like the guy I got set up with who told me about his sinus surgery within the first 1/2 hour I met him. Guys, don't tell a lady about the time you had a needle go up your nose....”

“I suppose my tale about having my gall bladder out is verboten too, eh?”

“I never had a problem with a date that sucked.”

“Ever walk away from a date feeling lucky it didn't go well?

I had a date this past year, where the guy took me to the shooting range. He wips out this high powered rifle, no kidding, I think it was barely legal. We tear up a couple targets. On the drive back home he keeps saying things like 'but that was when I was younger, don't worry I got that out of my system.'

Thank God my womanly charm wasn't working that day. I'm glad I didn't opt to apply the camo face paint when he offered. He might still be calling!”

“arc, I agree that women get much more interesting as they get older. I have been dating (that term seems sort of archaic now that I thing about it) someone who is a couple of years older than me. I find her to be a very intersting person to be around. As she is a Director for Human Resources for a major corporation, her experience in the "corporate" world has been very beneficial in helping me to transition from the private practice of law to Fortune 500 America. I do not think I could relate to someone several years younger than myself for a long period of time.”

“Then again, it would have been nice to have my own little militia family.

babyBiz, drops bombs on the bad guyz
Biz Jr, a pro with the numchucks”

“No flies on you, Scully! :)”