Dating sucks

“snafu29 - Congrads.... be strong...abusive women tend to get even more abusive.
Be prepared to be accused by her of abuse toward the kids and herself.
Protect yourself and don't give in to her!”

“Hey, it's just common sense.

You think she's gonna call? Change your phone number and make it unlisted.

You think she's gonna come by? Move.

You think she's gonna visit you at work? Make sure your boss knows about the situation first, before she shows up, so the boss knows what to expect.

You think she might go completely off her rocker and try to attack you and she's threatened as much? Get a restraining order.

It's not rocket science, people, come on.”

“Thanks Dewd,
I sure hope it does not get to that!
I know her X hubby moved from NY all the way to Florida.
The whole time we went out, she always said it was his fault, but I kept thinking why would a guy move so far away from 3 beautiful children?? As time went on, I learned he was a decent guy, his ways where not the same as mine, but he was not a bad person.
So that made me wonder about her....And I found out the TRUTH...
I do have some documentation and Psychologist bills, meatal health bills , rehab bills, and other stuff....I have a folder with all that stuff in it...
I truly hope I don't need it...

I won't move, I had my first only house built 10 years ago and there is no way I'm leaving because of her...I love my home, I have too much heart and soul in it..
There is always Barbed Wire...lol
Where I live, we don't have local police in our town due to we have a NY state troopers barracks there.
I grew up with 3 of them and graduated with 2 of them, also a Sheriff too, They have been over a few times when she would get totally Drunk and hauled off in a ambulance to the De-tox unit in the hospital. So they have seen her in action. One time her dad literly had to sit on her and restrain her til they got there. So the cops know the situation.
I have changed my locks on my doors and I got a cell phone and use my home phone for the computer only. I blocked her IM name.

I've had her cat for over a year and don't know what the hell to do with it.... I like the cat, it is a cool cat, I'm not really a cat person, but I don't wanna see the thing end up some where crummy and my dogs like the cat too...
I also have just a few things of hers, she has not claimed them in over a year and I have asked her to pick em up or I could bring them over, I guess I never did it and she never asked, due I thought we would get back together after her rehab and she porlly figured it was a good link to me if she needed....
Should I mail em, or take them to her dad's or something, maybe burn em...lol Not the cat though!!!”

“"I just need to relax and keep busy."

LMAO! Which is it?

Be strong, snafu!”

“Take them to her dad's if he's willing to be the go-between. Give her back the cat too, if it's hers. Anything of hers that you have is an excuse for her to visit.

If the dad isn't willing, box the stuff up and leave it on her front porch while she's at work.”

“SG...LOL
It's relaxes me to stay busy, hence keeps my mind off sh1t...LOL

Bit,
Her dad is cool, I will take it to him have him sign off on it for legal purposes too...lol

PS
She does not work has never had a real job in her life and only a few part time ones that last tops 6 months.

PSS
I know there are 2 sides to every story too, I will say I'm not a perfect angel all the time I get selfish about stuff I wanna do or Stubborn about things.
I do my best to never lie, I always forgive people, And I will always work hard for the ones I love and Friends to be happy.
See I'm already starting blame myself......LOL

Ya know!
DATING (Relationships gone bad) SUCKS !”

“I have determined that dating...indeed sucks and that cyber and phone sex RULES!!!”

“stikmon,
When I get home I wll send you a couple of Freeby sights my buddy's recently sent me...”

“Had a similar experience last night. Finally kinda blew my stack and told her off. Afterwards, I felt like total #&%!$ and really broke down.

But today?? I feel LIBERATED! I really needed to just cut the cords and walk away from a miserable situation.

I'll feel even better tomorrow when I leave for my Thanksgiving Backpacking Trip!

Good luck.

Dating sucks!!!

You think we qualify for membership in the HMWH club now?”

“Roam Around, you doing ok.”

“Doing good man. Had a bit of a breakdown after a very emotional evening; but it has passed.

Wolfeyes is an angel.

I'm looking forward to a new life.”

“good for you, glad you got things worked out. We all go through those things. I am going through a tough time myself.”

“Good luck to ya. If I can help in any way, give me a shout.”

“If you wanna talk dudes email me your number and I will give ya a call. I have free Long distance on my cell and free minutes after 7pm. My Buddy is going through a sh1tty divorce too, so we have been bouncing stuff and leaning on each other for a couple months now.
I'm here for ya anyone else who has having tuff times....”

“snafu, you on Yahoo messenger or AIM”

“AIM

"OGBMF"”

“HUGS......relationships can be soooo hard.......and dating sucks.....oh wait....I never have dates......oh well.......LOL.....”

“You wanna catch a movie together sometime?”

“roam around, who are ya? did you recently change names? just curious as you came out of nowhere but yet know quite a few peeps.”

“I thought I wanted a boyfriend for Christmas, I almost posted on Santartex's thread. Whew, close call. Just kiddin'

I am glad that you finally did what you needed to do. Good luck with moving on. It's so hard but we have faith in you.”

“I've only been hanging around here for about four weeks, I've just been fairly active and met a few folks at the Mr. Rogers washout a couple of weekends ago.”

“wow.......sure Roam...would love to......what time ya picking me up????”

“around 8:00 friday nite good?”

“Cool Roam! Thanks for clearing that up. Oh yeah, welcome.”

“Thanks Rock! Hey I checked out your website, Nice! Very well done.

Is there going to be a Sierrapalooza 2004?”

“Roam, thanks about the site. I don't care for it much anymore. I have a redesign on my comp that is ready to be uploaded when I finish working with some pics.

Next years "Sierrapalooza" is called the "Wind-O-Ramo". It's on the trips page.

There is also a nice Sierra trip next summer called "South Lake to North Lake via Lamarck Col". Its gonna be groovy! Put your name down!”

“Just saw the Wind-O-Rama trip, it looks cool.

Been wanting to get out West for a couple of years now. Maybe this summer will be the time.”

“Friday @8 ok...I get off work at 7.....”

“snafu - In Braveheart, do you remember what happened to him after he yelled freedom?”

“and Braveheart didn't wear underwear :0”

“sometimes life sucks and then you wake up to a new day on a new trail with a new tent and before you know it a new tent mate. Then again sometimes life just sucks and you wake up to a rainy day on a muddy trail, the tent leaks and you realize that the reason you have a new tent mate, you forgot your bear canister. Good Luck to you all.”

“LOL..hahahahaahha......too cute......LOL.....”

“Dating is great - especially when he cooks Thanksgiving dinner and does the dishes after dinner.”

“Must be nice, Wingding!! (we missed seeing ya yesterday)”

“I missed you guys too!”

“Found a domesticated one?”

“yes - he's domesticated, but now can I get him out on the trail”

“Wingding0-does he have a brother? Sounds great-your a lucky girl!”

“Why does there have to be the weird, "guys don't call right away" waiting period? If they like me and they are soooo interested, why the hell don't the call right away? It is the lamest game.”

“I agree - it is a silly game - do people play this so as not to seem too eager?

Newgirl - if he is a nice guy - then for you I hope he calls :)”

“Financial concerns could be one reason, like waiting for the next paycheck, which is already committed. So when's the next paycheck? Now there's this worry about a pending layoff, cutback or downsizing.

Medical might be another reason. There might be a rash or sore spot that he does not want to expose, as he thinks, "it should be gone soon."

How 'bout a car problem, something that needs fixing?

Scheduling problems, maybe. I was going to call My Old Flame on Thanksgiving Day. I remembered in the morning, but forgot when I went out. (I have to find a telephone. I cancelled my telephone to get rid of telemarketing and chariety drive calls and some others.)

There could have been a change in his priorities.

Shyness, afraid of rejection! Good looking girls can cause some men to be afraid to call. I once got a girl's recording machine. Her voice was so sexy on the machine, I did not leave a message or call again. I decided that she was out of my league.

Don't fret. When Mr. Right comes along, he'll call.”

“Why does there have to be the weird, "guys don't call right away" waiting period? If they like me and they are soooo interested, why the hell don't the call right away? It is the lamest game."
newgirl
09:23:02 PM
11/29/03
ignore this user

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"I agree - it is a silly game - do people play this so as not to seem too eager?

Newgirl - if he is a nice guy - then for you I hope he calls :)"
Twinks
09:27:56 PM
11/29/03

If the guy doesn't call you the next day, and he prenteds he's all interested, he's a tool. If you still go out with him after he calls you 2-3 days later, you're a tool. If he calls you the next day, and you post on TT that you have a stalker, you just lied to us.

Have fun dating, I know I am. :)”

“I woke up to a rainy day, the trail was muddy, I didn't have a tent to leak but I got wet and I lost my tent mate. If you have his number you can always call him. Some times there is miscommunication and a relationship may be missed because people don't talk or ask questions. Good Luck”

“They should call you after they drop you off from the first date to let you know that they got home safe.”

“I usually wait 2-3 days, it's pretty much SOP for guys when it comes to dating. There are exceptions, but that's a general rule across the board.”

“newgirl - I haven't dated for 30 years, but when I did I found that some girls didn't like it when you were too eager right away.

I was very shy and always struggled to call a girl I had just met. It relaxed me a lot when a girl gave me some sort of encouragement...even if it was not very much.

That reminds me of something that happened to me in college that seems funny now: I met a girl and dated her a couple times. I liked her and wanted to give her a special necklace. I called up to ask her out for a Saturday night. She said she wouldn't mind going out with me again, but she "liked to keep her Saturday nights open in case something came up." Needless to say I never saw her again.”

“I don't think guys look too eager when they call right away - it just makes it seem like they are interested in another date.”

“wingding - Probably not good for me to generalize...plus that was 30+ years ago. I had my best luck getting dates when the girl thought I wasn't desperate (NOT that I was ever desperate...LOL).”

“I've been planning on staying out of any such scene for at least a yr., but a few of you on the board told me not to be too stuck in that. So, HE CALLED, and we are going to see each other, but take it veeeeeery slow. And, Buddha, I totally told him that he was tool and the "don't call too soon" game is lame! LOL! BTW, I've known him since we were about 5, so I can call him a tool and he's fine w/ it.”

“Ok, question time:
Some of you know from other threads(get up, betting thread, the city) that me and my g/f are quite serious, I love her more than anything and I am very happy.

The question involves her brother, who would basically be her father figure in this picture. He's quite protective of her and very stubborn. I've had one conversation with him where he granted me permission to have sex and that he was happy for us, since then, with the ballet and everything and the decisions involved he's been trying to break us apart. According to my friend(Mauler), who is close friends with him "he fuking hates" me. He's afraid that I'm taking his little sister away from him, he doesn't get as much time with her as he used to and he's been trying to break us apart. This guy could kill me, and probably get away with it too, I don't see that happening, but I'd like to know what to do, should I talk to him? what should I say? should I let her handle him? I've never been in this situation, all the girls I've ever been with's parents have always loved me...”