Dating sucks

“wuss!”

“In that respect yes. Although if it was really that irresistable, I'd find a way. Just like rappeling. I just took that step off the ledge even though I was terrified.”

“dhutch, jeeez, you ARE irresistable, what the heck are you talking about?

It always bewilders me when the honies are so modest!”

“Thank you BB you made my day.”

“now let me make your night babe.....






and Briar says I'm not a closer!”

“Hmmmm... what did I do wrong? I'm not finding it. (That's why I need an editor) Was it the "hard time" comment?

Picture Austin Powers saying, "Edit me, baybee!!"”

“"easily-skeert chicks right away"

I'm just yanking your chain lizs. I'm looking forward to meeting you in Ocala.”

“skeert = cross between scared and skirt (You've heard of losing your shirt? This could be a gal who is so scared she's losing her SKIRT!! In other words, any guy's dating dream!)

LOL! (I just made that up, but not bad, eh??)

Looking forward to meeting you, too, dhutchie!”

“Whoa, dam# you startled me, my skirt just flew off! lol”

“Single ladies of the world, unite! You have nothing to lose but your skirts!”

“I'm over here eating lunch and you guys are cracking me up!

Aaaahhh to all the husbands who said their wives make them a better man. That's really nice.

dhutch, be like Nike.......just do it!

lizs, I agree with you that more women play games than guys.

buddha bear, you seem like a really nice guy and that girl didn't show you any respect on that last date. I wonder if she was testing you. Have you asked yourself what you're looking for in a person? Take it from an experienced dater...eh um...think back on past dates. What type of person works for you and what doesn't. When you meet a person who doesn't, don't waste your time. Move on. That's what I've done lately and I tell ya, I feel so much more in control of my life. Oh gosh, is this too deep? I'm taking the fun out of this thread aren't I? Had to put my .02 cents in!

Carry on happy thread!”

“Yes, carry on! I think the gals were just going to create a term for when a man gets so scared his trousers fly off.”

“Skeerdy-pants?”

“Ooo, here's an even better one!

Nigal-fied!”

“"Whoa, dam# you startled me, my skirt just flew off! lol"

dhutch1
02:39:11 PM

BOO! YOU WERE SKEERT!!”

“trouserfied?
scaredypants?

naked?
acting?”

“Honestly, baby, I was so scared my pants came off...and then she got so scared her skirt came off...and then, well, nature took it's course...”

“LOL!

I think that "skeerdy pants" works”

“Maybe you could market those.
Hey baby, look I just bought you this cool new outfit. Oh, yeah the pants, they are the latest trend. Yeah, that's it.”

“BB, she only has a 1 yr old you should try dating a chic errr woman with a 15 yr daughter that jokingly screams 'You're not my father' in public places.

Oh, btw, you seriously don't intend to use that line do you? Any time you need a shotgunner let me know.”

“BB - should take it as a clue that after a month, spending time with you has fallen behind watching a TV show.
Bad manners at best, no respect for your time at worse. Ditch the #&%!$.”

“I received a resounding apology last night. I guess I need to begin adapting to females in dating situations again. Oh brotha!”

“Watch out for the waxing and wanning. Bad sign if this happens again!!”

“Sounds like she's testing you. People with lousy self-esteem do this kind of thing all the time. "Will he/she stay with me even if I treat him/her like crap?" Eventually they either find someone with similar self-esteem issues and get into a co-dependant relationship, or the person with decent self-esteem gets tired of it and dumps them, thereby reinforcing the dumpee's self-esteem problem.”

“BB-

You are losing sight of the big picture my friend.


Let's try to sharpen the focus of this rambling incoherent whine-fest.


How's the sex? Everything flows from there.

It's been a month. You are trying to weigh whether to gut this out. Answer: How's the sex?\

If you haven't gotten any . . .go elsewhere .. . it ain't worth the headgames (no pun intended).

If you've gotten some . .but it is lukewarm . ..stick it out (no pun intended) until you find something better.


If it is hot . . .accept the apology over a raunchy make up sesion . ..still keep your radar out for 1) further pendulm swings and 2) other hot chicks.

Always remember BB . . .at the core of the matter . . .


Its always about sex.”

“Lee really cuts to the heart of the matter.

Is the sex good enough that her behavior is worth putting up with? If so, more power to you, but you will probably get tired of the bull#&%!$ after a while.

You could use her misbehaving to your advantage, of course. When you think you're close to being done with her, after she is really really bad one night, during her miserable begging for forgiveness, think of a cute friend she has and ask if she can arrange a threesome. That way, you're either out of the relationship without the nasty, drawn-out "Will you please please take me back?" BS, or, bingo, two chicks at once!”

“Where's Paris and Nicole when you need them????!?”

“On TV, saying they'd rather spend a night with Brad Pitt than have world peace, lol...”

“Run away, BB....run! Don't look back. The chances that this will get worse...and possibly much worse are very good. Run for your life!”

“Oh come on skiracer, don't you want to read about the further hijinks of Buddha Bear and this woman?

Do take skiracer's advice if it looks like you have a chance of ending up in the morning paper, however...”

“Never do anything that you wouldn't want to see reported in the front page of the newspaper.

I forgot who said that but bitpusher reminded me of that. It is a good rule to remember. Not that it really applies to Buddha Bear's question, but whatever. People are irrational. You could always move to Planet Spock.”

“I like bitpusher's take on things BB.”

“Get it now BB.

Have sex while you can.


Buddha. I am wise. You are . . .well...shut up and listen.


You are wondering: Is this the right girl? Is there a future? Will this woman one day bear my litttle buddhas?

My fear is that you would answer these questions "NO" and then see it as cause to break off.

Listen closely . .this is counter intutive.

If the woman is NOT the right woman . . .then you MUST stay with her.


Let me repeat.

If the woman is NOT the right woman . . .then you MUST stay with her.

Why?? you ask in dumbfounded amazment.


BECAUSE ONCE YOU ARE MARRIED YOU WILL HAVE SEX VERY INFREQUENTLY, ALMOST NEVER. AND ONCE YOU HAVE A KID . . . .IT IS NEVER.

The "wrong" woman is right for this situation. You can poke the wrong woman for a long time, and then worry about finding a woman with whom you can settle down and never have sex with again.

There is plenty of time NOT to have sex in your life. Now is not the time to stop having sex. Go and have sex Buddha. Go now. Do it for the team.”

“I am most certainly a team player (unless certain teammates piss me off), and take your outstanding advice to heart Lee.

However, I also take what LyndyS, bitpusher, Q, Roam Around skiracer (finally, after 2+ years we can connect on something), and lizs have said.

Here is what it boils down to my fellow bunnies (Fatal Attraction Reference), I, Buddha Bear, being of sound mind, and rejecting all things that would lead me down the wrong path sexually (unless Reese Witherspoon was involved), hereby vow to make the right decision regarding sex, females, and the impact the latter may have upon the HMWH Club, and my backpacking agenda. Please trust my judgement fellow males.


This girl is pretty cool. On our first date, the sparks flew. Naturally, I was myself (Backpacker BB as Lizs would say). At the end of our first date, I gave the girl a nice handshake. She, in turn, shook my hand real hard. I immidiately stated...... whoa, I'm a single guy and need that hand, please be careful!

Most women would:

a: slap me
b: not get it
c: look at me weird
or, in very rare circumstances:
d: Laugh, knowing what I meant, and addresing the joke for what it was.... a BB joke.

After the fallout I most recently published, she apologized, and felt pretty bad about the circumstance. Being the mom of a 1 yr old kid, I guess I understand.


Skiracer, you have my permission to shoot me, dead, right now brotha!

The girl is very fine boys, looks like Nadia, and has a degree in ecology. Backpacked both Europe and S. America for over 2 years, and laughs at all my stupid crap.


Anyway, skiracer, my email is jayd14@mail.com. Somebody needs to talk me outaa this shiznit, before I do soemthing drastic.

Thanks for listening,

Buddha S. Bear”

“When did Buddha become the mother of a 1-yr-old kid?”

“I think he is just trying it on for size. One year old kids are pretty irrisistable. Buddha sounds like he is hooked.”

“What does the "S" stand for, BB?”

“Buddha, if she gets the jokes and backpacks, she might be a keeper. Most especially if the answer was "d".

Go for it man. You never know when it might really really be the one. The only one that knows is the "gut". Go with the gut. #&%!$ everybody's advice and most of all #&%!$ pride.

Go for it.”

“thanks roamy, my homey.

S, stands for stud, of course.

LMAO, hook, line and sinker liz, hook, line and sinker!”

“Well, I knew you were waiting for someone to bite! Happy to oblige, BSB. LOL!”

“If she has a kid it might be that this was a rare oppportunity out of the house and she went a little crazy checking in with old friends and getting to watch something on TV other than Barnie, or Elmo, or .... you get the picture. Sounds like things are patched up but just remember that babysitter time is a thing to be covetted. Remember the Seinfeld episode where Elaine is trying to decide if a guy is 'sponge worthy?' Well, folks with small kids have to decide if something is truly babysitter worthy. If it is, then you tend to really blow the whole evening out.

Clarification: early on you said she complained the next morning about a hangover. Was this complaint given face to face in a horizontal position or over the telephone? Inquiring minds want to know.”

“Hey dayhiker makes a really good point and I can't believe it didn't occur to me. I'm a single Dad and time out is more rare than gold or diamonds.”

“Also, BB, you didn't say how she responded to your handshake joke. That's a goodie by the way.”

“she laughed dh.

BTW - I'm not a kiss and tell kinda guy, and try to be a gentleman in matters of intimacy.”

“I didn't expect an answer. I was just b'sing.”

“the male species sucks”

“ha...i beg to differ...only people i know that do that are either females or these dang metrosexuals around the ATL”

“Spill the beans, what happened?”

“he occasionally posts on tt, i can't.”

“That would only be the gay homosexuals that would suck in the male species.

Normally the female of the species does most of the sucking.”