Dating sucks

“I dated a really great woman about 12 years ago. She was divorced with two kids 5 and 7. The first time I went over to her house to pick her up, the 5 year old asked me, "Are you going to be our new daddy?"

Single parents, especially with young kids, really have to go through a lot! She handled it well, though.”

“cindy lu- That is great! Sounds like you two are doing it right. Yeah, BB, that is what we are all looking for. It's nice to kinow it can happen.”

“I've mentioned this before somewhere, but when I was in college I had taken an interest in a girl and we had gone out to group type things a couple of times. I called her up to ask her out on a Saturday night. No lie, she said no because, "She liked to keep her Saturday nights open in case something came up." She never heard from me again.”

“She's probably a hideous alcholic now, kicking herself that she didn't go out with you back then!”

“aero - Thanks for the encouragement, you are a true friend. Somehow I think she is a preacher's wife somewhere.”

“Wolfeyes, so you've met my "X" ?”

“Damn, I forgot to watch "Charmed" tonight.....really unbelievable Budda Bear, I can't get over her letter. I hope you get over it and her, keep your face to the sunshine...good things will come your way”

“BB, Sounds to me like she was really afraid to meet your friends and move up a rung on the relationship ladder. She 9is probably insecure and totally froze up at the idea of a room full of strangers judging BB's new girlfriend, (even though that's hardly what the evening would've been like).
I think she probably was right on when she said she wasn't ready for a relationship.
Someday, some chick ios going to be really fortunate to catch you. Until then, I'm sorry stuff didn't work out, better luck next time friend.”

“Something that I have come to understand about single mothers is this motherly attribute that can be seen in all species of the animal world for the most part. Mothers (great mothers) are protective of their youngins.

This gal that I am a friend too has 15 yr. daughter that she is highly protective of. She has expressed to me that through her dating years with child in tow, how protective she is of their life. She has trust issues mostly w/men. BB you were and will always be the odd man out in a NEW relationship with a single mom and her youngin. I don't know how single moms do it, but it has to be a delicate balancing job. Working, parenting, and dating all on one plate, think about it.

I've known this gal on and off for 8 yrs and it wasn't till this past fall that she brought me home to met her youngin. And thats even after her mother had been talking about me from time to time.

Definitely get your oils back, cd's are expendable, good oils aren't.”

“Whoa nellie to your recap BB! Sorry to hear it man.

BR - Your right about the protective instinct, but if it's real it works somehow, done deal.”

“Dude, it's Badger Balm Oil!

Thanks for the support folks. I was bummed out for exactly 30 seconds, and arranged 2 more dates for this week. Briar, you may have to head up to C-Town soon, I may need some help here.... too many bogey's and not enough wingmen.”

“don't worry, she obviously sucked...Charmed is a horrible show.”

“So what is this show about anyhow?

BB - you're well clear of her. Whatever her real real reasons someone who tries to use a TV show as a reason for not going out is not worth the time and effort you were prepared to spend on her.”

“Lyra,

will you marry me?”

“whatever happened to "poor Tarpy"? LOL!

but for real...sure! just as long as every birthday will be like the one you planned for her. moo haa haa!”

“But.... you're not even pregnant!”

“I've got a shotgun you could barrow for the wedding.”

“suuuuuure i'm not!

;-D”

“Monkeys in the closet at 11 o'clock high!

How is that for a wingman?”

“Isn't it funny how clear hindsight is? Now if we could only get clear vision while in such situations....sure would save us a lot of trouble, and save you guys a whole lot of money!”

“You know, I've never dated anyone who did the whole fancy schmanzy dinner and spa and all that stuff. Must have something to do with only dating in my teens. =(”

“Sass, IMO, all that fancy-schmancy stuff is for fairy-tale romances, which don't last (speaking from experience). Having the real thing is head and shoulders above that (from what I'm gathering in my current relationship).

Either that, or tell Joe to get you a trip to the day spa!”

“I didn't realize these things were mutually exclusive Smiley G. A relationship can have "fancy-schmancy" and still be real.”

“A relationship can have "fancy-schmancy" and still be real."
ynamiynami
01:44:59 PM

Yea, but all that money you wasted for 'fancy-schmancy' could have been spent on something of more lasting value, like new gear! ;-)
That $300 for a 'nice' bottle of wine might last an hour, but a good down bag will last forever.”

“Oh, that reminds me; make sure your bags zip together before you leave.

If you're already on the trail and discover that they do zip together, that's good kharma.”

“thoughtful ("fancy-schmancy") stuff doesn't have to cost a lot of money!”

“The value of thoughtfulness!”

“only if you try to do it near valentines day does it get costly. I guess sending flowers on the Monday will kinda take the shine off things ;o)”

“Ahhh,,, is that the purpose of flowers to take the shine off?”

“Dating does suck. I suggest everyone cease this senseless activity at once. Live happily as a non-procreative single person for the rest of your lives. Thankyou,
-Father of Four”

“I think that was a typo.

Isn't it Badger Palm Oil?”

“"I didn't realize these things were mutually exclusive Smiley G. A relationship can have "fancy-schmancy" and still be real."
ynamiynami
01:44:59 PM
02/09/04


y-squared, you're right. it doesn't have to be mutually exclusive. i was interpreting Sass's comments to that incredibly intense, life is so incredibly perfect, i will love you every single moment for the rest of my life feeling that comes with that fairy-tale stuff. its like middle-school infatuation. doesn't last.

i had those feelings once, and thought he was the guy i'd marry, end of story. boy, did my heart get broken. i seriously thought i'd never love someone like that, and it hurt to think like that. little did I know (i don't have too much long-term dating experience) that love can still be great, and not be head-over-heels overwhelming right off the bat.”

“yes - in time you'll learn to love me Smiley ;o)”

“LOL!”

“woooooo, Smiley is in loooooove!! :-D”

“She did just admit to that didn't she :o)”

“guess i was looking to get caught. ;)”

“What a story, Buddha! I feel for ya, man. But, you obviously have never seen Charmed......NOT!!!

Just keep keepin on! She's out there. You just have to find her. Don't settle!

And great words by Wolfeyes. Very well said.”

“"A relationship can have "fancy-schmancy" and still be real."
ynamiynami
01:44:59 PM

Yea, but all that money you wasted for 'fancy-schmancy' could have been spent on something of more lasting value, like new gear! ;-)
That $300 for a 'nice' bottle of wine might last an hour, but a good down bag will last forever."
StoveStomper
02:15:21 PM
02/09/04

Oh, Stovie...you opened yourself right up again...how many times are we gonna go through this? A $300.00 bottle of wine may only last an hour, but perhaps, maybe he'll get a good bag that goes down forever. Try thinking like him would ya?”

“dang Wolfeyes I wish I had said it that well”

“Y'all are making me really glad my wife doesn't drink. I'm pretty satisfied with a $15 bottle of wine.”

“You're wife doesn't drink???? How did you meet her?”

“LMAO Mr. Niceguy!

Lyra, I'm probably the father. Everybody knows that sitting on a motorcyle 24-7 over the past 3 years has made Tarpy impotant.

$300 for wine?! Stovy, you must not be a wine drinker. I wouldn't blow that kind of jack on wine for Reese!

Rob, I'm having a "Charmed" party for some of the boys next weekend, you're invited.”

“"I hope you get over it and her, keep your face to the sunshine...good things will come your way"
WinterSolstice


See BB, even WinterSolstice thinks we're a match! And as a single mother, I can REALLY use that special birthday. We do have one imperfection in our relationship though. One word... Ohio. I mean really, why would you think you could find a good woman in Ohio, anyway???


JUST KIDDING, Ohio ladies! I'm certain it's a wonderful state if you just get to know it. After all, Nigal lives there!”

“oh, no-no, sunshine, i hope your birthday isn't in december, cuz BB will be busy planning MY birthday..”

“ohhhh no, another TT catfight in the making!!! Line up right here, guys. Admission is $25, or $50 if we turn out the lime green jello.”

“Now, I really meant fancy schmanzy! Not thoughtful or fairy-tale because I've had carriage rides on my birthday and flowers and have come home to find the whole freakin' house spotless and dinner made and laundry done. I know thoughtful and I married a Prince(imo, lol).

I just never dated anyone who wined and dined me.”

“Dig yourself outta that hole Sass ;o)”

“Just clarifying Ynamiynami, not back peddling. =)”

“I hate Valentine's Day!!!!!”