Dating sucks

“eeeeaK! Yes, I am a December baby. Oh well, I've lost BB to other women before, I can do it again. *sigh*”

“I'm here and waiting for you babe, and wintersolstice too. The only religion I believe in anymore is Mormanism, and the only thin worth beieling in is multiple wives (except for the wives part). Multiple somethin' rulz.”

“Cheer up Wingding,don't load the day up with more than its' worth.”

“Wingding......do like I did a few years ago......I bought myself some beer....some yummy choclate .....a wonderful teddy....and uh...well..I really don't want to say.....

It helped my mood.....”

“I am fascinated by how the single world lives”

“I can't even hike on Valentine's Day - I have to stay home and wait for them to deliver my new range.”

“Pobrecita”

“I'm beginning to see the light!”

“"I am fascinated by how the single world lives"
MaryPhyl
12:33:06 AM
02/11/04
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Can I tell a story on MaryPhyl? I'm going to anyway.

We (Mary & Robert) and I camped on a small level area in the Canyon, so small that the tents were very close together. I don't sleep real sound when camping anyway but during the night I would hear two snores, broken occasionally by zippers, coughing, moving around, etc. What amazed me is that while one was up and around, the other was sawing logs. I woke up but they were in the same tent and could sleep thru the other one's noises.

Now that's married!”

“Huh!
I had "mucho difficulte" sleeping through the noises coming from within "the gated community" last Friday night!

Hehehee!
;o)”

“Just took a poll on woman not to date. My choices and results of the poll:

Never date a women who...
Nags and whines a lot. 37%
Is too controlling. 24%
Has extensive insecurities. 16%
Has no sex appeal. 11%
Is really boring. 9%
Is obsessed with her dad. 5%

not that MEANS anything, ladies...”

“All the cool single TT ladies live sooo far away.”

“Briar - you forgot the name dropping, pretentious, card pushing, money hungry, know-it-all type o women.”

“BB-totally unbelievable! OMG a TV show, jeez! Better luck next time!”

“I hear ya Pennsy brother!”

“What! Pennsy once told me that if I saw a post in his name on the "dating sucks" thread, it would be a troll. Except I know that's him. The Florida "sun" must've gotten to him, LOL...

o(=D”

“Well, I did get sunburned in Florida. This weekend I may get frostbitten in the Adirondacks. Who knows what my troll may say next week.”

“Ohhh, I've dated a troll before.”

“No Comment.”

“wow, two weeks and no one has posted on here. Everyone's dating life must be good or no one is dating.”

“I'm single since the week-end before FYAO IV. Life is just a series of choices. More to the point, how are you doing?”

“I am doing good. Just waiting for that divorce date to appear. I feel I will be more at ease when I know for sure when it is happening.”

“Ewk,

I don't know how it works down there and I'm not sure I should even tell you this, but here goes:

Up here someone can pull a no-show until the judge gets p!$$ed - usually at the third time. My ex's lawyer would show up and say my ex couldn't make it to court for some reason. It would take about three monthes to get back on the roll and be on the bottom of the list with almost no chance of going before the judge.

About three months later we'd be near the top with the possibility of appearing. If we didn't make it it would be another three months, etc. If we came up the ex's lawyare would give an excuse for my ex not being there. They nanaged to drag it out for over 18 months.

Meanwhile I was paying my lawyer to keep checking at the court house and waiting for him to call.

Just be ready for Shyte.

Good luck,

Doug”

“Hey Ewker, I think in TN they will proceed in your absence, UNLESS the one pulling the no show is the filing party.”

“Thats how it works in Michigan too, Gremlin. The dried up bag who kept pulling that on my brother finally ticked off the judge so bad she got nothing and had to pay court costs.”

“I guess this should be under the Divorce sucks thread...lol

I am the one who filed for the divorce. I did receive a letter from my lawyer showing that both lawyers (her's and mine) have signed the certificate of readiness. Of course that was 2 weeks ago and nothing since.
I do remember both lawyers said it would take one full day in court.

On a side note getting back on track as to this thread. I am reading the book Mars and Venus on a Date. It is interesting. I have learned a few things. Hopefully it will pay off in the long run.”

“Hi Ewker!

I've admitted it once or twice on this forum, but I really like that book. I think its really helped me learn why the opposite sex (and heck, even women too) react to things the way they do. I think its been a big help in my current relationship.”

“No doubt!!

Actually, I'm experiencing alittle turbulence in the relationship I'm having now.

The main problem, she fell harder then expected for me,,, I was trying to redefine 'friendship' when in actuality we were 'dating' in the her eyes and the eyes of others.

I was 'kinda' denying that to myself by trying to keep my feelings in check. She was not doing the same after she agreed with my 'friends can still screw each other and be friends' discussion.

I also said something 'stupid' the other evening,,,which I'm prone to do,, but she really took that to heart. Cap that off with one of her freinds asking,,,'what if he wants to date someone else?',,,She really started think too too hard about our relationship that has only gotten closer thru the months.

Next thing I know she is wanting time away to forget about me so she can come to grips with her feelings about me. WTF is that about. As if time really heals all wounds. And/or we will remain friends or have the same close friendship we had going prior to this confusion.

NOW,, I believe I have mistakenly fallen into her trap that she try to springing on me months ago because I am such a freaking gullable man not wanting to hurt anyones feelings,, including my own.

My heart has enough scars on it, I'm really not wanting another. So I called the other day to see how things are going,, because I really don't understand WTF happened, why all the questioning,,, what was wrong with how things were going proir to the turbulence.

You know,,, I now have questions about this relationship and I was never questioning it till she started to question it.

In some regards somethings are better left unsaid. She has done nothing but plant another bad seed in a realtionship that I thought was moving along fine.”

“Hi Smiley, glad to see that someone else has read the book and has good thoughts about it.

Briar Rabbit, the book I am reading talks about some of your problems. It seems like this is common in relationships (like I know).
The book talks about the five stages of dating.
Stage one is attraction
Stage two is uncertainty
Stage three is exclusivity
Stage four is intimacy
Stage five is engagement.

You may be able to figure out just by those stages what is happening. It seems you are at one stage and your friend is at another.

Good luck”

“Not dating, just hiking lately. I haven't given up yet though - the right guy is out there for me somewhere. Hopefully, I'll meet him along the trail.”

“I guess my act was no good. I'm now off-stage!”

“It's all about attitude and approach my friends. I havn't wanted to "date" in about 3 years, then all of the sudden, out of nowhere, I've been dating like crazy. I have taken a "have fun" approach, and ditched the love at first sight, romance crap.

It's spring training in Buddhaland, and I'm just lookin' to fill the roster. I've been unconidtionally released, and released a few of my own, however, just like everybody else, I'm looking for that #1 starter, and hopefully can find it out what's in the rotation. This may sound callous, but hey, that's the dating game, right?

All I know is that I'm actually having fun with all of this, that I respect the women I date, treat them right, and know they have fun too. If the timing, karma and situation is right, who knows what could happen. Until then, I'm just having fun.

Maybe this is how it's supposed to be, right guys?”

“I think you're in rut, Buddha Bear! It usually happens in the fall (with, sheep, goats and elk).”

“After class on Tuesdays, me and another woman go out for a drink(s). Usually there is no one else at the bar and we chat about class. Last night, two guys cruising for chicks came in and plunked down next to us. You know the type – too much cologne, too much tan, too much gold jewelry…

Anyway, as a result of this encounter, I’ve come up with the following DON’Ts for any guy who really believes he can pick a woman up in a bar.

don’t ask if we want to go dancing “or something” immediately after introducing yourself...
don’t ask us 3 times where we come from – it’s too much fun to give a different answer each time, and even more fun when you don’t notice...
(ditto for the 5 other standard questions you asked 3-4 times each)
don’t try to goad me into playing pool by saying I don’t want to play because I don’t know how...
don’t throw a fifty in front of me when you insist on paying for my drink...
don’t whack me in the shoulder every time I come back with a smart remark, with that “whack” eventually turning into a lean-in which is a poor excuse for a feel...
don’t lie and say you’re from the area, when you’re whining (bad) about how cold it is when it’s 20-25 degrees out...
and for pete sake, after all that, don’t ask if I’m staying at the hotel…

Fortunately the bartender is a nice kid and we made fun of the guy while I finished my one drink (I can only drink a martini so fast)…course “Stan” never noticed, LOL…it was too damn funny...
=D”

“I think Buddha's right on. Its all about the numbers, people. Dating was explained to me as a game of odds. The more dates you have, the better the odds are you'll hit a good date, and possibley even a relationship. I have plenty of bad date stories to tell my kids one day, that's for sure! And, keeping your mind in the "I'm just doing this for fun" is the most important part. Its a LOT less painful that way.”

“Buddha Bear, that is something that I am having to learn. Go out have fun, let it be casual and take it slow.

I don't want to push someone way that might be right for me by trying to hard. That is the tough part.”

“way=away”

“Buddha Bear, VERY well put. I'm in the same boat as you are.”

“. . .to Artex? Is he knocking boots with Yam?”

“that was funny bitpusher.”

“just found out I won't get a visit from my lady friend like we were planning. both of our jobs are screwing up our time that we might have a chance to visit. We both just moved and now we're three states apart - hope to fix that this summer, but until then it sux. Now it looks like three MORE weeks until we will have a chance to get together for a weekend.

Long distance blows.”

“Twigeater, was this cad hitting on you???? Did he make any untoward advances upon you? You want I should get a couple big TT'ers and come up and teach em some manners????? LOL

BTW, this friend of yours the guys were trying to hit upon, would she have been receptive to his advances? Just curious.”

“LMAO!
Naw, that guy was well put in his place by the time I left. The bartender was cracking up.

My friend left as soon as she finished her shot of yager. And nope, she wouldn't have been "receptive" but ya never know with her. ;)”

“Twig, these creatures still exist?”

“hard to believe ain't it...

:)”

“As long as Jersey exists...”

“Roam, anytime you have plans to see someone and that falls apart it sucks.

Twiggy, at least we know the guy has good taste in women even though he was a jerk ;)”

“thanks Ewker! :)
though I'd like to believe that was true, it so happened that I was the only woman in the bar - the only other person actually.”

“twiggy, you had the other woman with you at first so no you weren't alone. Plus I bet they went straight to you first ;)”