Dating sucks

“"Can we get a Macho, gearhead men of trailtalk by candlelight calendar as well???"
dhutch1

H3ll yeah!
My niece is getting married this weekend. So, I will be breaking out the ole suit and getting a hair cut tomorrow.
Everyone tells me I "clean up very nice"...LOL”

“Wooo Hooo, ok what month do you want to be?

Come on guys, need more volunteers.”

“Hey, Ewker hasn't checked in since his dinner out last night! I hope he's not tied up in that lady's basement. Wait, there are no basements in the south!”

“DH1
July!
Lost of Fireworks!!! LOL


I hope Ewker is not "Gator Bait" ??? Shawn's Post has me a little worried for him...haha”

“correction:

Lost of fireworks = Lots of fireworks...
haha”

“Well since I fit well in a santa suit... DECEMBER?”

“Stove Stomper could be November seeing he is a real Turkey! :-)
















just kidding buddy....lol”

“yawn, just thought I would check in.

Sass, there are basements in the south ;)

lipstick hiker, birth control has been taken nipped in the bud :)

dhutch, heck I will sign up for the calendar. In candlelight I can hide my bad features”

“geesh, I can't type this morning.

that should have said

lipstick hiker, birth control has been nipped in the bud :)

Yeah I know TMI...lol”

“"I had a relationship fall apart, and I said to the guy, I thought you liked this, and you said you liked that. He fessed up and said he liked me so much that he pretened to like what I liked to be with me.
lipstick hiker
05:38:51 PM
06/14/04"

yep, that's what I'm talking about!
=D”

“Changed my mind. ;-D Clean but wearing hiking clothes and proudly displaying your favorite gear! That's HIKING gear

I really do think we should have a Trailtalk calendar - with pictures of the different hikes. Should I start a thread? Of course October will be TC4
. I know there are places we could get them made.”

“It's nice to hear that some of us don't think dating sucks right at the moment - but just wait - it'll suck again”

“Y2 - Women just want you to be able to read their minds. ;)

"However, don't touch....my laundry. I'll take care of that. You just mow the lawn ok?"
dhutch1
03:40:34 PM
06/14/04

LOL. Wish my ex had felt that way. No, I'm glad she didn't, made it all easier”

“bm - Made what easier? (bm?)

This thread should really be called - the Single TTers off-topic letting off steam thread

It's almost never about sucky dating.....ooops”

“Made it easier as in the long list of crap I didn't like and why its best that it ended”

“dhutch, hopefully we are letting the steam off in other ways.

wingding, I am sure I will be able to bring up something before long about a date that sucks...oh to get that lucky...oooops

working on another date for this Thursday with someone new. Hopefully going out for drinks, maybe a hike if the rain holds off. But then again a walk in the rain is nice”

“Didn't take long to get back on your game there Ewker ;o)”

“I have never tried them, but has anyone ever gone throught the personals on the net? like Match and those deals? any luck?”

“I've never tried that, being the "in-person" kind of gal but I know there's a sponsor of our adventure racing organization called "Meet Outdoors.com" I submitted a request for training partners once and got a bunch of cheesy, "hike away with me" invitations.”

“I never have tried them either dH1,

I believe in the chance meeting,fate,someone introducing you. I have looked at them at a buddy who signed up, they all say the same exact shee-it!

I'll stay single before I become desparate. That's is just my opinion. For some folks it may just very well be the ticket.”

“that should be "buddy's house"”

“Maybe it's just me but on-line/e-mail dating seems like a cop out. Have some ba11s and ask that pretty lady at the post office out for coffee. There's a way. Oh, and there's something inherently adorable about the man that gets up the nerve.


Oh, no now I've gone and done it.
That's ok, I can take it.”

“Dating sucks. Have you ever dated yourself? I have. I once had a major crush on Marcia Brady. See, I'm dating myself. BUCK THAT IS SO LAME NOW GO AWAY FOR A REALLY REALLY LONG TIME. Okay then.”

“Hello Hot stuff (aka DH1)
Ya wanna a go out for some coffee?

Meet me 1/2 way in Ohio LOL”

“How sweet snafu. Would that be virtual coffee?

Buck - stop it, you're scaring me”

“Y2, one thing I have rediscovered is that dating is expensive. That is one reason I keep pushing the hike around the lake.
One it lets me know if they like hiking, a couple of nice elevations gains can tell you a lot about them, two can get to know each other, three it is free, four we decide if it is worth seeing each other again”

“INNUENDO!

LOL”

“Watch out Ewker, they'll get your m.o. and the crazy one could catch you with another. Not something you need early on. I'd find several hiking spots and become a moving target. ;-)”

“dhutch, I knew I could count on you for words of wisdom.

So when are you coming down to visit me ;)”

“Ummmm.....get those nashville area "hikers" 8-} together and I'll come down in the fall when it's cold here and warm there. November? February? What is it like 98 and humid there now?”

“I don't think people who find mates on the Internet are desperate....I do think people who stay in bad relationships are though.

People turn to dating websites because of time constraints and the lack of people to ask, or be asked by, not because they lack the guts to ask someone out...
Or at least I think that's why (or they're married, LOL)...isn't it more nerve wracking to meet a stranger for dinner than to go out with someone you've already met face to face?”

“true twig - people turn to the internet due to perceived time constraints (could spend that time at a coffee shop or library or outdoor store (buying gear!!!) and lack of previous acquaintances who are dating material. I'm not saying it's unthinkable or desperate. I just want to look a person in the eye.”

“Well, I'm with whoever said that the guy should just get up the nerve to ask that cute girl in the Post office out but you know I haven't met one yet. I've been to the grocery store and have seen men shopping. The store is one of the best places but I've never been approached. Maybe I'm just ugly.”

“Dh, when was the last time you were approached "eye-ball to eye-ball and asked out on a date by a respectable looking stranger?”

“Ewker - I know the feeling. I've been dating strong, successful, wealthy, propertied, career women who put up absolutely no fight at all when I offer to pay for drinks or dinner. It amazes me. I don't mind paying, but I'd like it if I'd have to insist now and again (or try the classic "you can pay next time trick") rather than seeing their wallets disappear quicker than candy bar at fat camp.”

“Never ever say your "ugly"
You sound beautiful to me :-)

I have thought of the grocery store many times....I have seen a few in there and the first I look for is a ring on the finger. No ring! Then their fair game....I never have got the nerve to say anything yet though. Any suggestions as far as opening lines?

Twig, Your right about staying in a bad relationship too long, it's ok to try to work through the bad times and not bail out at the first sign of trouble. But, a relationship that is bad all the time and has no "good times" would be a act of desparation or fear of being alone. I have prolly been guilty of that, but have wised up after being thru it!
:-)”

“Maybe not eyeball to eyeball literally. But it was February, Hey, if they were a dime a dozen it wouldn't be so cool would it. It's not about looks mtnmom, I'll talk to just about anyone. Life is too impersonal already don't you think?”

“Oh man....grocery store lines.

How about just...let me think

Good afternoon, I just noticed how attractive you look bending over to lift that case of pepsi, here let me help. Ooops!

just kidding... don't ask yes or no questions how about:

I noticed you in the cereal aisle. I'd like to buy you a cup of coffee. Do you have a moment now or can I call you and arrange another time?”

“A friend of mine met her future husband (since divorced and he married another friend of mine - a "6 degrees" story, LOL) in the grocery store.

He had some line like "...didn't we go to school together?" and persisted along that line...”

“How about the classic "Animal House" grocery store line?
Mrs Wormer standing near vegetable area with a cumcumber in her hand
Otter says: My cucumber is bigger.
Mrs Wormer: Vegetables are sensuous. People are sensual”

“Dh, that is true but what I was getting at is that most people are so afraid of confrontation that I never see it happen. It's so frustrating! I do use a few on-line strategies for meeting men cuz other wise I would be a lonely spinster with a bazillion cats (not really) or an alcoholic. I have seen men that "advertise" online in the stores/at bars and they still don't approach women. I have a friend who gave me some insight and that was that the women were hard to approach.

why are we so intimidating? that's what I want to know? I think I got lucky here w/ this last guy. (bachelor #1 is halfway off the list, this is bachelor #2) We've been on 3 dates (yeah, I know, how can you tell w/ 3 dates)I'm not looking for renters or anything but I'm clearing my schedule for him. Still, he is a little on the shy side. I guess I've gotten so used to having to be an instigator that it's hard to take a step back and wait for them to make the first move.

Snafu: in the grocery store, if they look like they are trying to make a choice over, say, what type of salad dressing (example,it could be anything) you could recommend what you've liked or disliked about it. Some comment about whatever they are looking at. "Hey, I tried that just last week w/chicken, it was really good" Even if you used something else, fake it! "I used that in a new recipe I tried and it didn't turn out too bad" or "I thought it tasted like dog food" If you can make her laugh that's a good sign.”

“Well I totally agree with you mtnmom2. But the guy I want will have the balls to face his fears and ask anyway. It's so impressive. Guys think we don't understand that, but we do.

I like your grocery store ideas btw.”

“I think why guys find it hard to approach a women is they dont like the possibility of rejection?

I don't have a hard time with rejection at a first meeting,
due to I know that person never really got to know me.

I can get along with just about anyone, I like to make people feel good. I'm not the funniest person, but I have a "farside" type humor.
I try to make people feel comfortable and I'm sincere to the core.”

“Buck --

Yo and I finalyhave common ground.


When "marcia brady" was a guest star on Fantasy Island . . .more than one fantasy came true.”

“Unfortunatly, there is no one general rule for all. This being for men and woman.
BTW I only know the woman side. What may work on one lady may be the worse thing to do or say to the next lady.
It is this uncertainty (sp?) is why dating sucks.
It's is a rollercoaster of high and low emotions.
Finding that S.O. is very hard and I think at times we find it easier or less emotional to just be alone.
The Funny part is when your not looking is when that special someone comes knocking on your door.
It also kinda explains why some may stick it out longer in a fragile relationship to make it work for the better, just so they dont have to go looking for a new one or be alone.
This is just my opinion anyhow...LOL”

“geesh, I go to lunch and come back and this thread has a lot more post.

dhutch, now if I am going to invite you down why on earth would I want to share you with the other TT'ers from Tenn ;)

awww the grocery store, what a great place to meet women.
Just go to the baking aisle and look lost. Then ask the first one that catches your eye a question or two about baking. Most women will be glad to help you. I think they like a guy who can cook. Start off from there and run with it.

dhutch and others who know me don't laugh but I am shy in person. So for me to talk up to a nice looking woman and start talking is very hard. A lot of that has to do with my lack of self confidence.”

“talk should be walk”

“My ability to cook certainly helped me snag my wife.”

“Women want me, fish fear me.”

“A date....what's that?”