Random question from a random gal.....

“Hey,

I have enjoyed this site and think a lot of you are a hoot! I hope you guys don't mind if I pose a question coming from a random stranger, although I feel I know a little bit about some of you from the posts.

Here is the dilemma, I met this great guy last Thursday for dinner. We hit it off because we are into the same things like moutaineering, biking, hiking, backpacking, etc. He said he had a great time and will call me again. The next day we e-mailed. I haven't heard from him since the last e-mail he sent on Friday evening. Now, I am not the type of gal that is pushy or an initiator. Is this a bad sign or am I being too sensitive (you know how girls tend to analyze everthing)? I would appreciate any thoughts and advice you guys may have. Thanks for letting me post my question.”

“Maybe he was out bp'ing, biking or doing a myriad of other things. If he doesn't write or call by the middle of the week. Forget him!! Better to know at the beginning he is not a man of his word than later!! IMHO

Good luck”

“Ditto tango.”

“What Tango said Lizard. Don't waste your time on someone who can't return frickin' phone calls.”

“Hey lizard, are you related to any of the regulars here? Your trailname seems familiar to me.”

“At the beginning, he gave me his number and said that he would leave the calling up to me for awhile (there was a reason why). Well, since we had dinner on Thursday and he said he would call me, I figured that I would leave the calling to him. Should I call him or just wait for him to respond? You know, I don't like to play games and he seemed sincere and honest. Now, I don't know what to think or do.”

“No, I am not related to anyone here. Lizard is a nickname my friends call me.”

“If you've called him once don't call again. If you haven't call once. That's my 2”

“Again, ditto tango.”

“usually, when a guy isn't used to having a girlfriend, he fills every minute being busy, trying not to think about how pointless his life is without one, LOL! ;-) but for real. my friend's new bf has a way of going out of town EVERY weekend, and playing golf or some other sport EVERY evening. i bet he's just busy out of habit...if you want to call, call! he'll tell you to stop stalking him when it's apropo.”

“You say you don't like to play games, but here you are. If he were "just a friend" wouldn't you call? A girl friend, wouldn't you call? If you like his company, pick up the phone. Don't be such a baby.”

“If I met a new female that I wanted to be friends with and she said she'd call and didn't...No I wouldn't for the same reason as above. I like to be around people that mean what they say...”

“If you haven't called, then do. Maybe he was afraid you weren't interested. If you have called and he hasn't returned the call, then take tango's advice.

oh,,,,go ahead and give your age and location.....it has been a while since we had a bidding war for a date on this site....LOL.”

“Good luck, lizard. If things don't work out, just tell yourself that it was his loss.”

“Chil- you are shameless!!”

“Hey,

I appreciate your feedback. I actually am beginning to feel better. I haven't called him since I thought, begin a guy, he would want to be in control. On Friday evening, he e-mailed and told me what he was doing the whole weekend. I was going hiking/snowshoeing and he said to let him know him how it went. So, I responded by e-mail when he hadn't called. I don't want to seem pushy or scare him off, so I haven't called. Okay, I know, I sound paranoid but I believe that if a guy is interested, he would do the pursuing.”

“well, I always prefer the direct approach.”

“liz - carpe diem

If you're interested, go after him. If he's not, it'll be clear soon. Then you can email chili for his phone number. He's a great guy!”

“I meant to get back to you before now! Honest and true!

You didn`t have to tell the whole world I was a jerk, well,.. most of `em here knew it already so, no real harm done:)lol

Just call the guy if you like him and one way or the other you`ll find out if he`s worth your time.

If a phone call can scare him off he`s not much to begin with. That`s kindda like boys that won`t date girls that are taller than they are.

I have nothing for a man to lazy to climb a girl for a kiss:))

Tell us about yourself, post a picture on Phil`s photo page and let the bidding start!LOL

Welcome to the funny farm,..and I hope it works out for you!”

“Ha, ha, ha! You guys are really hoot! I don't know if he got scared because we had so much in common. I mentioned to him that one of my dreams is to climb one major peak like Kilamanjero and he couldn't believe that is one of my goals. All we talked about was the outdoors and how much we both were passionate about it. He told me at dinner that he had a great time, would call again, thought I was a pretty girl, and then he doesn't call. What is a girl to think except he got scared or is not interested anymore. I can't read men!”

“A lot of people neglect their email. Pick up the phone.”

“What are the odds against his calling?”

“Call him.

A. He can't read your mind either. or

B. He is not interested.

If he is not interested, your call may spark his interest in an easy piece of... Well no point in insulting you, but that is how men think and women usually figure this out early in life.

My motto: "I am looking for Miss Right, but will settle for Miss Right-now."”

“Anybody who doesn't return phone calls when they promise they will is nothing but long term trouble. Relationships should not be guessing games. There are more than enough pains in the butt in life without going out of your way for another.
Do things for yourself. If somebody really wants to be part of your life, they will let you know in certain terms. Until that happens, it really is all about you.
Last, but not least, don't hang your hat on another person's love for nature as being the basis for a sound relationship of any sort. Moments come and go in life, but nature is always still out there. All of us would love to share it with somebody special, but the bottom line is that it's best to experience it on our own terms.
Enjoy your trips and forget ol whatsisname. And most of all, enjoy Kilamanjaro when you get there.”

“50:50, either he will or he won't.”

“Two lost souls sharin` the night
doin` and doin` and doin` it right
the moon and stars wink from above
two nature lovers, fallin` in love
I remember the nights and what that`s like
two souls lost in themselves off on a hike
do I ever remember that, oh brother
forget the hike, I just need a lover
put your foot down little missy, if he can`t do it for you, there`s those of us that can
I could use a good woman real bad, are there any women out there that wants a wild man
now you do know I was just kidding and doin` this for fun
don`t know you at all, but that guy sounds like a lucky one”

“Or you could learn how to read minds.”

“If the guy was me - and I said I would call and did not actually call - the reasons would be:

1. I forgot. But if I was really into you - I would have remembered.

2. You weirded me out.”

“C,mon this isn't High School anymore. Very simple. If you like him, call him. If it doesn't work out, key his car.
Another good therapy is to tease (sexually) the single TT'ers on this board until you feel better. I don't think we mind.”

“Is an email a call? I used to think it was. I had to learn that a call is a call and an email is something else. This was not listed in the instruction book of life.

A woman taught me that.”

“Oh bacpac, you are adora... COUGH,cough,cough .. cough, cough, cough..”

“Yeah Lizard they love to be teased. Take caterpillars advice. LOL!”

“I agree with Chilli!

Drop that loser and email your picture to Phil for the Photo Page! <GRIN>”

“Thanks LyndyS!”

“Why just the single TT'ers? Can't us married types get a little action too?

(waiting patiently)”

“Go flirt w/ your wife, Bit! HeHeHe!”

“You had to think a while to type that post, eh bacpac?”

“Maybe, this weekend, there was another love in his life... like his Mother! Or maybe he was busy shopping for your engagement ring and his ball-and-chain. You're coming off sounding really nigh-maintenance.”

“I try newgie, I really do!

But she knows all my one-line come-ones!”

“Earth to Wild Chlid,

Women = High Maintenance.”

“oops that should be "come-ons".”

“Ask some of these guys for a new line Bit. Many of them (esp. Bacpac) seem quite knowledgeable in the art of flirting. HeHeHe!”

“I think everyone is making way to much out of this. They went out Thursday for dinner. He said he would call her. They e-mailed each other Friday. He had plans for the weekend and he told you this in his e-mail. It is only Monday, you both were gone or doing something over the weekend. Just because he said he would call doesn't mean it would be Sunday night or Monday, it might be the end of the week before he gets back to you. Is there a time frame for when he has to call. He could have other things to do and just hasn't had the time.”

“Glad we could be of help! "Relationships" is one of our areas of expertise around here (LOL).

I say give him one phone call, then forget him.

Note: We are about to have our third TT marriage. We have plenty of backpacking nuts to go around. Check out the photopage and "shop around".”

“Lets see. You had a date Thursday; you exchanged email on Friday; you both had full weekends planned; and you're worried because he hasn't called you yet on Monday?!?!? Maybe the guy works for a living? Maybe his employer isn't too keen on the idea of having him rush to the phone and call a potential girlfriend on company time? Maybe you shouldn't act like you are 14 (unless of course, you are 14. In that case ignore everything I just said.) Give him a little time.”

“Ewker == Foamfinger? nah.......”

“There should be a doctor on this board with the username "Latexfinger". That would surely make everyone cringe.”

“No doubt you will get your wish now, LyndyS....


newgie --- I think that was on another thread...”

“We did have the same thought, that is scary to know someone else thinks like me.”

“if you're my age... everyone around here is older, i feel so isolated from my own age group, but you all are great, better than any teenagers i know, we're all so stupid... anyway, if you're my age lizzy, fergit him, i needs myself a backpacking chick.”