adventuregirl's problem

“My life is just starting to make sense....I graduated from college. I am working at one of the best camps in michigan for the summer, and I have two great opertunities after camp, to either go teach in Africa, or run bush camps in Alaska.... And then along comes this guy..... who I hate to admit it but Im falling for.... Sudenly I dont know what I want anymore....”

“A-girl, you're young and have your whole life ahead of you. Go to Africa (#1) or Alaska (#2). There are millions of guys out there. You may never have an opporunity like the ones now in front of you. If you choose the young man over adventure, you may resent him or be angry with yourself later. I say again, go for it while you're young and unencumbered!”

“Well, you came to the right place with your problem. The TT Forum for Free Advice (that is worth double that much) will soon provide you with conflicting and confusing suggestions.

Africa and Alaska aren't where you go to find the quality guys abundance.

My $.02: If you have been together enough to get to know each other pretty well, then I say, separation makes the heart grow fonder. My wife and I were separated for 1.5 years while she finished college before we were married. We saw each other about 5 weeks during that total time. We've been married 28+ years.

If you barely know each other, then separating will probably send you each in different directions.

You're young enough to follow your heart and be able to recover.”

“If I had a dollar for everytime I let meeting a girl interfere with my plans, well.. I wouldn't be a millionaire, but I'd have enough for a new set of batteries for my headlamp. If you and this guy are truly meant to be, things will pick up right where they left off when you return from either Alaska or Africa. DO THE TRIP, and let it also serve as a test for your new relationship with this lucky young fellow! Get yourself in that mindset and you'll be just fine.”

“If he really cares he will wait or come with you. Same goes for you.
But it sounds you you are the one with big opprotunities.

People who care about each other don't ask each other to give up the chance of a lifetime so you can hang out and do the same old things in the same old places.

Also I'm guessing if he isn't adventurous he might not be Mr. Right for Adventuregirl. You might want to keep looking for Adventureboy.

Either way live life to the fullest and don't let anyone make you feel like you MUST do anything to earn their affections.

Go.”

“Let me tell you story:

Once upon a time, there was a young man (we'll call him, uhh, Pharris, yeah Pharris) who left a young woman he thought he was falling for to go overseas for a year. They wrote to each other and sent tapes and videos, and at the end of the year, they had discovered they didn't really like each other that much after all. He went on to marry his true love, who he didn't find until he was old enough to understand what he really wanted anyway.

The End.


Disclaimer:
The above story is fictional for all you know.”

“I think lifes experiences are awesome. However, I also think "LOVE" is the greatest experience. Love is a never ending adventure. If you have found the "ONE" whatever you do.. Do not let him go.... FInd a way!”

“I'm curious as to why some of the women haven't weighed in, here...”

“They're jealous?”

“Okay, here's a woman's response: if you mean anything to him, he'll keep in contact with you. NOT the other way around. Go for the adventure. Those may never come your way again.”

“All I have to say is this.There are lots of fish in the sea so go out and see the world have fun and live it up.You are still young and have all kinds of cool things ahead of you in your life so go out and do them.

8)”

“First pray about it (since I already know your a Christian right?) then -go!”

“If he really cares he's there for you no matter where you are or what you're doing. If you really care, he's there in your heart no matter where you are or what you're doing. Go.”

“Can't help you myself. I suggest you get Dr. Laura's advice.”

“Three great adventures, I guess that`s the breaks. Things, new places, other people and the differance that makes. New adventures in all of `em, wild-life, excitement, the challenge to give what it takes. All three effect the heart so whatever you do there`s gonna be heartaches.

In matters of the heart,.. no one can make those decisions for you. The fact that it matters will make your decision that much harder to do, but I wish you the best in all things and I only hope whatever you decide brings you many years of happiness and not just a few stolen moments to look back on.

Good Luck!”

“Very well put Big Foot!

I am use that in my life!

8)”

“don't let a guy stand in your way to... we'll call it adventure, 'cause there's gonna be plenty of adventure wherever you end up, life in general is an adventure, but do what you want and don't let anyone else decide what you want

i've made my decision, though it's extremely tough, i'm not gonna let a girl get in my way from adventure”

“with Father Goose. Do think hard about your choice. Do take some alone time (solo hike) and think about if the tables were turned, what would he do? Do you think he would stay for you? I wish you luck.”

“I don't see why adventure and a great relationship have to be mutually exclusive. Ideally, you (and I for that matter) will find someone who will love to see all the greatness that the world has to offer - together.

That said, it's possible to have great adventure and do epic things without leaving the lower 48. Maybe you could do some type of service work in the Midwest. That way you could get together every month or so.

If things don't work out, then head back to Africa next year.

Oh, and here's a hint: Become a teacher and marry one. Get a nine month lease during the school year and get a summer lease in Paris, or wherever.”

“My whole thing is that I really do like this guy. I mean really alot. He has two more years of school left, if he does not change his major, which he is thinking about doing. What flipped me out was last night. It was one of those nights that a girl who has done such a good job of keeping her guard up, got swept off her feet. I dont know how it happened. But you know what? If I have the opertunity to go to Alaska or Africa, I will go. And the guy told me I should go too. What ever happens is what will happen.”

“Does he backpack?”

“Backpacking is definitely, a high qualification. Right along with gainfully employed and the heart to stick it out when times get tough.”

“Being good in the sack is a good quality too so don't forget to test drive. Matter of fact, Go on and do that anyway. Just be sure to wear a rubber.”

“Walkindude, you kill me.

Adventuregirl, you're smart girlfriend. You just finished college. You can figure it out. You guys could come up w/ all kinds of plans to seek adventure and be together or at least remain in regular contact. I once dated a guy from Holland, we came up w/ all sorts of ways to hang. You can figure it out.”

“He does not backpack. but my backpacking buddy just got married yesterday to a nonbaackpacker, and we are still planning a trip this summer, so it might be good for me to go for a nonbackpacking guy, just so My backpacking buddy and I can escape sometimes”

“First of all, you gotta narrow it down.
Why the F**k would anyone in their right mind wanna teach in Africa?!?! I bet you don't even speak African do you? How can you teach it?
Alaska has beautiful country but it's got a population of like..........78 people. How many of them are still in school? Prolly not many. You may have 2....maybe 3 kids tops in a class. Unless you teaching seals or grizzly cubs too.

I suggest you stay here and have a ball with Mr. Right till "divorce do you part", then go and run off to another country like Alaska.

Dam, I should get paid for giving this kind of advice!”

“Walkindude, you rock thats all I have to say. At night before I go to bed i think "how can I be mor like walkindude?"

In case you want to know. The main language spokeen in East Africa is Swahilli, and yes I can speak it, I took a year of it in school,and have already spent four months of my life in Africa. On top of that I would be teaching English. And dont even need to know another language but the one Im teaching.

As far as Alaske goes... I would not be teaching. I would be working wiht kids, and taking them camping. Alaska is more up my ally then Africa is.

As far as Mr Right goes... What would I do if stayed here? I mean yeah I might have a really great relationship, but that would be it. I have nothing going for me right here right now. except a great guy, which if he is really that great, he will still be great when I come back next year.”

“God!
Please don't let any on be more like me!
Amen

Now that that is out of the way, I can only say good luck in what ever you decide.

BTW, Do you think Mr. Right could be a student in your African class?
or maybe you could teach him how to camp (unless he's too old).”

“I can see it now

Some little starvin @ss African kid in the back of the class raises his hand and says,
Pulla see Bagumba!!!

Translation: Bagumba just farted!!!


Is this what you want your life to be like?”

“Adventure Girl:

Travel and open up your world. Use your Swahili in Africa (or go to Alaska). You'll have the summer to develop your relationship further, and then you can write. Maybe he can even visit you out there if you two decide. If the relationship is one that will last, it will last through your time in Africa.

Your TT name points the way. Embrace the adventure.”

“And the adventure will brace your back.


Err, I mean embrace you back!


Jeez, Pedxing is a hard act to follow!”

“Go to Alaska or/and Africa...if he's true, he'll wait for you. To tell you the truth, I don't think he will wait...there's other fish in the ocean (not that I'm calling you a fish!!!). If not, I'm still here for you. ;o)”

“Waitaminute

He said you should go, where is the problem? Sounds like he supports you already, maybe he is the guy for you.”

“A-girl, you're way to young to know who 'Mr. right' is. You simply haven't been on the planet long enough. You've admitted yourself that you don't know what you want, which is typical for someone your age. Am I starting to sound like your dad? Sorry about that.
Sorry, walkindude, but I have to vigorously disagree with you here.
Young lady, you can't tell what tomorrow will bring. You may never again have the opportunity to travel to foreign lands (even Alaska). On the other hand, you're going to meet a lot of guys during your lifetime. If this cat's worth a hoot, he'll encourage you to go, be happy for you, and WAIT for your return. So get your a$$ outta here! Go!
















Are you still here?”

“Dude, Walkindude, I have lost all respect!

No, wait, that's not true...I still respect you for how fast and far you can walk. :)”

“Listen to your Father...”

“Just my two cents worth
"A-girl, you're young and have your whole life ahead of you. Go to Africa (#1) or Alaska (#2). There are millions of guys out there. You may never have an opporunity like the ones now in front of you. If you choose the young man over adventure, you may resent him or be angry with yourself later. I say again, go for it while you're young and unencumbered!"
Father Goose
10:56:21 AM
05/19/02

Make it four cents,,,,I vigorously concur.”

“Find a way to combine! The combo meal is the best . . . in life it is also the best. Have your boy and adventure. Me and my Dutch boy lived in the States and then we lived in Holland. We traveled here and we traveled over there. We had so much fun and we both got to see and do things that we wanted individually . . . together. In the end it didn't fly, but we had a great time, didn't regret anything, and are still excellent buds. You can figure it out.”

“"In the end, it didn't fly..." A-girl, take note!















Listen to your Father...”

“Distance makes the heart go wander.
Adventure while you can. Deal with the consequences.”

“Somehow, I feel like this is a decision that no one can really help you with, Adventuregirl. You have to make this one on your own. You can go with your instincts, or you can make a list of the pros/cons of each choice (make sure that you review your list afterwards and cross out any items that are worries/impossible dreams rather than real issues). An impossible dream is simply something that is impossible, like a girl who is 6'1" who wants to be a famous ballerina. I'm not recommending that people toss out unlikely dreams, just that impossible ones should not enter into decision making.”

“AG - I truly believe (and its taken me almost 28 years to come to this conclusion) that there is no one person in this world who is your Mr. Right. There are so many possibilities, and its just a matter of time before all the circumstances work out right with just one of those guys. I met my Mr. Right once, but we didn't have everything it takes at the right time. I know there is another Mr. Right out there for me, when its time.

Have a great time hanging out with Mr. Right Now, and listen to *most* of the advice above.”

“Marry the guy, get pregnant, have his babies, and watch soaps the rest of your life. Sounds bleak? Well, so is loneliness. Pick your poison.”

“I agree smiley girl. I love my wife and know that we're meant to be together, but I've met a few other women that I just really clicked with, and felt like there could be something there if we could spend the time to develop it. So I don't believe in this "only one person for everybody" crap.

AdventureGirl: Listen to someone who wasted his youth being responsible instead of young. Go have your adventure now. Loverboy will be waiting when you return or he won't. If he isn't, there's someone else out there who you'll be just as excited about.”

“bitpusher, you are so young that when your kids are older, you can do your adventures with them rather than doing adventures before having them. I know that this isn't for everyone, but for some people I know, it was their plan and it worked well. I was 35 when my youngest was born and I try not to think about how old I will be when my kids are in college. I just hope that I can be fit and healthy.”

“Option 3. Stay home and on TT and have Buddha Bear's babies.

Ü”

“What would I do if stayed here? I mean yeah I might have a really great relationship, but that would be it. I have nothing going for me right here right now. except a great guy, which if he is really that great, he will still be great when I come back next year."
adventuregirl
11:04:21 PM
05/19/02

Adventuregirl... It sounds like you've answered your own question! Good luck!

Are we gonna get to see you before you take off on your next great adventure?”

“Lyndy, my youngest was born when I was 35 too.”

“Well, actually, my wife had our youngest when I was 35. But I was there to catch. lol....”

“if the michiganders plan a hike, by my camp i will try to join you all, email me at my hotmail account if this is to happen. i leave for camp on Wednesday.”