i need love advice.....how to break up w ith a guy

“is it mean of me to break up with him when he might get killed over there????”

“why would you think he might get keep?
is he involved with a war?
if not then why go if there is a chance he might get killed?”

“why would you think he might get keep

sorry abouyt that

i meant why would you think he might get killed”

“No, go ahead and give it to him straight. It is better than keeping a carrot dangling in front of him.

I suggest you consult with my esteemed collegue, Mr. Buddha Bear in this regard.”

“Repetez, s'il vous plait:

Frappe le rue, Jacques
Et ne retourne pas encore, encore, encore, encore
Frappe le rue, Jacques
Et ne retourne pas encore...”

“yeah hes a military man and despite that he cant keep up with me on the trail.... i judt dont want it to seem like i'm being a jerk”

“Do it before he goes, don't send him a Dear John letter after he leaves. And don't wait until he comes back either, that will be just as bad.

Like Nike says, Just Do It.”

“Quizá usted debe enviarle de Paul Simon "cincuenta maneras de dejar a su amante"”

“This is a job for Dear Buddha.”

“No, this doesn't require the Buddha Bear. This is an easy one.

Once you are sure that you will be eventually breaking up with him, you do it:
- promptly
- compassionately
- clearly and firmly

Anything else is like pulling off a band-aid as slowly as you can.

Anything else is inhumane.”

“I would be mean to string him along. Just do it, honestly and kindly.”

“i don't think it's mean at all. a year's a long time. i have a friend at work who's been dating this marine for 4? years. she NEVER sees him. He was stationed in Virginia, then San Diego, now he's somewhere in the middle of the ocean on his way to Afghanistan. we live in NY. Most bizzarre relationship I ever heard of. if this guy was really serious about you I'm sure he'd want to get engaged or something to keep you. just my 2 cents. good luck.
love your user profile quote btw.”

“What Fritz said, and do it to his face. Honesty in relationships, even when relationships end, is paramount. Besides, the two of you might end up remaining valued friends if you are upfront and honest.

If he doesn't accept that, then you still will have done the right thing, and the right way.

Good luck with it. It's not always easy, but nobody ever said life would be easy.”

“Kick his fanny out the door and tell him it's over.”

“too funny. I meant "It would be mean..." not "I would be mean.."”

“There are a bunch of pickup lines.

Does anyone know of a collection of rejection lines?

How bout....

"I hope you don't mind if I don't write. I'm dating someone else."”

“I'm not exactly sure, but I think in his earlier post, Tilt said "FREE CROISSANTS FOR EVERYBODY!!!"”

“Try either:

"I can't be bothered"

or

"I think that you are really gay, you just haven't had the opportunity. So here is the opportunity - I think you need this. I know you think you love me, but I don't think I'm your type."”

“I've always felt if you ask yourself if you should break up with a person...that's your answer..if your asking the question then the answer is YUP!!

I know a good army pickup line

Lets go back to my place and play WAR....i'll lie down..and you blow the hell outta me!!”

“Como esta usted, chili?

Hmmmmmmm.... four semesters of college Spanish and it comes to THIS!! lol”

“What Tilt actually said was, "Strike the street, Jacques And does not turn over yet, still, still, still Frappe the street, Jacques And does not turn over yet... "”

“not to add insult to injury or anything, right, Violin?? lmao!

FREE THE CROISSANTS! a croissant in captivity is not a happy croissant.

but back to business. how long have you known this dude, SC? is this really "love" advice? from what you've said so far, it sounds like you barely know him.”

“There's always the classic:

"I love you but I am not in love with you."”

“yeah, that "encore" thing always threw me for a loop. i think it means like 15 different things.”

“You could always use the trick gals have pulled on me:

Me: Wanna to out next Thurday?
Her: I wanna go out, but I'm busy next Thursday.
Me: Okay, how about next Friday?
Her: What a coincidence. I'm busy next Friday too.
Me: Oh, well then how about Saturday?
Her: Oh, I have a baby shower to go to that night.
Me: Well, when will you have a free night?
Her: I'm not sure, but keep asking.
Me: Is this a game of 20 questions?
Her: No, I really really wanna go out with you.
Me: Okay, how about Friday a week from now?
Her: Jeez, I have a party that I just have to go to that night.
Me: And Saturday?
Her: Shoot, my mother is coming to visit that day.
Me: Okay, how about Friday, August 13 next year?
Her: Don't be ridiculous. I can't plan that far in advance!”

“Break up with him. Maybe you'll do him a favor. What if he's agonizing over how to break up with you? As a former, multi- "dumpee", I was always relieved when the girl broke up with me, sparing me the task of breaking up with her.”

“My ex-girlfriend sent me a note stating that she met, and was going to marry a Tractor Salesman.
Does that mean that I got a John Deere letter?”

“LOL”

“Honey, look at all these responses that I received to my question on the TT Forum. Which one do you prefer?”

“the golden 1:

how would you like to be treated?

(please no cracks about 1 w/gold makes rules)”

“n-n-n-n-n-noooooo... LOL

ROUGHly translated, it means, "I want a shoe with cheese on it"



Hell, I'm still laughing at Pathman.

Duuuuuuude! LOL



I think Fritz nailed it this time: quickly, compassionately and firmly. Kinda like Speedy Gonzalez... ("This won't hurt, did it?")”

“Quiero un zapato con queso.”

“I need love,

......how do I break up?!”

“I've got just the shoe for you, Bitpusher.”

“Just say no.”

“A mi me gusto los zapatos pero zapatos con queso son tan mucho messy--so there ;)

I went to college.....”

“Tell the guy you'd like a threesome - with another guy. He will leave you, and then you won't have to break up with him.”

“What's that about the shoes?”

“lol thanks for the advice guys :) your all great!”

“What a coincidence- While I was in Egypt, also in the service, my "girl" broke up with me- Well, she slept with everyone who was left on the base in GA. Do it, he's surrounded by friends over there who'll help him get through it.”

“I remember this really hot chic when i was stationed in GA....Most of my unit was sent to Egypt....she started coming over shortly thereafter....man was she kinky!!!”

“What about the cheese, Phaedrus?”

“Don't hesitate or wait another day. Honesty is the best policy.

Just make sure you do it in a public place, so if anything happens to you there'll be witnesses.”

“Or, are you breaking up with him BECAUSE he's going A) away for a year, B) To Egypt, or C) Away for a Year to Egypt?

You give no clue as to any RATIONAL reason for breaking up, though I suspect there IS one - or more. I think you're looking for someone to validate your reasoning - faulty as it appears to be - so that you can feel good about dumping someone when the "timing" (and circumstance)isn't quite right...

Tell him the REAL reason, gently, and walk away knowing you were honest and forthright with him.”

“wow...words of great wisdom from a pastry”

“Just break up now. If one of you gets interested again after he gets back, maybe you can try it again. It's not the end of the world and he'll prolly enjoy the freedom too.”

“Obi Wan Canoli - She did say: "... he cant keep up with me on the trail ... ."”

“Women always say men can't keep up with them no matter what the situation!”

“Let him read this thread to see how shallow you are. He's sure to leave you.”

“I am hardly shallow... I was just wondering the best way to break up to least hurt his feelings...sheesh”