How Ruuuude!!!

“I had two customers at the sawmill last wk. and both of them made (what I would consider) extremely rude comments to me. I wondered if you guys would think the same.

The first guy came in and was nice and chatty and paid for the use of our scales (for weighing trucks). Then as he's walking out the door, he stops and asks me how I stay so thin. Before I can even answer he says (and I quote), "Prolly one of them anorexics." Hello!? What the hell is your deal buddy? I was stunned and didn't say a thing. I mean would this guy think it was fine to say to an over-weight person, "What are you, one of them binge eaters?" I hate how it is fine to make a nasty comment to someone who is under-weight and may be struggling w/ that, but horrible to say anything to someone who is over-weight.

The second guy (different day) is a new ranch hand at one of the ranches in the area. He's from Kentucky (and the Lord knows that I appreciate those accents, but this guy was a gigantic hillbilly). Anyway, he buys some steel posts and chats about living out here. He mentions that he's had trouble dating, "because of the trouble w/ women." He then asks if I am married. I say no, but I have a 2 yr. old daughter. Then he looks me straight in the eyes and says (and I quote), "That's just the trouble w/ you women, all these unwed mother types." I said I didn't see any troubles w/ my situation and thanked him for his business. He left pretty quickly, but I am just blown away that people will speak so disrespectfully to others.

Neither of those two men knows a thing about me or my situation. I know I shouldn't be bothered, but it was so mean. Okay, I'm done.”

“Please don't lump all of Mankind with those guys. We're not all bad.”

“Oh, I don't Pathman. But I'm just shocked. Who speaks to people they don't even know that way . . . and the fact that it happened twice in one wk. I was glad to go on my wk. off.”

“Pathman, glad you said that. I was about to say that's why men and women don't get along (refer to the What Women Want thread). Men can be incredibly insensitive and judgmental.

Of course, women can too, I guess.”

“At least you know why the second guy is single.”

“You do know how to drop a man with one well placed foot, don't you?

Screw 'em. They're idiots. I can't begin to imagine why Lester had trouble dating.”

“Nobody is perfect, but some people seem to thing boorish behavior is okay. There is not much we can do about it. We just shrug and go on.

Women can be brutally insensitive, but they do so in other ways.

Look at it this way Newgie, when you wake up tomorrow you will still be good hearted and those two will still be a$$holes.”

“Women can be judgemental??? Nah, say it ain't so, Smiley! ;-)”

“Winston Churchill said it another way after a society dame made it a point to tell him he was drunk:

"When I wake up tomorrow madam, I shall be sober and you shall still be ugly."”

“Dayhiker, that is too funny. He isn't young, you'd think that he'd expect to start running into women that already have children.”

“It's inexcusable, but you know how those small-town people are, with all the in-breeding and everything....”

“Yah, that second guy should have stayed home and married his own kind...”

“Hey now Fritz, I'm one of those small-towners . . . LOL! They were just 2 idiots in the pack. I just needed to get it off my chest. I hate to admit it but they kinda' hurt my "feelers."”

“Bitpusher's right, newgirl. If that guy wasn't good enough for a member of his own family, he sure as hell isn't good enough for you. The world is full of goobers, better get used to it.”

“More evidence why stupid people shouldn't breed.”

“You skinny unwed mothers just don't get it.”

“Even more evidence why stupid people shouldn't breed. :-P”

“Newgirl, I know you are one of those small-towners, that was my joke. He called you an "anorexic-type" and then I busted on "small-town types."

I forgot the :-)

I don't blame you for feeling hurt, but you nailed it when you said "they were just two idiots in the pack." So the main thing for you, and I bet you already know this, is to "consider the source" and not to give them the power to make you feel bad.

Ya gotta love and respect yourself, then who cares what morons like those guys think of you.”

“Hey newgirl.. i can certanily relate to your comment.... I drive a rather large tow truck , and i get all kinds of comments from men..and since im about 5'and 102 lbs, im not your usual tow truck drive "type".. some state that dont you need a booster seat or blocks on your peddles.. kind of stuff.. but just remember that you are a better person than they are, and you could be the one to set an example of how to behave.. Cosidering they are so called "hillbillies" they will always have their attitude.. just be glad that you are not married to one of them...”

“Thanks for all the nice comments everyone. I don't mean to be a whiner.”

“ng, you'll always be a whiner in my book!








(Or is it "winner"?)”

“Hey newgirl. The 1st guy probably thought he was being funny. A comment like that would be my dad's idea of a joke. And he wonders why everyone is mad st him...”

“I am a hillbilly and I am sick and tired of people using the term in a derogatory manner.”

“That could be Treebait. I didn't think of it that way. I've been struggling w/ my weight for so long, I'm probably too sensitive about it. However, I'm certain that the second guy is just a huge jerk-off.”

“Unfortunately, rudeness is in vogue these days. It's the fashion. You see it everywhere, from the in-your-ear rap played at full volume everywhere to advertisers that go out of their way to offend.

On an individual level, those guys are losers. Forget about 'em.

And noogie, enjoy your slim figure while you have it. You are keee-yooooott!”

“Thanks Steve. You're always my biggest fan.”

“steve hiker + newgirl = romance

hehehe”

“That was original Packy-poo.”

“Packy-poo!! LMAO!”

“Original? I can't keep up. Are you two already an item?”

“The way he's been acting like a little soft bunny lately, it seemed fitting. Don't you think Rosey?”

“LOLOLOLOL!! :-D

(that's to the last few posts, not your plight, newgirl. that must have been a sucky week!)”

“Gotcha' Lyra!”

“it's totally true that people don't think anything of saying someone's too skinny! my friend in high school used to get the "you must be anorexic" thing all the time, and she ate the equivalent of a cow or two per week. you should have told him that you have tapeworms, and that he should step back because they're contagious and airborne! hee hee?”

“OH! or, to take care of both of them, you could have said you were pregnant again, this time with the devil's child, and that it caused you to be ravenously hungry...for blood (while eyeing their necks). LOL! i'm cracking myself up...i saw that on some (obviously) dumb TV show!”

“Is there a reality show you won't watch, lyra? lol....”

“HA!! :-D”

“Lyra, you are just too funny. I think that people often feel that it is fine to say something to someone who is under-weight, because they believe they are "helping" you.”

“Years ago my friends and I from a 4-H club were out getting sponsors for our horse show, when a man scolded my friend for the condition of her teeth. She took some prescribed antibiotics when she was young that turned her teeth gray (I can't remember the type). Imagine how embarrassed she was in front of us her friends with that guy. This was back in the late 70's. It ain't new! It ain't cool!”

“Tetracycline. Same thing can happen if the mother takes it while she's pregnant, IIRC.”

“Thank you, bit, I couldn't remember!”

“Yep, unbelievable. Some people don't get it.”

“If I was you I would had told them to go Fuc! off!

8)”

“Don't lay it on the line or anything Mike! LOL! Thanks. You're right, I shoulda' said exactly that.”

“The first dude was probably just flirting and he tried to make a joke and it went south.
The other cat was probably flirting too and when he found out you had a kid it threw a monkey wrench in his plan to be the first to breed ya.
Some dudes freak out when it comes to the thought of a ready-made-family. Some people don't like kids.
I'm personally glad I never had kids of my own. Susan's kids are cool and the (honerary) grandkids are OK too but If she didn't have any at all that would be just fine.

.....sorry, I kinda got off on a personal tangent. hehehe

Newgirl, To hell with them guys. Your a cute chick. You shouldn't have any problems hooking a guy that can deal with the kid thing.

As far as being Skinny; Just be glad your not 250 pounds of sagging blubber & skin. I'd rather have a skinny chick than a fat chick.

It's a fuct up world sometimes. Sometimes ya just gotta scratch ya head and say f**k it.”

“Don't take no shi! from people!

8)”

“All of us have met their type, right, y'all? It doesn't matter the gender or race, either. The one who cuts in line, the one who thinks they are the important person in the room, the one who cuts in front of you on the road (they are going somewhere important), the one who speaks before their brain (if they have one) is in gear, etc., etc. I don't claim to be anybody special but NOONE is better than me! We were all born naked with no money and when we die they only put clothes on us so we won't give anyone a heart attack at the funeral...lol. I kinda feel sorry for them, because of all the possible friends they are missing out on because of their behavior. BTW, Here in N.C., Hillbilly isn't a bad thing...I'm one myself. As a country boy, these guys would fall in the category of Redneck. Do yourself a favor, smile and feel sorry for them as they wallow in their ignorance.”

“LOL, I love that cat!

Sorry Newgirl, that second one must have been disheartening. I agree with the dude, you probably broke up a little fantasy that he was having in his head, and since his world centers around him, he needed to flay you for it. As far as the anorexic thing goes, you need to ignore it. A lot of us would love to be slim like you, but I've seen anorexic and you are not it. Enjoy that newergirl and your classes and the rest will fall into place. There has to be some educated thoughtful young men in the area, if there is a university there, right?”

“like ma dad told me the 3rd time i dropped outta college...."It's ok son....the world needs ditch-diggers too...."”