Divorce Sucks

“divinity, you did good. Never show any hate toward your ex in front of the kids either :)”

“Way to go!


8)”

“One thing I made sure of was not to call the kids and complain about their Mom. Yeah they know we are getting a divorce but I thought it best not to bring them into it. They have to know that I am divorcing their Mom not them. It has been hard to keep a open relationship with the kids since the spouse calls them constantly and tells them what is going on. I have asked the spouse not to but it doesn't work. I told the kids to tell her they don't want to hear it but it doesn't do any good.
There needs to be something put into divorces that prohibits the parents from calling the kids up and complaining.”

“My divorce papers state that neither of us can say bad things about the other in front of the kids”

“I'm glad to hear the good news for you Ewker. Here's to the next phase of your life.”

“div, I sure wish I had known you could put that in the court order cause I would have done it.

Coop, thanks I am looking forward to it.”

“it's ok Ewker......my fav phrase....

..I sure wish I had known.....”

“Good luck and what a relief for you Ewker. You have a lot to think about, like what you want your new home to look like. It is important to make sure that it feels comfortable and happy, rather than cold and utilitarian, since you will be there alone some of the time. I hear that the AT Shelter look is hot this year. LLBean was selling porcupine pellets but the supplier couldn't keep up with the demand, but I'm sure that they still have the rafter mice if you are interested.”

“Actually I think that blown up pictures from lots of trailtalk trips, in a grouping covering one whole wall, would be really cool.

Don't worry too much about the kids, just give them your attention whenever possible and they will forget any divorce mumbling they hear from the spouse really early on.”

“Way to go Ewker! And hey, someone up there was talking about STAINed fabric??? LOL!

"I do not recall at this time."”

“~~om eye for the divorced guy~~~~


well...i hope you are happy NOW!!

LOL......i mean.....glad things happened the way you wanted them to :) heh.....

really BE free sweetie guy.......participate, enjoy,love every experience "out" there as they come...with no conditions or expectations or efforts to cling to it for your source of happiness.....love love love all of your life...
go inside....make your space an expression of your inner happiness

RElax and take deep breaths alot too...
do not look back , unless it is a fond memory...

you will not believe what beautiful things start to happen to you when you really look "out there" like that everyday~~~~~

just be careful who you let sink their claws into you!!LOL...or...not...u mite like that!!!!!

jes kidding
........enjoy the experience of divorce......soon it will just be something that happened to you that didnt kill you or take your birthday away.”

“My experience is that divorce can be a positive. Staying together "for the kids" is often positively malignant...though not always (talk about sitting on a fence, but that's the way life is). I raised my kids solo and only built up my ex in their eyes..to the extent they must have wondered if I contributed anything. I never trashed her and she didn't deserve to be trashed.

My kids are now grown and I have their love, respect and some incredible memories. When my son was 12 he was pitching in a Little League game. I was the coach. There was a need to take a little walk to the mound and while on the way I decided to do my job as a dad and embarrass him. Rather than say a word, I just leaned over and kissed him on the cheek. He looked at me with a complete straight face, tugged the brim of his hat and said "It's okay now Dad, but not in the majors."

I wish you the best.”

“I bet the folks in the stands loved that.”

“Sorry to hear about your failed marriage, it will hurt but you can't force someone to love you. Move on when the time is right, but not too fast.”

“...with the right pills and drink mix you can....”

“LOL!”

“all the divorced people please move to the dating sucks thread”

“wingding, I will be moving officially on May 18th or 19th to the dating sucks thread. Oh wait I have already posted there. I am just trying to get into the swing of things ahead of time.”

“Good luck to ya Ewk. I hope it all works out well. You will be a new man.”

“I hope me and my hubsand Gissmaeioux dont never get the vorse! But if we do I wold prolly get mayreed to some buddy els I gess.

(Do not say to Gissmaeioux that Kattroo is perty hamsom!)”

“Thanks Geo, I appreciate it. I must say I am looking forward to it. I have already started looking at trips and things to do to keep me busy.
I see to many people my age sitting home doing nothing but rotting away. I refuse to do that.”

“Sometimes when I'm at work I overhear married people griping about their spouses. Whenever that happens, I comment that going home to a nice, empty, quiet apartment suddenly seems like a great thing.

Not to say it doesn't get lonely from time to time, or that there are not totally boring nights. But it beats the hell out of hashing over old crap from different angles every night of the week.

I think with a good circle of friends and staying active you'll be fine.”

“Quit whining, maybe if you weren't such losers in control of your lives, you'd still be married...

Jeez....”

“Why do you call people in control of their lives losers, BS? Or did you just lose another bout with the native tongue? It's hard to get the hang of it, huh?”

“bounce

Looks like it may be needed by yet another TTer. :(”

“dang SS you beat me to it”

“Here I am!!!!!”

“We need a new thread, "Britons steal American girls"...lol...”

“that's it Bit - optimism - that's what I need ;o) So what's the best way to pick up these American girls then?”

“Y2 - As long as you havn't been married 10 years and have no kids, you'll be OK.
If either of the above conditions are in play, get a damn good lawyer that is not afraid to fight for your rights.”

“Y2, you see what happens when you go on all these hikes and leave the spouse at home. They just don't understand that your going out backpacking.”

“It's all pretty amicable so far - just hope it stays that way.”

“Well, I've found that after you knock them out with the chloroform, supporting them under the arms, then quickly picking them up under the knees works best. Oh, and it's a good idea to already be holding them when you clamp the cloth over their mouth and nose, otherwise they might drop to the floor and knock their little noggin before you can catch them. Don't want to be up on murder charges now, do we?

Oh wait, you meant dating. Well, what I suggested over on the "Dating Sucks" thread should work okay.”

“The first thing I did in DC After I split with my fiance is go to a strip club. Get Ye to a strip club, now!”

“who is getting the big D?”

“ynami just got separated...moved out last weekend.”

“so, are you available ynami?”

“Wow! That was quick!”

“Maybe there needs to be a "Newly Single" trip planned?”

“Sounds good to me.”

“Y2, don't go near women for awhile. Just go out and do all the things you either couldn't, or felt you couldn't, do. The next thing you know, you'll be committed! =80”

“"don't go near women for awhile"
Does that work?
Did it work for you?”

“yes!”

“well maybe not so available - but that's a secret ;oD”

“Yeah, get really drunk, go to a strip club then go to LULUs. (There are a couple strip joints near LULU's). But don't touch any women! just look, maybe talk to them. If you're not strong enough to do this I'll show you how.

LMAO! I'm killing myself!”

“"Y2, don't go near women for awhile. Just go out and do all the things you either couldn't, or felt you couldn't, do. The next thing you know, you'll be committed! =80"
aero
02:57:51 PM
03/11/04
ignore this user

but what if these things involve women?????”

“You'll wake up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat screaming "Half!!?"”

“wondering if anyone recently divorced can answer this question. Do they always have court reporters in a divorce case?
I got a copy of a letter from my lawyer telling the court reporter when to be there. Anyone familiar with this.”

“I think court reporters are in every case, divorce or otherwise??? I duuno, it's a matter of public record though????”

“The court reporter is that person who sits and types up the transcripts of all proceedings in the trial or court action. They also appear at depositions to record everything said. It's standard procedure.”