Saying "I love you."

“I don’t normally go for this personal crap but….this morning I was woken up at work at 6:30 AM by the family of one of the guys I work for. They came to tell him his father passed away last night. It tore me up to see my buddy in so much pain and the very day after christmas and the day after he asked his girlfriend to marry him. He loved his dad very much and I felt so powerless because anything we try to comfort the grieving with is nothing but a clique` at the time. I know these types of threads mean little to most because it has zero to do with everyone and I apologize. Sometimes I think we just like to write things out for perspective. But it made me really think. I thought about how I had just seen my own dad a day ago but I didn’t tell him I loved him. It’s so hard for us guys to do this but I think I’ll give him a call today.

Sometimes we need to be reminded to tell the ones we love that we do love them. Yeah, I know, “Quit being a little bltch Nigal!”. LOL!

Back to the Shenanigans!”

“Nothing wrong with it Nigal. I just about lost my Dad this last year. He had to have quadruple bypass surgery. Stuff like that makes you stop and think about what's important.”

“Sorry to hear about your friends' loss. It hurts to watch people you care about in pain. I relate to what you say and am thankful to this day that I gave enough attention to my Dad when he was alive and showed him how much I loved him. He deserved it and got it. You never get over a death like that, but time eases the pain a bit...”

“I can relate to this in numerous ways. So, good luck.

Keep the love flowing. It not only can keep relationships strong, but it can even disable an adversary.”

“I love you too, Nigal.

And Tripleshot, and Treebeard, and Nowslimmer.”

“Nigal - for some of us this is a community, and things like that matter. If people can post everyday about farts, why not pain, love and loss?

The father of an old and dear friend of mine died just weeks before my father's retirement party. Everyone kept saying, "I wish he he was here to hear the stories (or the love or the laughter)." Because of that, I realized what a neat opportunity his retirement party was - that he could hear the love, the laughter, the stories and laugh with us.

Life gives us lots of reminders and opportunties to get it right - I probably miss most of 'em, but am grateful for the ones I get.”

“Guess I've been disabled!

LOL.”

“No problem with posting a thread like you did. My mom died in 2002 after a long illness, and just after I'd been laid off, so I know what the experience is like. The conflicting priorities of looking for a new job in a down economy and handling a deceased parent's funeral & estate does take its toll.”

“Nigal, I think people should use those words much more freely. I'm lucky. I have a family and even a group of friends where we say it very often. I don't care if anyone around us thinks it's weird, as you point out, it could be my last chance to say it.”

“think about how it makes you feel inside to hear those words from friends, family, lovers, creation, that look of unconditional love and attention you get from your pets..........the rush, goose bumps, heart speeds up or melts down, ya get tingly or fuzzy..(even hearing it from someone you do not want to hear it from causes ripples in your being :) admit it)

it is probably the most powerful and liberating phrase anybody can ever utter to anyone, in any language, in any situation.

u know what ole james taylor sang:
"shower the people you love with love" that is easy....
to shower the people you do not think you love with love is liberation on another level.”

“Be willing to let them go, too. My mom was on her deathbed and my brother was hurrying to get home from Alaska. He would be there in just a bit. "Hold on for David," I told her.

Even though she hadn't responded to anything in months, it seemed she frowned and breathed less evenly. It finally occurred to me that maybe my pleading was very much comprehended behind her unseeing eyes and in her mind... she was trying to hold on and the effort was great.

Finally, I said, hey, if the effort is too much, you don't need to hold on for David. You go where you need to go and be peaceful. He'll remember you as you were. We love you, you go if you need to.

She relaxed. And she died not much after that. Of course it was awful, but... well, you get the point...”

“several of us (myself included) have been too harsh on those who just want to share. its therapeutic and we should not begrudge your doing it. the fact that some of us have has contributed to an atmosphere of negativity and cynicism only hinders those who want to work for those feelings. for myself, i apologize for having had a hand in that. please, dont apologize for letting it out. god bless, and i hope all goes well for you and your buddy.

Long live The StormBringer!”

“i meant "those who want to work OUT those feelings" not "work for"”

“I don't have trouble saying, "I love you." I say it all the time.

I do have a problem with people working out their emotional issues in a public forum.

This is the type of stuff to be discussed with the people you tell, "I love you."”

“lizs

I was very touched by your story.
Thanks for sharing it.

My parents are 80+ and I treasure every chance I get to be in their presence because I know that call is coming soon.”

“Nigal, I am so sorry to hear about the loss. I know that the guys you work for and care for are so much more then a "job" to you. You put your heart into your work . I am really sorry to hear about his loss. Losing a loved one is such a horribly painful event but the prayers offered by friends and family are of great comfort. Let me know if there is anything we can do to help him out...”

“A couple that I know went to the husband's fiftieth reunion of graduating from medical school. Right there on the dance floor, one of his friends collapsed. It was pretty shocking to all who were there, having a great time reliving their youth. Of course, there was no problem finding a doctor in the house.

The story did remind me to say "I love you" to my parents while on the phone for the holidays. I wish I could be there with them and my 95 year old grandmother this week.”

“all i have to say is, thank god bacpac doesnt write the rules of the internet.”

“How Ironic that this thread is here.....My brother and only sibling disappeared over 3 yrs ago...I had not seen him for two years before that but he always called me and kept in contact....I had no way of knowing where he was or even if he was alive.....he is all the family that I have left.....I was confused..worried...sad....& finally pi$$ed...I had no clue why he disappeared.....I didn't do anything wrong...and could not understand why he was doing this to me......He called me tonight...I was so shocked.....surprized...& even mad...we talked & he decided to come see me....and met me at the Huddle House as he was passing thru on his way back to Missouri from Birmingham after dropping off a load in his truck...it was wonderful.....we laughed...cried....hugged...he said he was sorry and I forgave him....we had a hard life growing
up and he is finally coming to terms with it with the help of a wonderful woman....This Christmas has been a GREAT one!!!..and my brother loves me and thinks I am a GREAT person.....”

“that's great div!!! Now I see why your happy and have been up all night. I'm happy for you!”

“I'm seeing my Dad today - thanks for the reminder Nigal.”

“Bacpac is right (somewhat). I had all day to myself yesterday though. Everyone was either working, shopping or traveling. It did make me feel better having posted it and reading all the great replies. Thanks.

I love you man...”

“ST. PETERSBURG, Florida (AP) -- A man was arrested on charges that he slashed the throats of five dogs in what his son said was an attempt to win sympathy from his estranged wife.

Gary John Martin, 50, denied wrongdoing after being arrested on animal cruelty charges Wednesday. "This is devastating. These dogs are my kids," he said.

The injured dogs -- four cocker spaniels and a miniature Doberman pinscher -- were discovered in Martin's home last Friday by a neighbor. The animals are expected to recover.

As sheriff's deputies showed up, Martin arrived home from work and collapsed in the front yard, crying, "My babies, my babies, my babies," neighbor Joe Keough said.

Martin told neighbors that someone broke into his house, injured the dogs and wrote threats on a mirror in lipstick.

Martin's son said he may have hurt the dogs in an attempt to woo his estranged wife, who always thought he loved his dogs too much.

"It's sick," said Tim Martin. "But I think he was trying to get her back."

http://www.cnn.com/2004/US/South/05/20/dogs.attack.ap/index.html”

“shoulda cut his own throat!”