Why Dating Rocks!

“spirit is chicken”

“I've never been here before, are all you people actually dating rocks?”

“snake eyes, since I am recently divorced (May of this yr) yeah I think it is fun. sure beats the crap I was going through”

““spirit is chicken”
Ewker
7:38:15 PM
10/28/04
ignore this user

Some things are better off not being shared aloud over the internet LOL”

“you can talk pre CMB can't ya”

“no way :) Ferget it, I aint giving ya any dirt.”

“I'll answer you Ewker! Like I said before, my friends have called me a "serial monogamist". One thing at a time. I like to find something I like and stick with it... So, no, I don't date more than one person at a time, even if it is a casual thing. It just gets way to confusing in the end.
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“di, I would be willing to bet more women date one guy at a time than men date one woman at a time.

One of the first things I did was to read Mars and Venus on a date. I know a few others on here who have read it also. It is a good book to read and reread...lol”

“I have dated up to 5 guys at a time but it gets a little crazy. Usually only up three unless I end up choosing to go past the just dating phase. The more than one guy situation is not for what I would call a serious (sleeping with) relationship. In the just dating situation with more than one man, they don't know unless they ask specifically and that usually a pretty serious discussion anyway. That's my private business. On the other hand, I believe in being true in mutually exclusive relationship. I've never cheated on a serious boyfriend.

Lol...Once I had to keep a list of the guys I was dating and info like if they had kids, what they did for a living, etc. Sort of funny. My friend advised when discussing the mixing up of name thing: "Just call them all honey"
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“I've only been in a situation where I was "dateing" (going out with - not sleeping with) more than one girl at a time once. It was fun, but it did get hectic. I'm better suited for monogamy I guess.”

“I prefer to be with one woman at a time.”

“I think most of us prefer to have one really special relationship at a time. In my experience you have to "kiss a lot of frogs to find the prince among them".

Of course I have a commitment problem to begin with. :-( I'm working on it :-)”

“2.. but neither were really that "serious".”

“I got lucky Diane. My wife has a fetish thing for frogs.”

“Liz and katie found out about each other last Wednesday. They seemed OK. I know katie is seeing someone else. I'm OK.

Katie's roommate, Sonya, was going overboard flirting with me that night.

Katie & Sonya....22 yr old Cali intern roommates.....

I have no choice, even if it kills me. I will kick myself for the rest of my life if I don't attempt what I, and all of mankind, fantasize about.”

“dhutch, I can see where dating so many would make it hard to keep everything straight. You could forget which movie you went to see with a particular guy. I can see you saying don't you remember seeing that with me. He goes no, it wasn't me..lol”

“I think you have to see more than one at a time because the one your looking for may pass you by while you are dating someone that may not be your soulmate.

How many times have you had a chance meeting with someone only to never see them again. Could that have been your mate.

I remember a while back I had to go to the mall. As I was getting out of my car a woman was getting out of her car. We walked towards the mall I opened the door for her and we went our separate ways.

I was in the mall for about 1 hour, maybe more and on the way back out I ran into this women again as she was on her way back to her car. We both looked at each other and laughed how odd it was that we both went in at the same time and came back out at the same time.

I have wondered if that was meant to happen and we should have talked more. It is just one of those things that makes you think from time to time.”

“Lol. Yup”

“Would have been..."We've got to stop meeting like this, let's meet for coffee instead" If she responds that she's married, seeing someone..say, lucky guy and in the case of seeing someone, give her your card anyway.

Yep, you'll look back and wonder from time to time.”

“"I have no choice, even if it kills me. I will kick myself for the rest of my life if I don't attempt what I, and all of mankind, fantasize about.”

And what would that be? The fabled Man-ah-sha-twat? Yeah, I always fantisize about disappointing two women at a time. LOL!”

“LMAO!!!!!”

“See, Nigal, that's why most men fail, worrying too much. ;)

And thanks for a new quote.”

“I can't remember what dating is like. Started dating Barbie in high school, now we are married.”

“No kidding WK. I met my sweetheart in highschool and have been married for 15 years now and been with her for like 18. If I were single I'd probably not even try and just be A-sexual. I wouldn't even know where to start.”

“Ditto Nigel!

We have been together for 14 years, married 6 of them.”

“After my college girlfriend and I broke up I was like that, had no idea even where to start so I just didn't date. Now I'm very lucky that I met someone and things just clicked so I didn't have to worry about how to ask her out etc...”

“Congrats you two! Make sure that you remember that every day. Even if you already do, make sure your wives know it! They're lucky women.”

“I think you have to see more than one at a time because the one your looking for may pass you by while you are dating someone that may not be your soulmate.



I believe you will never "miss" someone you are suposed to be with. I don't think the universe, God, or whatever higher power you believe in will let you miss that opportunity. That higher power will always set you up when the time is right. IMHO.”

“"We have been together for 14 years, married 6 of them.”

A poligamist huh? 6 wives over 14 years? That's like 2 a year! How do you do it? Oysters? The Ropes? :)”

“i don't know Smiley, he may present it to you but you have to act on it.

remember what you read in the book about finding your soulmate. It could be just a brief meeting between you two.

The woman in the parking lot might have been it but I didn't do what i was suppose to do so I missed out.”

“Ewker, maybe it's this way???

She was sent as the person you didn't ask and learned the lesson from. All went exactly to the greater plan. You won't make that mistake again with your true soulmate.”

“Ewker - Any more than three gets too confusing, time consuming and expensive.”

“I didn't have to worry about how to ask her out etc...”
Bison
10:30:37 AM
10/29/04


In case you need this in the future:

How you do-in?

A positive response to this means your in and the field is open, worries over.”

“dhutch, then again I may have missed her and I won't have that chance again.

oh well, in the mean time I will have fun with the ones I am seeing.

Although there are the ones I am not seeing anymore than I miss. But I enjoyed the time with them and hope the feeling was mutual.”

“My situation is comparable to WK and Nigal. I try to do a good job of what dhutch said. I read this thread and the other one on topic from time to time. I think it's an opportunity to learn from some of the situations yall have been through to make sure she knows how much she's appreciated and loved.”

“I don't get why people *have* to be seeing someone. Isn't it just okay to be single and hang out with friends and stuff? Then when your *BAM* happens, you aren't distracted by someone that isn't "the one"...”

“I agree with Dicentra. And the thing is, is that it can happen in the most unusual way and at a time when you least expect it. During the time you are single and not looking, it gives you a chance to brush up on who you are and take care of yourself so when "the one" comes along, you have no questions of "if" or "are they?" You just kind of know.”

“Yup. You might even (literally!) walk in their back door! ;) LOL.”

“thats weird!”

“Of course it is di. But it's fun to be seeing someone too. Whichever!

Ewker - be a little optimistic. If she was the right one you would not have missed her. period.”

“And if she is the right one, Ewk, you WILL run into her again. Trust that one.”

“Thanks for the backup WE”

“I guess I haven't had good luck with "just dating." The last time I tried that... and I was VERY clear that I wasn't looking for anything serious... He up and tells me he thinks he's falling in love with me. ON OUR 5th DATE!!! YIKES!

*Dicentra runs away quickly!* LOL”

“Note to self: Wait till 6th date to tell Di you're falling in love with her... lol.”

“"Ewker - be a little optimistic. If she was the right one you would not have missed her. period."

dhutch1
10:40:28 AM
10/29/04


This is the mantra of many an old spinster sitting in the rocking chair on the porch of the old folks home.”

“Well DDX it wasn't about the timing of it... it was just that I had made it clear that I didn't feel that way and he still was... I don't know what!

I suppose that would be okay if you both felt that way...”

“Nah, bison, I'll be the old spinster hiking past you on the trail.”

“sorry all. Max's mind is in the gutter...he's been peeping on the neighboor cats...

I think me needs to get him nutered :D”

“If you believe you are destined to meet the right one then there is no need to ever do anything in order to find this "soulmate". So, do what you have to do in order to survive in life and your "soulmate" will fall into your lap. ;)”