How many times do you have to ask...

“...someone to do something before you're socially allowed to get angry at the situation?

Trying to avoid being an a$$

:)

whats the consensus?”

“Ask twice, then be an ass. Showing the person that your are pissed might make them do what you want them to do quicker.”

“hmmm...

my rule of thumb is to ask three times - then after that I'm usually pretty p.o.'ed. Especially if it's something really simple....but important.”

“What was the question?

If it was get your hands out of my pants, I say once.”

“Depends on what you're asking.

If you're asking a waiter for a refill of your water, it's different than if you're asking a friend to come over and paint your living room.”

“Or if it was to get your hands out of mr nice guy's pants, I'd say whatever he says, but I'd be laughing at the time.”

“If I don't paint your living room, please don't be mad at me.”

“It was a request to lock the top-lock on the apartment door (the deadbolt - and most secure of the two locks).

And I've asked a few times...and now I'm getting angry because it involves our safety and the safety of the home.”

“A roommate?”

“yeah - so it's tricky..”

“What is the gender of the behavior modification resistant individual?”

“Uh, you could lock it yourself, riiiight?”

“Do you mean on the way out, or when you're there?

If on the way out - you're right. Your roomie should lock it.

If you mean when you're there, then just lock it until he/she decides to come around. No biggie.

If he/she doesn't lock it when you're not there, no biggie. Not you in harm's way.

Personally, I've lived with control freak roommates who had to have everything their way, and this sounds a lot like those types of issues, but I'm probably wrong.”

“What is the gender of the behavior modification resistant individual?"
Owl
07:01:28 PM
01/31/04

Behavior modification resistant individual?

LOL

I wish I could talk like that. No wonder I don't know what a Rubicon is.”

“I guess I know what a rube is :-(”

“Twinks - I started to answer your question thoughtfully and had about three paragraphs. Then I realized that I have absolutely no idea what the answer is.

Sorry I couldn't be of more help.”

“A Jeep Rubicon?? ohh yeah, baby! The Jeeps that come with the modifications to make them off-road-ready, just in case you're not the do-it-yourself, tinkering type?? GIMME A RUBICON!!! Is that what you're talking about? I think it's a trail somewhere, too.....”

“I see, it's a thread!!”

“thanks guys - I think I just have to keep asking and stressing the importance of the situation while swallowing my frustration...maybe a funny sign next to the lock?

I had a former roommate who put up pictures of people from COPS (really silly shots of arrestees) with a caption "Do you want these people in your apartment? Please remember to lock the door" when our third roomie would forget to lock the door altogether.

Maybe I'll steal the idea and create one?”

“It’s especially hard for the ladies because no matter how many times you ask, after you lose your cool and pi$$ed, everyone just says, Sheesh! What a bltch!”.”

“You could change the lock.

They have a couple varieties that throw the bolt when the door is closed. Some surface mount verticle bolts aren't too expensive & probably more secure than horizontal bolts.They have magnetic locks or elec controlled (timed or remote). You could hook up the control to telephone or computer code too. Lot of solutions out there. Worked years ago on US gov contract, major corporation locksmith. Might do it again when I retire.”

“yep. and, if the recipient is also female - then you have to deal with their hurt feelings and pouting - which then makes you feel bad about having to be clear about your boundaries...hopeless, eh?”

“One question, is he doing it purposefully, being passive-aggressive or is he being absent minded and forgetting? If the first, get rid of him and get a new roomy. If the second, catskhiker's ideas sound good, or a funny reminder.”

“absent-minded - not on purpose

so i think the funny reminder would work best”

“I used "post-it-notes" one time for a roommate that had a hard time remembering to turn off the clothes iron. I put them everywhere, literally, and I think I finally got the message across.”

“some things are just not worth fighting over. Now a bolt lock in NY...hmmm, yeah I would prolly start getting pissed after a while.

I know that's dorky...but maybe stick a note to the lock for a couple of times. It's no fun living with a roomate that doesn't talk to you.

My 2 cent's if anyone cares.”

“I'd recommend a good tongue lashing, but that's just me.”

“lol, I didn't read all the coments, so I guess my "write a note" comment isn't so far fetched.”

“Hire somebody to kick the door in (when you are away) and beat the crap out of your roomate.”

“From the title I thought this thread was about getting lucky.

Forget the pick up line and small talk, just ask.”

“When I first read it, I thought it was a toilet seat thread.”