My son has a girlfriend =:O

“So at dinner tonight, my 9-year-old, Tucker, casually and matter-of-factly mentions that he has a girlfriend. It seems so terribly young. To say I was shocked would be an understatement. I responded casually right back to him, but I'm wondering if I should tell him to lay off girls for a while or what? He's only in third grade. I don't remember any of us being remotely interested in that until we were a good two or three years older. He told me they don't "do" anything yet like hold hands. I thought boys at this age hate girls and form No-Girls-Allowed clubs. Am I way off base?

Dang, I feel so old all of a sudden.”

“I had a little boy friend in 2nd grade and I hated him :)”

“I dun think its anything to be worried about, it is probebly just him becoming friends with a girl for the first time.”

“i had 2 girlfriends in kindergarten. just some notes and smootching out on the playground. ok, mostly smooching... but i turned out alright!

gotta go.. i need to get my woman to fetch me a beer and make me some dinner.”

“I've got a 9 year old girl and she's expressed only a very limited interest, which suits me fine.

My son though, he's 12 now started having "girlfriends" about at 9. It was kinda cute - none of them lasted long and it was all very innocent.

Your right though, the kids are a couple of years ahead of things from when I was 9 or 10. I'm pretty sure that in 3rd grade girls were still gross.”

“When my little cousin was in 3rd grade he told me how about he watched one of his friends with his girlfriend do something very inappropriate...something that most kids don't do until high school and it wasn't sex and it wasn't kissing. It made me sad to hear that kids were doing that crap at that age. Sad.”

“Good god man! what the heck were they doing? You can't just leave vague like that!”

“Third base. He's a freshman in high school now and still swears it was true.”

“Yo, raddy crawled out of the woodwork tonight? Cool!

Nine is about "that age". Be casual but ask questions.”

“awww vicsaw, and it gets worth. I found a letter in my 13 year old's backpack...ahhh, I almost fainted. You don't even wanna know what this girl wanted to do to him.

be afraid, be very afraid.”

“LOL, I found one of those once, almost made ME blush.”

“And I thought that my generation was bad...turns out we're pretty good.”

“Aw, crap!”

“almost made you blush?? then it wasn't as bad as my letter. LOL

I guess it's not s e x if clinton said it wasn't huh?”

“There were two threads awhile ago related to this topic. TownDawg was the author of one and his 14 yr/old daughter was asking him about the topic. And someone else was having problems with their 12 year old girl because her friends were having sex. Can't find the threads though.”

“and I MEAN LISTEN GOOD!

you have to tell this poor child of yours the truth...that women, yes ALL WOMEN..are wicked and will only break your heart and that it's not worth it, love is a farce, a falicy to trick men....a mere chemical reaction in the brain in order to continue the scecies.....

you tell that boy of yours to run away as fast as he can and never EVER look back....

side note; my 12 yr old still refuses to acknowledge girls...to me anyway. i think he confides in mom on these matters....can't imagine why.

10yr old has had a few girls as good friends and will be quite the ladies man...


6yr old.....better watch your daughters around this little guy...”

“i love contributing to thread degeneration”

“I think they pretent that they don't care about girls. I know better. Specially since I've read this letter. He always comes home with breaded hair because those girls like to play with his hair. That's what they do during class for gods sake?? You got to check out those girls now days...12 years old, make up, big boobs and all. Dang, and I thought I was bad when I climbed over the balcony to steal some apples in the apple field. yeah right!!!

Anyway, I would take him to the side and tell him that you can't control him every second, but you do hope that he will be doing the right thing one day. Explain to him that you can get sick not only through s e x. You may think it's too early, and that depends... I learned that boys are behind in those things, but the girls around them get them real quick up to date.

9 years old huh? Yeah, my younger son had a g-friend back then too. It was cute how those 2 said their good-byes in class when we moved from TN. :(”

“i have to say that once i hit the school yard i was off and running, just so happens that i turned out ok even though i started getting it on when i was relatively young...well not that young but ill say 13-14 i think...i dont think that i would go back and change any of that...it was pretty clumsy at the time but then again practice makes perfect...”

“evil, i'm tellin ya.....”

“You all are not making me feel any better. I thought I had a few more years of true childhood yet.

We are having a good mother/son talk this weekend. I told the boys we might go camping if they are good. That might be the perfect time.”

“you know what vicsaw that would be a good time...do they have a father in the house...that might help more...if not then even a close family friend...i didnt get a chance to talk with my parents too much while growing up...it was go to school, come home and work, the do homework, go to sleep and do it again....my dad was big on the outdoors just not when he needed to be, it would have helped me avoid some of the LITTLE pitfalls of my younger years...you dont want the phone calls my rents got at 4AM...driving home with an angry father in the truck while trying to come up with that oh so good excuse just isnt fun...not at all...i know my rents worried their asses off about me, never home always out all night or weekend depending...but i think i had a better head than alot of kids my age then...i stayed out of trouble most of the time but when it found me it found me good...just keep your eyes and ears open not only to your kids but for your kids”

“I think my son was in third grade the first time he asked me about sex. So we went for a little ride and had a talk. That was kinda weird but only because I was figuring that it was still a couple of years away.

My #1 Rule - always tell the truth about such things, information is like a suit of armor.

He went through a spurt after that where he was kinda girl crazy, not to the extreme, but he was thinkin about 'em. and they would call the house like you wouldn't believe! He came out of his room once and hung the phone up with a big grin announcing that he'd just had a "Three Way", which really got my attention, (it was a three-way phone call).

He's kinda slowed down a little now, but he said the other day that a girl at school likes him and that she's "hot".

Good luck!”

“I think we have a pretty good relationship, hence the easy, off-handed comment tonight. He's still extremely open with me. I'd like to keep that communication going for as long as possible especially as he enters adolescence. Although I'm more focused on being his parent than his friend, we really do chum well so far.

He spends a regular amount of time visiting his dad, although dad's reaction to this will be to high-five Tucker. So I'm on my own as far as giving him some parental direction and limits. I've got a great, wise brother who is a good role model to them as well.

Thanks, all, for your advice thus far!”

“you seem pretty smart, I think you'll handle it pretty good. The brother can be a big help too it sounds like.”

“first off....dang! where was i in middle school!? i didn't actually have a girlfriend til this last september, we're still going out happy to say too :). and im a sophmore now.
So now to all you parents who have kids in high or middle school, forget it, if you haven't reached them early on, like in elementary school, and got your message across, it's pretty much too late. Trust me on that one. Since i was in about 4th grade the one thing my dad constantly told me about girls was to respect them, simple as that. Every time the subject came up that was his message to me, and i think it worked rather well.
Next I have no intentions of having sex until im well out of high school and hopefully married. To me, girls always seemed more important than just objects, or something to look at and feel. I seem to be the minority in school though, at least from what i've gathered. I know it's because of my dad, at my age i think, having sex would be basically disrepecting the girl, therefore breaking rule #1. He also stressed the idea of him being "big brother" in a way, since as long as i can remember. "Whatever you do, i will find out about it, maybe not right at first, but eventually i will find out everything." Frankly he's been just about right lol.
Another deterrant has been the thought of getting a girl pregnant, i would never be able to walk down the halls at school the same way if something like that were to happen.

Anyway, that's advice from a 15 year old so make what you want of it, and also, i've heard things at school that would definatley make you more than blush. 8p”

“Howitzer, props man - at 15 your definitely in the minority with your stance on sex, but I'm impressed with you and your Dad.

Hey, I heard things in school too that would have made my parents blush, and some that I would have had to explain, that part hasn't changed, I'm sure. You just don't expect it till about 14 or so at least, not 11.

LOL

thanks for the insight.”

“Good for you, howitzer!!! You certainly speak beyond your years.

And I can tell you from experience as someone who waited a long time (happy about that in hindsight) and also who has discussed it extensively with many people, there aren't very many people who look back and say, "I wish I'd done it sooner."

I like the messages your dad has imparted. I'm going to borrow that myself. Thanks!!!”

“9 years old huh? Is he banging her yet? Tell him to use a comdom. No telling where she's been.”

“oh man,”

“You need to listen to more Limp Bizkit music.
"Did it all for the Nookie" is a good tune to live by.”

“LOL...I was just remembering when I was in first grade and I thought I had 7 "girlfriends"!”

“I wanted to do my first grade teacher. Wasn't sure exactly what "do" was but I knew I wanted to do something with her. She was Hot.”

“7 Girlfriends?
That actually sounds like adventure.”

“LOL...yeah I remember specifically telling my dentist's female assistant about them and she was quite impressed...”

“I have told my boys that girls must be respected.

Aside from disease, sex can bring about unplanned children and among the worst of heartbreak would be fathering a child with an irresponsible girl with little in the way of class or morals.

That child could have a rotten life and you might have no control over what happens to the child or even know that they exsist.

"Your" child could grow up in a very bad "family" situation and be abused or neglected.

That kid would also be my grandchild, my kin, for whom I would feel responsible as well.”

“Third grade - that is pretty young. Starting in the 7th grade, oral sex was pretty common - at least in my clique. I gave and received many times. That died off by the time we entered high school, and it seemed that most of my peers were probably at least 16 before they actually had intercourse. For me it was 17.

Ah, stupid youth!”

“ARG! My son is 8.5 and is definitely interested/curious about girls. He has been an expert at hugging women for a while (head is about breast height!). He takes a couple of dance classes, which are mostly girls, and since he's pretty good at dance, he's in classes with older ones. He certainly enjoys that, especially since they give him lots of attention, being younger and all.

My wife and I are definitely keeping an eye and an ear on him to make sure we're on top of things (we hope!). I've already been informed that "the talk" will be my responsibility. So I've already started rehearsing....”

“To quote Graucho Marx:

"God put it in the middle, so even a fool could find it."”

“My grandson is almost 3 in pre-school & has a girlfriend. He talks about her all the time & his mother says she talks about him. They sit & play together most of the day.”

“My 6yrold son is in love with a little girl in his Kindergarten class. He wants to "mawwy" her...”

“I had 2 girlfriends when I was 5. They were twins that lived on the same block. We played house and even got married. (Yep, I married both)

They moved away 2 years later and broke my heart.

While visiting a friend over one weekend while I was in college, I ran into both of them. Both were attending Indiana University and both were major hot!

Unbelievable how some things turn out.”

“at 5 and 6 it's cute, its a couple or three years later that it gets a little scary for us parents, (you can always read their minds just a little and you know what they are thinking)”

“So? Did you marry them both?”

“I wish. We literaly ran into each other at a party. After talking for about 20 minutes we realized who each one of us was.

I did ask if we were still married, gotta lot of laughs out of that one.”

“just whatever you do, don't tease the poor guy like my Mom did to me.

I have a complex now from it.”

“Twins? Every man's fantasy.”

“No teasing from me. That would shut down communication I think. I try to treat what he says to me with great seriousness even if it makes me want to smile or cry or cringe.”

“Judging from the thread title, you're not quite ready to babysit the grandkids, LOL”

“Do they make condome for little kids?”