DATING SUCKS TWO

“So, here I am to start a new one with a new twist for all you experts out there...

As most of you know, I am single and I am, well, you know, a little bit of a leaner to the left when it comes to dating a certain gender. (How was that for saying Ellen and Melissa?)

Funny thing is, the dating is not much different except there is no cost for birth control and there is no expectation for who will pay for a date...usually, it is whoever wins the "I will pay. No I will pay." scenario.

Similarities are all over the place. No luck in finding a backpacker. No luck in finding someone without an ex-husband and with kids. No luck in finding someone without drama attached to them in places you had no idea existed. My pattern seems to be the divorced, two kids, ex-husband in the picture, and needs someone to take care of them a little bit financially. Should I just say tahell with it and go for Snafu or Stovestomper?

Opinions please and/or advice.

LMAO!”

“Crude comments expected and welcome for those of you so inclined.”

“Wolfie, I haven't seen you post in a while?

Sorry that dating sucks right now. Are there any singles-type clubs or gay bars/clubs near where you live? We have a ton over in this area.”

“Hey Scorchy! Yeah, there are those places here too but they get old after awhile...plus, I really don't want to meet someone with a drinking problem who just broke up with their partner who needs a rebound. The type I am looking for does not sit in a bar. So, no bars for me.”

“I did have this 21 year old tall blonde from Laguna Beach, California email me with picture and tell me she was a nympho and was I interested in meeting. Ummmm...no. I sent her Ewker's email addy.















j/k Ewker, sorry.”

“LMAO!!!! Ewker won't be too upset with you.

Yea, don't blame you for not wanting someone who dwells in self-pity at a bar.”

“Any local hiking or bping clubs in your area?
I met a nice guy at the local restaurant and it went slow but worked out well.
We are old though and it is probably harder for a young person.
It's hard to meet people unless you want a bar fly.”

“yeah, i don't do the whole bar thing anymore either, well except to grab a beer and maybe a burger now and then.

the local club thing might be a good option. I joined a local mountain bikeing club, I'll let ya know if it shows any potential.”

“"Crude comments expected and welcome for those of you so inclined......"

LMFAO!


It's tough to find someone. I concider myself to be the luckiest person in the world :)


I'm getting to that age group where techincally, half of my friends should be getting divorced (1st round).

Thankfully, nothing has happened and I hope it countinues.

Maybe start a bping within the community yerself?

I'd help ya!”

“until I read your 3rd post on this thread, I thought I had the perfect person for you. Tons of fun, no kids, no ex, loves the outdoors, etc. Lives in Alma. She's had the same probs...sounds like to me...doesn't want anyone with kids, yada yada yada. Unfortunately, when her and I used to bud around about a year ago, she was still liking the beer. Are you sure you don't want to change your criteria just a tad? LOL”

“I wish I knew someone up your way, Wolfeyes. Other pockets of the country would probably give you more of a pool from which to choose. Or are you willing to do a long distance thing?

In the meantime, keep having fun with the trailor park boys. You crack me up!! :D”

“"Should I just say tahell with it and go for Snafu or Stovestomper?"
Wolfeyes

Thanks For the compliment
:-)...haha...

Nothing wrong with being ac/dc so to say. My GF/XGF had those tendencies too, I did never minded one bit. She had the best of both worlds so to say. But she never hooked up with anyone to the left. At least that I knew about...haha
I think that is fine with women wanting to pursue that. There is a different type of bonding involved. Again It comes to the Trust, Respect and Love. With my GF/XGF she lied all the time, has a HUGE drinking addiction, and lots of drama with Ex,other issue,etc. So I could never feel comfortable or trust anything she said. So, if you think ya want the best of both worlds so to say, I'm the man for you babe :-) LOL Plus I'm a wicked loyal guy, open mind, never married, no kids and back packs too.
Good Luck and Happiness in your pursuit.

PS...
Me email addy is attached to my TT profile, but I have been having some trouble with my home PC in last 3 days.”

“I did never minded one bit. =
I never did mind one bit.

Too early in the morning :-)”

“PSS
Don't leave out Stovestomper!!!
He is also a single guy and plays with bee's and makes lots of real cool gear too!”

“wolfie,
Do you have a mountain bike? Many of the women at the girls with dirt weekend Sass and I attended were outdoor freaks and really fun. Some were couples, but several appeared to be available and more interested in your sort of dating. I don't know them well enough to hang out, but if you're out biking....”

“Ahhh what happen with the other team?

So does gender have to do with organs now because I always thought otherwise.

So do you wear lipstick? Like lipstick wearers or none wearers? Just curious because my sis doesn't but dates wearers.

There is nothing wrong with drinking unless of course you are a bad drunk. Moderation is important in everything except for sex.”

“What would otherwise be??”

“I think dhutch is correct about the mountain bikers. The sport seems to have a lot of women in the "comfortable shoes" crowd. Not that there's anything wrong with that.”

“OMG!!!!
LOL!!!!
What a thing to hear first thing in the morning!

Hang in there sweetheart! There is a sane gal out there for you somewhere!

And like I said, I'll buy you a beer anytime!”

“Holy Moly!

Laqtis, thanks but I don't think I really have time to start any kinda club. Not only that, but the "club/group" thing is iffy cause in this type of lifestyle, I have found that most "members" of the club have ALL been together at one time or another.

Ivygal: A few drinks here and there are not an issue. It's the bar flys/daily drinkers I don't need. Then again, sometimes, its just a phase. So, with that said, what ya got there?

Ruby: Long distance is not for me...at least I don't like it much. Currently, I could be doing that but choose to remain local/same state as I think that is where I am most likely to, well, ya know...score. Trust issues are way too complicated with distance.

Dhutch: No, I ain't go no mountain bike! Not quite sure I want a mountain biker...unless of course, it were Stevie Nicks, or Sandra Bullock on it. (The young Stevie Nicks, of course)

Briar Rabbit: Non-masculine, please. If they look like men, what is the point? Not that there is anything wrong with that...

Snafu: Honey, when I date or am in a relationship, I am exclusive to my partner. If I were to say, date a man, then I better be willing to stay right there in that choice. It's an emotional thing, not a physical thing, for me. I am not too creative in slinging my emotions every which way.”

“The type I am looking for does not sit in a bar. So, no bars for me."
wolfeyes
01:34:53 AM
06/18/04

Obviously you haven't been to the right bars. ;)

On a serious note - Lower your standards and you will wind up in divorce court”

“On a serious note - Lower your standards and you will wind up in divorce court"
bearmagnet
08:18:08 AM
06/18/04

You got that right! Been there, done that, only it was not a "real" marriage...I still got screwed like it was, though...therefore, I have risen my standards to heavenly-like.”

“In the meantime, keep having fun with the trailor park boys. You crack me up!! :D"
Ruby
07:14:56 AM


Ruby - You better not be talking trash about Snafu! Nothing wrong with trailers except they attract tornados.

I live in a nice two story colonial with a full basement! ;-)”

“Snafu, you got all your teeth?”

“"only it was not a "real" marriage...I still got screwed like it was, though."
wolfeyes


was it a "Common Law" deal?”

“No, it was a "I trust you" law. Bought a house in Nov 98, she decides to take on with new catch, and leaves me with mortgage and new dog in Mar 99. I love this dog! Only good thing out of that five years now that I think about it. I mean, yes, there were other good things I am sure, but for this long, I have yet to remember exactly what they were.”

“I can tell this is gonna be another nonproductive work day! ;-)”

“You have your friends, wolfeyes! The Michiganmountaineers love you! So do the trailtalkers! I know you know that, I know it's not enough sometimes but you do have it.

Sounds simple but your work schedule also is not conducive to getting out and meeting people. Is there any way you can change shifts for a short time?”

“No way to change shifts but hey, I have been using my shift to my advantage. Remember, I go into a lot of homes and in those homes just might be a present someday...I keep my eyes open and ears peeled. And, yes, I am grateful to have all my friends, and everyone on TT but that only can go so far, ya know? Trust me...I am not looking to replace friends so no worry there!”

“Have Faith!

I find myself saying "forgettaboutit! I'm just gonna be single forever and just enjoy the good things I do have, Friends, Family, TTer's,Even work has become a good thing, co-workers are cool, etc...."

Anyway I have found when you look too hard for a S.O. It seems to be just that much harder. I'm at the point now where I don't mind being alone. Obviously we all need and like interaction with others, just let it happen naturally. Believe me once you stop looking, someone will come into your life when you least expect it.

PS
Don't give up on Men either!

Nothing wrong with going the Ladies route, but there are just as many vindictive/mean/lying/manipulating females as there are vindictive/mean/lying/manipulating males....
It's not the sex that determines what is in the person.”

“Snafu, why yes, there are just as many lovely women out there as there are men. Just because they are lesbians doesn't mean they change. Why do you think I could give some pointers on the other thread? It's basically all the same crud. However, I have found that over the years, I really enjoy friendships with men. I have some very good friendships at work and having been honest with them, they treat me with respect. And I am not looking very hard. I just would like to know if there are other ways other than going to bars to meet people...I am getting old, ya know?”

“meetoutdoors.com might be meet-outdoors.com??”

“I find myself saying "forgettaboutit! I'm just gonna be single forever and just enjoy the good things I do have, Friends, Family, TTer's,Even work has become a good thing, co-workers are cool, etc...."


snafu29
08:53:20 AM
06/18/04


AMEN Brother!

Spend the time doin what YOU wanna do, when YOU wanna do it. Be yourself and have fun with it. Good friends can't be beat and when your really having fun and enjoying just being who you are is probably just about the same time you'll catch someones eye.

That's my philosophy anyhow.”

“Say hello to Daphne, wolfeyes!

She's a cute little compact model.

A college environment sure seems like a good place to shop.

Not like I've been shoppin', mind ya!

(I'm a member of a full house)”

“The last thing anybody of any persuasion needs in the realm of dating help is advice from me. I can, if you want, tell you how to screw up relationships. That's my area of expertise. I'm damn good at it, too.”

“I checked it out, DHutch. Found Junglekitty, 35, looking for female hiking partner cause all her friends are lazy. But, I gotta pay to email so forget that. No Junglekitty today for me.”

“"Just because they are lesbians doesn't mean they change. Why do you think I could give some pointers on the other thread?"
Wolfeyes

Ok ya lost me there?LOL
I was a blonde as a child!!! LOL

That's cool on the other stuff. I should probably not be the "giving adice" dude, seeing my luck and relationships have not been too sucessful. HELL maybe I'm the one who is all screwed up!
I just try to stay upbeat.
I don't like seeing people feel sad. I wish we all could be happy with life all the time.

"I am getting old, ya know?"
wolfeyes
Ralph Wilson (Owner of the Buffalo Bills Football team) When asked about why are you getting married at 75+ yo, he said "your never too old to be happy"

Yeah I don't like bars either.
When I'm ready sometime down the road. I may try out those dating sites. What the heck :-)

Good luck babe!

PS
Besides there is always Stovie!
He is a good dude!”

“Hey Marko...I am almost 40 years old. How the hell would that look, me lurking around some campus? Trying to think where I could go....”

“Stovie is so far away...”

“Take a class, learn to cook? Garden? Teach a class, backpacking?”

“I bet he would move for you :-)
Not saying he is desparate. I know few folks who have fell in long distance love and ended up moving to the others area. And they where both happy. I could happen :-)”

“I think you already happened, snaf...”

“"junglekitty"

ROTFLMAO!

No offense!
I just love that name/handle for Bi-Female. Wicked cool”

“Hell woman, I'm 51!

Its the faculty/staff that look good to me, not that I'm lookin'........just lookin'.”

“wolfeyes, sorry to hear about the March '99 breakup. Now, on to some serious stuff. I'm not an attorney, but I think if the mortgage and deed were in your name only, you're fine. If they are not, you should get them changed ASAP. If the deed is in both names, the ex could have some claim to the proceeds if/when you sell. Hopefully, it's a moot point and you've thought about that before.”

“LOL @ Bit!!!!

I did happen! lol
I could Un-happen, who knows?


correction on previous post
I could happen = it could happen”

“Where you live Wolfie? Maybe moving to a city with more opportunities could be in order if you're not up for the long distance thing.
I know there's loads of left-footed ladies in my gym... or at least that's what they all tell me ;o)”

“Actually I love the expression left-footed. It's a soccer reference that has been applied to many things.
I very staid a proper girl I used to work with once told me she was a left footer, while talking about going to church. I was a little surprised to say the least. It was only later that I realized that she was using the term in reference to her Catholocism. The Pope wouldn't have been happy otherwise.”

“Wolfie, take a break from the crud. Come to Ithaca next month and hang out with the East Coasters for a few days, enjoy the cookoff, see different scenery, and let your hair down.”

“How immoral! Homosexuality is a SIN! They're very bad people. Very bad.”