WOMEN...Don't Give Out Your Phone Number If.....

“WOMEN...Don't Give Out Your Phone Number If you don't plan on following through with meeting the person you gave it to.

I asked this girl out at her place of work but she was pretty busy at that moment and asked me to come back later. So I did, and she gave me her phone number.

To make a long story short, I still have yet to receive a return call for the messages I've left on her answering machine. They all were simply "Let's have dinner some night?" and "Wanna go to a concert next week?" but noooooooo, no reply.

I've only stopped by her work a number of times only to find she wasn't working those nights. But last night she was on the schedule (3-9pm and I was there ~8:30pm), but the girl I asked to get her came back and said "She's already left for the night."...or did she?

I feel like calling her one last time and gently telling her to simply tell guys "I'm just not interested!" and to NOT give out her phone number and get someone's hopes up if she's not really sure she wants to follow through.

I need closure!!!
last edited: 11/20/04 9:36:46 AM”

“Stalker




J/K


I've only stopped by her work a number of times

Most women I know don't like the desperate approach.
last edited: 11/20/04 9:40:37 AM”

“May I ask if you've ever asked for a phone number and then never called the girl? If you have it's just fate returned to you, if you haven't done that, just forget her!”

“mtnsteve, I just never knew when she was working.

Tango, that has never happened! If I get the number, she gets a call.

My Grandfather pursued my Grandmother and finally pursuaded her to go out with him. The were married exactly one year later to the day of their date, and were married for almost 60 years till PopPop passed away.”

“I wish you the best...it sounds like she is really something special for you. Give it time, if it's suppose to be, it will.”

“I guess since you have not had a date with her, this could not go on the "Dating sucks" thread. Maybe the "Not Dating sucks" thread.

"She Should Be So Lucky To Date A Guy Like Me"

I agree.”

“"She Should Be So Lucky To Date A Guy Like Me"

girls don't like guys that are overconfident.”

“I thought girls had low self-esteem and needed the men to be confident for them? ; )”

“My Grandfather pursued my Grandmother and finally pursuaded her to go out with him. The were married exactly one year later to the day of their date, and were married for almost 60 years till PopPop passed away.”
Buddur
9:50:57 AM
11/20/04



So what you're saying is that stalking is a family tradition?

J/K!


Maybe she's playing "hard to get". Maybe it's time to return the favor.”

““I thought girls had low self-esteem and needed the men to be confident for them? ; )”

what a warped way of thinking, lol.
OVERLYconfident, I said. read the post again.”

“buddur, did you remember to take off the ski mask when you went in to her work? that may have been a put-off”

“Wow, I need to hook up with Buddur and get some tips on how to pick up women. Real style.”

“I wonder if she remebers who you were Buddur? Maybe she can't place the name on the answering machine and needs a reminder of where she met you? I'd leave one more message and your number and leave it at that.
Kinda sounds like another example of a woman not able to be up-front.”

“my advice would be never to ask a girl out on a date via her answering machine”

“You don't catch a fish on every cast. Youdon't catch fish unless your hooks in the water. Smells like fish.....”

“Don't ask her out on the machine again. Just tell her that you simply wanted her to know that you won big in the lottery and you're making plans to move to a Mediterranean Coastal Area. Then sit back and wait.

You can always tell her later that IRS seized the funds because of a previous tax problem.”

“She's just not in to you. Her loss. If she was really interested she'd be calling. Don't waste your time on this one, cast that net again! hmmmm advice I should take myself”

“Are ya sure it is her number she gave ya????”

“She definitely has your number.”

“Buddur, as bad as he is, was entitled to receive a call back if he asked her out, especially for a specific date like a concert.

For me personally, I would never ever give my number out to someone I didn't want to call me.

Do not call her again. Keep your self respect. I'm sure she knows how to contact you if she is still interested.”

“I like nowslimmer's idea of telling her you won the lottery. And Lipstick's idea of keeping your self-respect.

Anyways, in Montreal here, we have a radio station Mix96, that have a number for guys and gals, who don't want to give their real number to suitors. The person calls and get this message, "Mix96 Losers Hotline, the person didn't really want to give you their number...so they gave ours...how does that make you feel?" Most people would leave a message saying how they couldn't believe it...or how hurt they were etc. The listeners get to hear some of the messages, twice a week.”

“women can be pure evil.”

“I am separated but not yet divorced. Not ready for romance but looking for friends, put up a profile on one of the personals sites. Spelled out my situation very honestly.

Three days ago I was talking with a young woman and I didn't even ask.....she said "my number is xxx-yyyy, if you want to call me....silly, isn't it, I have ten single guys begging me for my phone number and I give it to the married guy, lol!"

I was pretty tickled by that.”

“I've met several women who prefer to date married guys. Trust me, those are the numbers you want to keep. They're looking for some fun with no commitment.”

“HO's?”

“Fun can mean more than sex, but yes.”

“Silent J, those women that date married men are not always fun. My girlfriend would let the guy's wife or girlfriend know that he was cheating. What was fun, wasn't fun anymore, atleast not for the guy that was cheating. I don't know how my girlfriend did not get her @ss kicked by one of these guys. She didn't even do it to get the guy for herself by ruining his relationship. She did it just for fun. Some girls will let the guys wife or girlfriend know to break up the relationship and end up with the guy.
last edited: 11/21/04 12:47:16 AM”

“EarthNsky said it best above,"women can be pure evil". ;O) No offense to present company.”

“no offense, but the married man shouldn't be cheating anyway... he deserves to be caught.”

“Maybe she changed her mind after having given her number to you. Had she been drinking at all when you got the number? Or maybe since the initial meeting, she met someone else. She should have the courtesy to tell you she's not interested anymore, but if she doesn't, then there's a good sign that (1) it's not meant to be and (2) you wouldn't want to be with someone who has difficulty being up front anyway.”

“Good morning Vic!”

“Buddur,
Don't listen to scorch (sorry scorch I have to disagree with you here) From what I've heard about you from friends and reading your posts, she WOULD be lucky to go out with you. She just doesn't know you and it sounds like she's not willing to take the chance to do so for some reason.

Someone said she may not have given you the correct phone number??? Either way it's a mean rejection. Are you sure you want to date a woman that behaves in that manner? But on the other hand, could she be on vacation or something? If you really do want to pursue this ask her out in person, maybe for a quick coffee break or lunch near her workplace.

BTW I agree, WOMEN, don't give the number out if you don't expect a call. Just say no, it's so simple to be honest.

Good luck Buddurman!”

“Some chick gave out my old phone number as hers a few years ago. I had to put up with messages to "Jennifer" on my answering machine until I moved. Sheesh.”

““no offense, but the married man shouldn't be cheating anyway... he deserves to be caught.”

Spoken like the true "Other Woman"! Scrotchy don't be a skeezer! Hey, wasn't that a song back in the 70s? Ah, just ignore this post...LOL!”

“Just to fill in some gaps...

The only time I really asked her out over the answering machine was when I simply couldn't talk to her one on one. And I even said that in my message, that I was hoping to ask her in person. When she gave me her number she told me she was a very busy person...but too busy to return a phone call??? Frankly, I have done my best to talk to her in person and not via answering machine.

And that IS her correct number she gave me. And she wasn't drinking when she gave it out, she was at work.

At the least, she missed out on a dinner at a nice restaurant and some decent conversation. Regardless, it's her loss.”

“I did tell a man "no he couldn't have my number".....he got ugly with me.....I sure don't want someone like that in my life anyway....but I would never give out a fake either.....I agree with Dhutch1.....do you really want someone like that in your life???...just chalk it up as her loss....”

“i've given out a fake number once only because the guy was relentless. i told him i wasn't interested a few times and he kept saying, "oh c'mon just as friend's we'll go out," etc etc... so finally i gave him a fake number and moved on.”

“

"I need closure!!!"
last edited: 11/20/04 9:36:46 AM”
Buddur

"She's Shown Herself To Not Be Worth My Time"
Buddur

Damn, you sure wasted enough of my time with it on a beautiful weekend!

Actually, you just provided an excuse for me to waste my time myself.
last edited: 11/21/04 10:07:25 AM”

“Post her phone number. I need a date for the Presidential inauguration.”

“Hey...we can all call her and tell her that she missed a GREAT chance!!!!”

“dhutch & divinity - You Go Girls! ;-)
Be honest.

Move on budderman, she ain't worth your time.”

“Sometimes I call a number and the girl doesn't remember me.

Sometimes I call twice and leave messages, no more.

Sometimes I give out my number per request. Most of the time I regret it.

Sometimes people are really uncomfortable/uneasy/unsure of how to just say no and give out their number hoping to never deal with you again.

One should never take it personally.”

“Buddhur,
did you ever see the episode on Seinfeld when George kept leaving messages for some girl and she was out of town... Each of his messages kept getting more and more frantic....

Finally, he caught up with her and realized that she hadn't heard the 25 other (irate) messages from him (saying that he knew she was there and not answering, etc.)?

I think it would be wise NOT to call her again, because maybe she IS busy, and will call you back, but if she's not interested, she'll think you are stalking her...”

“buddur, I was in agreement with your thoughts, "Too busy to return a phone call?" That's just rude.”

“'Taint rude, it's code talk.”

“I haven't read the whole thread but ...

If she gives me her number she gets a call. No prob, but I don't call again (assuming she has a message service and I left my own name and number) until she calls back.

I have offered MY number to the odd woman and - yes - have got the odd call (is odd the right word here?).”

“How odd was the call?”

“I think I only give my number to odd women, also.

Perhaps it takes an odd women to call in the first place?”