My dad!!

“Received a call from Germany.

My dad almost died last night. He had a stomach ulcer that busted (??).He almost bleed to death internally. My mom realized something was wrong when my dad past out because of too much blood loss, so she called 911.

He's okay but is receiving blood transfusions.

I feel relieved knowing he's okay. What hurts is that he cried for the very first time in his adult life! At least what we know about. He really was scared, he really thought he would die. Imagining him feeling that way really hurts.

I always thought that I wasn't really close to my dad, we actually constantly argued, never really got along. A couple of years ago when I visited Germany for the last time I realized that I grew up, and we got along much better. Also noticed that he was sad to see me go back to the US.

I tell you it's really scary to have someone close to you almost die. This is a totally new experience that I knew would come sooner or later, but I am not ready for it yet.

Please send all your good vibes and prayers to my dad.

hey, thanks for letting me vent real quick. I know it's personal crap...but it makes me feel a little better :)”

“Prayers for you and your dad. Thinkbubelz lost his mom 7 years ago-- it made us realize that we needed to appreciate our family more....

I hope he gets better soon!”

“Good thoughts for your family.”

“My prayers out to your dad...what happened was his ulcer became perforated, and into a major blood vessel in the stomach. In older people, the blood vessels are too stiff to contract and close off the bleeder, and so they bleed to death, sometimes without realizing they are dying. Your dad is lucky.”

“Yes, he was very, very lucky. I tell you my Germany vacation can not come soon enough.”

“Sending good vibes over to dad in Germany!”

“Good vibes to you and the family....


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“Thoughts and prayers for your dad, Gemini. Sounds like he was lucky, indeed.”

“Yea, like stik said, this is a personal matter, but not crap, so don't apologize. :)

I'll say a prayer for him, Gem.”

“You got it Gem!”

“Its rough watching the grown-ups growing old. I want to be twelve, in grade school delivering newspapers for a living, riding my bike and coming home and my Dad being alive. But I can't change or alter the past. I can just hope to have a present which will be a pleasant past in the future.

Best-o-wishes, Gemini.”

“wow.. that's some scarey sheet. hope everything turns out okay....”

“OMG Gem.....hugs and best wishes!!!!!!!”

“Sending good thoughts eastward, or westward, or kind of northeastward over the pole,... Ah, whatever - sending them his way!”

“Limpy is right... you cannot change things that are past-- only how you live your present life and how things go on in the future....

One day I dropped my mom off at work-- the wind started blowing and her bangs flew up, showing a few gray hairs... She looked so frail walking down the sidewalk to her office-- It made me sad to see that she is growing older....

This coming Saturday, my sister, brother and I are going to have a family celebration of my parents' 40th wedding anniversary--it's so funny, because they are all concerned about the costs-- I told my mom not to worry about it-- the kids would take care of everything and they needed just to sit back and relax!”

“Prayers!!!!

Make sure they test/treat him for the ulcer bacteria, Helicobacter pylori!!!

And they should also make sure the ulcer heals appropriately, if it doesn't he needs to be checked (biopsied) to make sure it isn't cancer.”

“Thanks ya'll!
Limpy...yes, that's how I feel...wish I could go back in time.

Some funny memories...

I remember the time my dad chased me down the street because I talked back at him.I ran like the wind. lol Then I remember the dollhouse he build for us where we played with our little soldiers and firecrackers.
He yelled at me for climing on the roof of our shed or on our cherry tree, or for locking my neighbor into our trashcan.

I was always in trouble...back then I didn't understand that he was worried... :-/

I always thought there is no "bad" cancerous ulcer...I was wrong?? Oh boy... got to check on that with them over there.”

“Hang in there, I'll be thinkin' about ya!”

“Hope everything is ok. If he recovers well, then use it as an opportunity to get closer to him. Ya miss em when they;'re gone”

“Gem - Ya'll take care of each other!

Tell your Dad some of your own parenting problems. He knows more than you think.
He at least will laugh about you going thru some of the same problems he did raising you. ;-)”

“Wow, My prayers are goin' out for your dad Gemini.”

“it was anxious around the crash bang homestead thang before my dads lung tumor was diagnosed as benign. theyre still not done going for tests to decide what to do about it, and hes still on sick leave, and it makes life a hassle for him, but its a relief its not gonna kill him. just slow him way the hell down. im really hoping they can get it without radiation or high-risk surgery.
well, i didnt mean to go on and make this about my problems, i just intended to commiserate and say "i know a little of what youre goin thru"

kisses and hugs, gemmy xoxo”

“Thanks everyone :)”

“I'm thinking of you Gem...

I saw my dad cry for the first time after he had his pacemaker put in a few years ago. I didn't know until after that operations involving the heart can cause depression. He was even willing to go to counseling which absolutley shocked me. The man who never talked...I think that was the first time I saw him as a person rather than just as my father.
A while later came dialysis, and now a large blood clot in his leg.

Hang in there!”

“Gemini, sorry to hear about your dad. Sending you and him lots of healing vibes.”

“I'll keep you in my thoughts Gem. This is actually kind of spooky because I've spent the last two days putting a roof on my dad's new edition. The work was back breaking but we had so much fun working together and I was thinking, "I really should enjoy these times I egt to spend with Dad." and I thought of how many times people here share bad news about family and it made really happy to have spent this time with my dad.

So think of your own good times you have had with him and stay hopeful.”

“I had a close scare with my dad a few years ago. I know what it's like and wish him and you the best.
Brian”

“OMG, glad to hear he's hanging in there. Keep us updated Gem and we'll keep him in our prayers.”

“My thoughts are with you, your dad and your Mom. Having just had a scare about my Mom (who was admitted to the Hospital Thursday and should come home in about a week), I know how close to home it feels.”

“Knowing how much your love your kids, and I certainly saw that -- your love for your dad goes much deeper, and since the ocean separates your hearts, the news of his trial with the autumn years of his life are especially tough on your heartstrings. I know how'd I'd feel, and whatever emphathy I could hope to protect, I feel your sheer terror perhaps, as you recognize that years add to our joy -- and the depth of our fears.

Take care beloved.”

“Oh Gem! I am so sorry! I hope everything turns out ok for your dad. I will be thinking about you and your family. Take care.”

“best wishes to your dad....though I lost my dad when I was 6 ...I remember him well because he worked nights and kept me during the day...lots of good memories...My mom is a very strong woman and was left to raise 5 of us....she was NEVER sick until this year..and as of this past week....she has been in the hospital 5 times in a year...Just happy to give thanks that \"the tough old broad\" as she has referred to herself is still here...”

“Best wishes for you and your family Gem!!!”

“Hey, Gem! Every good vibe I can possibly muster up, headed right for your Dad. Hope all goes ok from here. Hang in there. We, here, are definitely thinking about you and you family...”

“Best wishes for all y'all. Hang in there, and I hope he feels better soon.”

“Just wanted to tell everyone how much your thoughts,words, prayers are appriciated.”

“Gemini, good thoughts....

Out-runnin' your dad?
You crazy kid!”

“My dad and I are very close. I can't imagine every losing him. Best wishes for your family. I hope everything turns out okay. Sounds like they caught this just in time. Hang in there.”

“Good thoughts heading towards you and your family Gemini.”

“Hang in there Gemini, My dad had a heart attack a couple years ago, so I know how you feel. Hope everything works out for the best.”

“Best wishes for a complete recovery for your Dad”

“I could never outrun my dad. I just learned to keep my older brother between me and my dad so he took all the swats on the behind. LOL

I hope all is well with your Dad. I lost my Dad twenty three years ago. I still miss him.

You said in your first post that you "visited Germany for the last time." I hope you mean that as "the last time I visited Germany." My advice, book a trip there now. Do not wait for anything. Go!! Spend what you have to. When you get there, give him a big hug and say, :Ich liebe dich, mein Vater!!!!" SOrry if my German is not perfect. I got it close, I think. It is something you will never regret.

AJ”

“My thoughts and prayers are with you, Gem.

My daughter and I are best friends - she bummed a university ride to travel 750 km to Montreal where I picked her up. She wanted to go to my rugby club's annual banquet with me and we had a blast.

I visited the family cemetary last Sunday where all my family are buried; I go there about twice a year, in the spring and autumn.

I buried all my own family except my ex-sister who lives in Los Angeles.

Take care.

Doug”

“Prayers to you and your family. Rejoice!”

“I tried to out run my dad, once. Nevermore.

Best wishes for a speedy recovery.”

“Gremlin, you mean poppa is no longer in the trunk?”

“Hey, I out ran him back then...at least I thought I did. But then...I also was scared that I'm gonna get my butt whipped. :)

Talked to my mom and sister, he's in a much better mood and is feeling good...still in the hospital though. I can't say it enough, he was very lucky.”

“Positive thoughts heading east!


Didn't they find out a few years ago that ulcers are connected to a virus somehow?

hmm.


Get Well Soon, Daddy Gem!”

“A bacteria, actually, Helicobacter pylori. You get large doses of antibiotics to cure it.”

“hmm...they told my dad it's stress related. stress and something else...i forgot what..but I know it wasn't a virus.

hmmm, don't know.”