TT confessional. Step into the booth.

“thanks, ss, wasn't sure.

lz - I had a fiance. Lived with her for 3yrs before I proposed. It ended badly. IMHO because we both were desperatly trying to salvage a sinking ship. We were thinking more of the commitment then our happiness.

"Badly" is a very nice way to describe it and I'm happy that I learned my lesson. Very happy I learned the lesson without a divorce required.”

“Acually, lizs in person is very sweet.
I met her a year ago at Ocala 2.”

“I would love to know how many people would call off their wedding at the last minute if they wouldn't be embarrassed or lose money since they sent out invitations and put deposits down already.

Within the 6-12 months or so of planning time, a lot can go wrong, and I think many people start to really think, can I put up with certain behaviors from their perspective spouse.”

“I don't understand why women that sleep with married men were called whores.

I may be stupid . . .but isn't the married man that is the dirtbag?


Assuming the woman is single, then she is not cheating on anyone. She is presumably having fun.


Isn't it the married person (be it the man or woman) who is the "whore".

I can certainly understand that the wife who has been cheated on may view the other woman as a whore . ..but really its is her husband that she should deal with.

Don't get me wrong . . .I think a woman who has a habit of getting involved with married men has some issues . . .no question, but a whore???



It's pretty old school (think TALIBAN) to stone the woman to death when it is the man who cheated.”

“What I'm about to comment on is meant in a good way: It appears that most of you here relate "cheating" to Sexual encounters, and sex to relationships.

Not all sex is about a relationship, either one going bad, or a prospective one you want. Recreational sex is about enjoyment of another person in the moment...

personally, I find flirting to be a form of cheating, simply because it misdirects ones emotions outside a committed relationship, BEFORE it has gone to a physical level.

Flirting is a testing of the waters, How far can I go, how interested are they, maybe there's something more here....hmmmmm?”

“Oh God, I'm going to hell...”

“I also have to say here, that the original post Bit made sure sent the tone of this post to a serious level at warp speed.....
last edited: 2/10/05 1:20:19 PM”

“lol....”

“There are 2 types of cheating - emotional and physical. (Flirting falls into the emotional side.) You can have one or both. Only physical is a one night stand. Only emotional is calling your opposite sex friend every night for an hour chat, every night, that stuff forms the emotional bond. Then sometimes the emotional develops into the physical, a progression. Either one is cheating, but some who are caught might try to claim the emotional type isn't real.

One or both spouses cheat in 60% of marriages. Harsh reality.”

“I haven't done anything with the young woman who I see as I exercise, lol...I was just being friendly.”

“Bit, you have mail...”

“Blackmail?...”

“That ain't dirty, is it? lol...”

“"lz - I had a fiance. Lived with her for 3yrs before I proposed. It ended badly. IMHO because we both were desperatly trying to salvage a sinking ship. "

Bearmagnet


Hmmmmm, so the pump failed?
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“well-put, lee!

LOL @ Violin...did you at least feel her melons?”

“One or both spouses cheat in 60% of marriages. Harsh reality.”techntrek
2:28:05 PM
2/10/05

Thank God someone pulled up the stat. I thought it was big. I expect apologies from everyone. I will accept kisses, especially from MLF's

LMAO!”

“MLF's ??”

“I gotta say. I love flirting. I love women.

I love naked women. Ilove fun sex.


I also love my wife.














Why is it always mutually exclusive???”

“Sigh.

MLF: Mothers who Love to #&%!$.

Slang for "Slutty" Moms”

“Mark O


Mothers I Love to F.”

“Please accept regional variations”

“oh, I thought it was Matronly Lactating Females...LMAO”

“OK you guys, just as long as it ain't about body parts.”

“ST, that was funny!”

“and my pump didn't fail! But beware Women who take Depoprovera (sp?) for extended periods of time.”

“Uh.....Depoprovera??

What......side effects??”

“If you like hairy women, it's not a problem.”

“I see....sahib...”

“lol, I'm just kidding, I have no idea...”

“I just saw on the news that gals taking depo for a long time can develope hip bone loss, so I guess Bear is warning you if the gal you are sleeping with is using that birth control and you are having sex and grab her by her hips, she may break:)”

“Damn, I guess doggy would be out then.”

“lee, I think the unmarried person in the cheating relationship often gets the worst scorn because they often are the ones who initiate something.

I know a very sad person who does wrong things. She was very buddy buddy with a guy who was engaged. She'd tell me all the time how happy she was for him and how much she liked his fiance, blah blah. And what did she do? She threw herself at him and he cheated on his fiance, now wife with her. Believe me, it was all B., not the guy. But some guys can't handle the temptation of an attractive willing female throwing themselves at them. Not saying he is without fault, but he probably wouldn't have done anything had she not initiated it.
She is so sad. (Please don't laugh, cause I'm dead serious) She is seriously a sex addict. She has the lowest self esteem and sleeping with guys makes her feel good about herself. She's probably had sex with half of Seattle.”

“Depo provera. Birth control by injection. My ex took it due to a medical condition. Was probably on it for 3-4 yrs, no break.

I was concerned with two of the side effects that manifested in her.

"Possible Disadvantages of the Shot
A woman must receive the shot every three months. It is important to consider that there is no way to stop the effects of DMPA. Side effects from DMPA, for example, may continue until the shot wears off (12-14 weeks). For some women, it may only take 12 weeks after the last shot to get pregnant. For others, it may take more than a year.

Irregular bleeding is the most common side effect for women using DMPA.

Periods become fewer and lighter for most women — in time, they may stop altogether. It may take a year for periods to begin again after a woman stops using DMPA.

Some women will have longer and heavier periods.

Some may have more light spotting and breakthrough bleeding.

However, these side effects are more common in the first six-to-12 months of use. The longer a woman uses DMPA, the more likely she will be to stop having menstrual periods. More than half of DMPA users have no periods after one year of use.

Less common side effects include


headache

nausea

dizziness

sore breasts

change of appetite, weight gain

depression

hair loss, or increased hair on the face or body

nervousness

skin rash or spotty darkening of the skin

change in sex drive

http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/medicalinfo/birthcontrol/pub-birth-control-07.xml
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“Waiting...”

“Hell, I'm movin' to Seattle!!”

“LMAO! I didn't want to be first!”

“Ha!!

I beat the bear!!”

“Pixie . . .


Now that is (here it comes .. .drum roll please . .. . .)

Sleepless in Seattle!”

“In all honesty, though, I have a very close friend like that. it's sad because she is a hottie and you would never guess she has insecurity/esteem issues. She's done most of my hometown and San Diego.”

“Wow! Coast to coast!”

“I have two serious comments . .. and one only half kidding comment.

1) Pixie. You are right. There are both sides to the situation. A husband/wife with a cold, uncaring, emotionally and/or physically abusive spouse who seeks comfort elsewhere. The single person who is the classic homewrecker.

2) I forget what the other serious comment was.

3) the half kidding one.


I have always wanted to meet the hottie with the sex addiction problem. I guess I sort of did . .I dated a woman for 4 years who was a total nympho and the best looking woman I have ever dated. We both were seeing other people off and on but would hook up several times a week to . . . .have fun. Sunday morning after she was done with church was always a good time . . .


anyhoo . . . .”

“This is from when I was young and stupid, before I even met my wife. Heck, I think she was probably in high school at the time, that's neither here nor there.

Anyway, I picked up a woman at a local bar. We spent the night together. We exchanged phone numbers. I tried to get in touch with her so we could perhaps have a real date. I called her home number once, and got her younger sister, who asked why I was trying to get in touch with a married woman. Oops.

Life's like that sometimes.”

“oh no, no one should EVER grab anyone else during sex, why that's assault, and you could go to JAIL....LMAO”

“You were trying to get in touch with a married women to see if her younger sister was as enchanting as she. And if so, hopefully single so you might have a chance at true happines like her older sister's radiant glow betrays whenever she talks about her husband.




Duh.”

“Bear, it's pretty self destructive behavior. The time will come where she will get hurt physically (she is already hurt emotionally) whether it be violence, a disease or an unwanted preganancy. And I think all she wants is to be loved.
She's really not that bad of a person otherwise.”

“See, this is where the "stupid" part of "young and stupid" comes into the picture. If I had been thinking, I would have asked out the younger sister. Oh well.

Mostly I was disappointed. <sigh>”

“If a guy had to travel to another city for a few days and met a gal in a bar who was available and he was married, would she be held accountable if they had sex? What if she didn't take interest in the man, and the man was not the type to go out and seek an affair, so the reality is, she made the affair happen. Even if you are a single woman with a married man, there is definitely complicity on the woman's part.

Maybe single people have not attended weddings where the priest/pastor has said "let no man put assunder" or maybe women feel it only applies to men going after married women?”

“that's sad bit. It's bad enough when people want to cheat, but failure to disclose the fact that she was married is wrong.

I've had 2 guys do this to me, granted they had girlfriends, not wives, but I had no idea. People got really mad at me, like it was my fault. How was I to know!?!”

“She even told me she had just gotten divorced, so it wasn't even a case of "just not telling me". Live and learn I guess.”

“can women "put asunder"?”