TT confessional. Step into the booth.

“How does one break faith that's already broken?”

“Bear, well, I'm saying it's not cheating, because the relationship is over. You are just cohabitating until either one of you can find another place to live. You can't cheat if there is no relationship.

If you are married and have problems other than cheating, then decide to part, I think you should remain faithful until you leave out of mutual respect, unless it takes so long to divide things up and an agreement is made where you both can date.”

“P.S. - Some people want to cheat and find someone while they are still together, even if the breakup was over basic disagreements, because some people can't handle breaking up and being without someone waiting in the wings.”

“Selective ethics are NO ethics...

You are either cheating or you aren't.”

“You know the best part of your fiance or husband cheating is that when they are caught, they think that you will cheat and will harrass you about whether you are cheating. What nerve!”

“Ah, yes. That would be tit for tat.”

“I wanna know where I can get some of that tat stuff.”

“My ex-husband had the nerve to just walk into my mom's house where I was staying after I moved out without ringing the doorbell, and he had the very unpleasant surprise of finding me sitting in this younger guys lap at the kitchen table. I think that taught him to call before coming over. Also, it sends the message, if you don't treat a person right, don't expect them to sit home pining for you after the breakup.

I don't believe in having a mourning period for partners that were jerks. They don't deserve it.”

“Bear, well, I'm saying it's not cheating, because the relationship is over. You are just cohabitating until either one of you can find another place to live. You can't cheat if there is no relationship.
lipstick hiker
5:09:13 PM
2/10/05

Did both of you agree the relationship was over?”

“Bear, he didn't want me to leave, but he did know it was over without a doubt. I couldn't find an apt quick enough, so I went to my mom's house. After I left, he showed up at my job crying, asking me to take him back. He had already made this new girlfriend pregnant or who knows maybe it was some other one he met after her.

He had told me when we got engaged that he would not be like his father who cheated on his mother, had a kid with someone else, and embarrassed her in front of friends, family and the neighborhood, but he did the same thing, only I didn't take him back and his mom took his dad back.

I have advise for women who are cheated on, and men too. Just drop them. Move on and leave them to their next victim that they will cheat on. All you will ever do after a person cheats on you is wonder if they will do it again and it will torture you.”

“There are sometimes reasons to forgive and give a second chance, kicking them out isn't always the best option. Personal experience. (I'm the forgiver). Now a 2nd occurence - b'bye, C'ya, out the door you go!
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“tech, my friend tortured herself reliving the thoughts of how her fiance picked this girl up and drove her a few states over to Fl to go to Disneyland and they stayed in a hotel and he wined and dined her like he had never done for her and thoughts of their sexual times together.

For a year, she could not even speak without stuttering from the nervous wreck this situation caused her to be in. She finally let a year go by and decided she would still marry him after putting off their original wedding date.

She commented the other day about how her now husband would lose half of everything they have if he strays, so obviously she has still not gotten over it. Does one ever get over that experience?

I hate to tell her that since she puts in the same amount of money into their home and life, she will be only getting back exactly what she put in and he will not suffer from her divorcing him.

The extra sad part of this whole thing was that I think he wanted to marry this new girl, but there were so many complications since she was married with kids, that he defaulted and went back to my friend to marry. If he was ready to marry this new girl, he can't have the same love for his wife that he once did before he cheated.

Also, my friend has low self-esteem issues or I think she would have kicked him to the curb where he belonged being a cheater w/another cheater.

Her revenge would have been to let her fiance go marry this new girlfriend and have a miserable life since neither one would be able to trust the other since they were both cheating, lol!!!”

“I trimmed my special area. trimmed it quite a bit.

I love my new look and love the way it feels.

Kicking myself for not trying it sooner.”

“give it 2-3 days. You'll be scratchin' like a mad monkey (Hi lyra!).”

“TMI”

“Way, way, way, way, way more than any of us needed to know...

Of course his "special area" is probably around his ears.”

“.....or in his ears, or nose.
You know how old guys grow hair everywhere. ;-)
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“Perhaps his ego is his special area?”

“BTW- trimmed should be capitalized.”

“So, you shaved your back, Bearmagnet? Its good to get those long 'uns that grow on top of your shoulders, too. You can see those in the mirror when they get too long, then you know its time to do the whole back again.”

“LOL! Sorry. I'm bored.

Do you really want me to clarify my "special area"?”

“sure, it may get this thread deleted.”

“ewwww, Nigal, i don't want my name anywhere near this thread, LOL! bastard.”

“Lyra's a natural girl.”

“Violin - i see nuthin

BTW - saw a little tidbit on Merkins. It seems back in the day of yor (1700s), shaving that region was standard practice when one acquired an STD. Thought to help keep the critters away. Kind of like shaving a head for lice I guess.

However, shaved was not an acceptable style. Hence, merkins were born. Mostly only affordable to the upper class.

Now used for strip club employees where completely nekkid is not allowed.

LMAO!
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“Bearmagnet,

were you reading here?

http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a3_232.html”

“LOL! FOund this little gem at that webpage. Thanks GMC!

Q: Why do Scotsmen wear kilts?

A: Because sheep can hear zippers.”

“I believe it was, gmc. love the straight dope!”

“LMAO @ Nigal...good one.”

“I havent been backpacking in weeks :( oh...and i am not a troll!So, admit who you are trolls and i shall wash you of your sins.
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“i haven't been backpacking since february :(”

“i secretly have a crush on Britany.”

“I'm in love with Gemini, but please don't tell her.”

“Damn it roam!”

“I wont tell her Roam,”

“i knew you guys could keep a secret!



DOH!!!!!!!!”

“...I have been really bad...but WTF...I don't care.

Now where are those damn m&ms?
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“I confess, I have a secret thing for roam around and nigal both...oh...wait and stove stomper....”

“Ha Ha :-)”

“I confess that for some reason I keep thinking about panties.”

“don't worry spirit, your secret is safe here.”

“i have both hands down my pants”

“I secretly attend meetings supporting mass transportation”

“damn you all. I wanted to go to bed.

while my sister was visiting we interviewed strangers with a flashlight and pretented it was a microphone.

I AM going to bed now!
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“I write bad poetry”