HELP divorcing how do I meet new people.

“I don't post often but thought you might have some helpful ideas or someone has been in my spot. I have been with my husband 17 yrs (married 11) which is half my life. I am now a 35 year YOUNG gal that is very active likes to hike, backpack, travel and has horses. Also
got a Whitney permit with no one to do that with. Well recently and shockingly I am in a divorce situation. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life...which it feels to me will happen. Pretty much I moved out of my parents home across the country to him 17 years ago. I am what people always say as very pretty, fun, great sense of humor (although I am wallowing in self pity at this very moment), and I have a great job that I love. I am by all means not "looking" at this point but when I am ready, how do I even know where to look. I go to work, go home, care for the horses. I am not a bar fly and don't think that is the best spot to be looking. I want to eventually find someone that likes and wants to travel and pack and loves the outdoors. Do you know of any groups with that sort of interest? I am in Minneapolis area. As I said, this is to new and fresh to think about but just something that is going through my head and keeping me up at nights...technically, don't really even know how to date. Any helpful or not so helpful but hilarious ideas would really be appreciated.”

“Oh, my troll button is so aching. ;-)

Go on a TT trip. You will meet plenty of guys.”

“Hey, her profile is filled out, and she's been on the board almost a year.

lizs isn't too far from you, everestnut. Maybe hook up with her and y'all can hunt men together.”

“34 yr female, hiking, backpacking, climbing, equine veterinary medicine, good cup of coffee, sick sense of humor, honesty, and bookstores on crappy days.

wow if I was gay I'd ask you out

Grrr baby
LOL


welcome to TT. good as a place as any to get started!”

“I have always believed that posting to a message board and say "Hi, I'm a woman" will bring out the horndogs in droves.
last edited: 3/11/05 10:31:03 AM”

“I agree.”

“Even if it isn't true.”

“Cue a request for a photo:”

“I met my girlfriend here if that gives ya any hope, I know others have made connections through TT as well.”

“hmm im the only girl that posted here so far


I guess you can call me a horndog

arrfff”

“Nothing going on in Minneapolis? Didn't think the place was THAT boring. If you're into hiking & bpacking, try going on some trips posted on the "trips" link on this website's opeing page. You'll find plenty of psychotic and delusional people on this website who share you're same interests.

About your Mt. Whitney permit: What are the dates on the permit, and how many people are on the permit? If you post it on the "Trips" link, you'll probably get some hiking companions from So Calif to join you. You might even consider going yourself, since the Mt Whitney trail is very well traveled during the spring/summer/fall hiking season.”

“Welcome aboard”

“"I guess you can call me a horndog

arrfff"

mapleleaf
10:32:53 AM
3/11/05

More like a corndog :)”

“Hi, - I met Bison's girlfriend here too ;o)
You do sound good. Can be tricky after a divorce, but plenty of opportunities abound.”

“Everestnut -

You like backpacking guys with British accents?
last edited: 3/11/05 10:40:59 AM”

“Wow, have we all met Bison's girlfriend here?”

“Wow, thanks guys. It has been really recent so I wouldn't quite list myself in the "horndog" catagory...yet. I have chatted with Lizs a couple of times and may take her up on a trip invite. Mapleleaf if I were gay, I'd be thrilled with the procpect:) Minneapolis is not boring by any means I live about 50 minutes north of the cities so definatley am not in the cities frequently. Thanks again...J”

“You misunderstand the comment.
The horndogs are lying low. They usually show up in under 10 posts.”

“just how cold is it up there. - just general research here.”

“Hey Everestnut,

I'm a woman, adventurous spirit, same age, divorced 2 years ago. I also happen to be from Minnesota though I now live in Indiana.

The fact that you are thinking along these lines tells me that you are going to come through this with flying colors. When you are ready to date again, I highly recommend using an Internet dating service like eharmony or match. Assuredly, you will have no shortage of dates. I would recommend kicking up your heels a bit before settling down with one person though. Go see what's out there. Have fun!!

Maybe we can do a trip together next time I'm in Minnesota. You should really consider jumping on a TT trip. They are so much fun!!!!”

““"I guess you can call me a horndog

arrfff"

mapleleaf
10:32:53 AM
3/11/05

More like a corndog :)”
Bison
10:38:29 AM
3/11/05

Both of you just made my morning!!!

Bow-Bow-Nookie-Nookie!!!”

“Bearmagnet must be busy this morning.”

“I met Bison's girlfriend here too!!”

“Welcome Everestnut! I know how you feel. I just went through a divorce myself. 9 years together 4 married. Trust me I know what you mean about not remembering how to date! Hope you'll hang around TT for awhile its a fun group and everyone is right. TT trips are fun!”

“why do you want to meet someone new - dating sucks”

“Sorry, I phrased that wrong might not be quite looking for a horndog quite yet :) Corndog...maybe. Ruby, you are alive and happy right??? It does go away...right?”

“I'm an old married guy who can't give you any cogent dating advice, but just for the record, I know of at least 3 marriages that have occurred by people meeting on TT. That doesn't count any other relationships that are going on.

Is your Whitney permit for a day hike or overnight hike? When and for how many?”

“Corndog...maybe.

11:03:17 AM
3/11/05
everstnut

yeah there is still hope

oh and don't talk to treebeard, he is a very odd bird!”

“Huh?

I thought he was a tree........a very hairy tree.”

“I promise you that it does! You just concentrate on getting through it one day at a time, or when necessary, one minute at a time. Preoocupy yourself with rediscovering who you are. Have fun with your horses and with backpacking and whatever else gives you great joy. And then one day you realize that a whole lot of time has passed and you are not only okay, but that you are better than ever before.”

“I've been known to date a TT woman. :-)
You are a little young for me. Anyway, I have my eyes on a cute TT lady close to my age currently.”

“welcome to TT. Have fun enjoying your new found freedom. I got divorced last yr and totally enjoy my life now.”

“oh stovie don't don't be shy,

can we show her your hot pic?
you know which one *wink wink*”

“It's actually weird. It was strange for me getting divorced. I was basically 3,500 miles from home in a strage city, and starting afresh was weird. But it does get better. There are some great people out there. Sure you'll have some bad dates, some good dates, but at least they keep life interesting. Let the next adventure begin.”

“Mapes, it ain't you honey! ;-)
You are very married, remember?”

“Go down to the hospital, to nursery. Lots of new people there!”

“Around Hinckley?

I grew up in Cloquet, but I'm 10 years older than you, and married.”

“Hey I'm single now!!! I normaly live in WI, but now im in FRICKING BAGHDAD!!!!”

“the real question is Do you want to start dating now? If not find some local groups in your area that likes the outdoors. Start new adventures like biking or kayaking. Make new friends that way. Take dance lessons (like swing), join camera clubs if you like photography.

You will meet new people by doing that.”

“I would definately say NO I am not ready to date. Not something I can process at this point. What I would like is some friends with like interests. Most of my family is in Michigan and I love my job but everyonce in a while I just need a break from horse people. Would like to explore my other NON EQUINE intersts. Make sense...”

“Everestnut--Are you one of my friends posting here in disquise?!

2 of my friends just went through/are going through divorces... Funny thing.. they are both horse owners, too? Do you think the guys are just insecure with the fact that they aren't/can't be the center of attention 365/24/7?!

Seems like each of my 2 friends had guys who weren't able to love them unconditionally (unlike their horses) and to treat them with the love they needed...

I've told my 2 friends something similar to Ewker's advice... Take some time out for your self and skip the "dating" bit for a little while.

Indulge yourself in some self-pampering-- pick a hobby or find something fun to do with other people... Instead of trying to bandaged up your broken heart at the moment and filling it with something just to take the pain away.... if you allow yourself to be you and to not worry about finding a new guy in your life, you'll probably end up meeting someone who will be a better fit for you down the road...”

“I haven't been married for 11 years and I can't meet anybody. So I just have to say "Good Luck"”

“your to picky pixie ;)..hehe I like that Picky Pixie”

“Hello? New woman here? Where? Oh.

Hey baby, How you doin?”

“You're late.”

“Sorry I was away. I have a deadline I'm not going to make due to some technicalities. My boss said he would work on it also. That means I can play now until he figures out a solution. Or maybe I should get on careerbuilder....................................................male or female?
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“pixie, was married????
Well, explains a lot.
I wondered how someone as nice and pretty as her wasn't married allready.
Must be those West Coast liberals to afraid to ask a girl out. Just picking guys, just picking.”

“Pinkbubelz...don't think I am one of your friends the horse thing wasn't ever an issue with him. I think it is just that we drifted apart and as a person we each grew in different directions. Still love eachother but can't make it work. Great advise thought and thanks.
Bearmagnet...rumor had it you'd sniff out this thread :)”

“That'll pass for a tardy slip.”