**CallHomeAndTellYourParentsHowMuchYouLo veThem**

“It's surreal how one minute someone is so full of life then next thing you know they pass away.

My Father died earlier today, presumably due to complications to the surgery he had yesterday. Simple rotator cuff surgery, of all things. I had a chance to tell him I loved him yesterday before I left the hospital, fortunately for my own piece of mind.

All I really want is for everyone to reflect on how much their parents mean to them and call and tell them...because who knows how long or how short of time you may have to do that.”

“so sorry for your loss bud, i call mine regularly”

“Buddur --

I am sorry. Very sorry.


You are right. It is a very good thought.


I am afraid the shock of hearing me say it may be what kills them though.


Really very sorry about your father.”

“Wow, so sorry to hear about your dad. What a sudden and difficult loss for you and your family. I will keep you in my thoughts.

I think my parents know I love them, but I rarely say so.”

“Sorry to hear about your father, Buddur. I'll be calling my folks tonight.”

“Sorry to hear that, Buddur...

My dad will be in Bloomington tonight. Its been many a week since I've seen him.”

“Sorry for your loss, Buddur. Good words of wisdom.”

“Tom, I am so sorry to hear about your dad. If there is anything we can do drop us a line. I will put your family in my prayers. God be with you. I am glad you had a chance to tell him you love him.”

“Condolences and prayers.”

“I'm very sorry for your loss Buddur, I hope you find strength and love in his memories!
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“I'm sorry to hear of your loss. What a great reminder message you have given us. Thanks.”

“Tom, the time I met your dad he impressed me with his generosity and kindness and his attitude of real interest. He seemed like a very good man. I know he'll be missed. Wish I could give ya a big ol' hug right now.
Thanks for the reminder to constantly tell the people we care about how much they mean to us. Life is fragile and sometimes too short, or shorter than we expect.”

“I'm really sorry Buddur.

Thanks for the reminder.”

“My thoughts and prayers are with you.”

“my thoughts are with you buddur~~~
thanks for sharing and you are so right...you never know when you will see or speak to anyone next....... i never fail to end a phone conversation with my 91 yr old mom , who lives 6 hours away, with i love u's and i am blessed that my 23 yr old son also does the same.”

“My sincere condolences to you.

I never miss an opportunity to tell my awesome folks just what they mean to me.

I have always felt that one of the secrets of life is to leave no unfinished buisness between you and who you care about. That's why you have to let them know how much they mean to you.

Time will heal, the memories can only help that healing.”

“buddur, i dont know you that well and im not sure if we've met, maybe at red river? but i am so sorry for you. be strong. be well. i know what you are going thru. let the grief come. dont try to hold it back. it will be better that way. may all prayers and good vibes go your way.”

“buddur, i'm sorry to hear this. you are in my thoughts.”

“Sorry to hear about your loss Tom. I'll keep you and your mom in my thoughts.”

“yeah if you have parents to call by all means do it. Both of mine are dead. Wish I could go back in time and tell them more than I did.”

“i'm very sorry for your loss, Tom”

“I'm very sorry to hear of your loss Tom.

May it help you to know that many of us on here have met up with you at one time or another and care when things like this happen to you.

Out thoughts are with you at this time.

I will also heed your advice since my Mom will be going in for surgery tomorrow.”

“I'm sorry Buddur.

Good luck to Mama Adventurist.”

“Buddur, I am crying for you and your family. Your dad was such a sweet man who treated me like his own each time I saw him. After knowing your parents, I never doubted where your kindness came from. I'm very sorry.

Please give my love to Marty.

You're a dear friend, Tom. You know I'm here for you. You know I'm always a phone call away. If ya need me, it's only a four hour drive... a drive I'm willing to make.

Thank you for the words of wisdom. I got a taste of that idea last year, when my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer. I guess it was the first time I realized that they aren't going to live forever and have made a conscious effort to think about that each and every time I talk to my family.”

“Sorry to hear of your loss.

Two years ago Easter weekend my friends mom passed away after surgury from a broken ankle (blood clot). She was in her mid 50s. Since then I have been seeing my parents more often. The first year after, I had dinner with my parents every weekend (For years I saw them 1-2 times a year, and they live 1 mile from me). Seems lately its been every 3-4 weeks, so this is a reminder for me to quit making excuses. Thanks for the reminder, Budder! My thoughts are with you.
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“Tom, I'm very sorry to hear of your loss.”

“Sorry for your loss Tom.”

“sorry for your loss. i would call mine but they would probebly be the death of me.”

“Buddur, I'm sorry for your loss and the pain of the unexpectedness of it.

Both my parents died in '93, but your words of wisdom hold true for all loved ones.”

“I'm sorry to hear this , Tom. My Mom lost her mother today. I will tell my Mom how much I do love her in the next few days to come as I always do on the phone. As I watch her say goodbye to her mother, I will take notice and remember what you said...It's surreal how one minute someone is so full of life then next thing you know they pass away.

Thank you and my condolences to you.”

“Hi Buddur- Man, know how it is. But, you know, make it all matter anyway. Do that. Your dad has passed away, but your love for him apparently hasn't. And it never will. Believe that.

James”

“I am so sorry of your loss Buddur.”

“sorry for your loss”

“Thank you all for your kind words.

I got into some trouble a few years ago and it was mutually agreed upon that the best thing was for me to move back home until the storm blew over. It didn't take long for me to realize how much better my relationship with my parents was becoming. Since then I have always maintained that if there were a good side to my trouble it was that it brought my friendship much closer to my Father and Mother...much closer than it ever would have become otherwise. Looking back, in a twisted sort of way, I'm glad the trouble swept over me because I would have never got to spend as much time in the past few years with my Dad and gotten the chance to show how much I cared for him and what he meant to me.

My Mother has said that there's a reason for everything, and although we sometimes don't agree with God's plan we must accept it in hope that someday we will understand why.

Well, I had a point I was going to make but for some reason it has slipped my mind. I guess to sum it up...good things do come from tragic events.

Thanks again!”

“Buddur, I admire your wisdom. My prayers will include you and your family. So sorry you won't be able to tell your father you love him in person anymore.”

“my condolences to you and your family, Buddur. I know how you feel. My Dad died a few years ago unexpectedly. It won't be easy but you can handle it. Take care of yourself and your Mom. God bless!”

“Very sorry to hear that, Buddur.”

“oh Buddur, i am so sorry to hear that. thanks for sharing it with TT, and for the wise words.”

“That's some sad news on a rainy day........the sky is cryin'.

Here's hoping that the coming spring with it's renewal of life will be of comfort.”

“Real sorry, Tom! I always heeded the advice you gave in your intitial post. My mom is still with me and she is reminded often enough of how I feel about her. I wish you and your family my condolences.”

“Oh Man Buddur - I'm so sorry.

I keep worrying about my Mom, because of her health problems - I have only a glimpse of what it would feel like to lose a parent. Bless you and your family.”

“tom....

very sorry to hear the terrible news about your father....it must be a small comfort to you to know that you got to spend some quality time with your parents during the past few years....”

“Sorry to hear about your loss, Buddur. Very good advice though. I am fortunate that I was able to let my folks know before they passed on, and that I had regular contact with them while they were alive.

Even so, the pain of their loss continues, but knowing I was there for them when they needed me has helped.

I wish you peace.”

“Sorry, Buddur, for your loss. As you said, fate twisted to bring you closer to your parents in the recent past. And that's a great thing, keep the good memories.”

“Sorry to hear this Buddur. My thoughts and prayers are with you.”

“Tom:
Sorry for your loss.
I met your Dad when we slept on your floor on the way to a hike. He was hospitible and friendly.
My Dad is coming over to my house tonight for his 73rd birthday. You can bet I'll hug him, and my Mom, extra.”

“You are right, Buddur, God always has his plans. They just aren't usually what we had planned. And you'll see him again - keep the faith.”

“I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I never met your dad, but knowing you I can say that he raised a great person, and probably set a great example.

My condolences to you and your family.

Jay”

“Very sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you...”

“Call your xtended family too, make amends, say sorry, accept apologies, extend olive branches, bury your hatchets. Say "I love you" death is sudden and permanent. Doesnt matter if they're young,old,healthy or weak. Death is indiscriminent.”