I'm Hurting

“Ah, I opened up the thread history, now I see, great minds think alike?
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“LOL - I thought that's what it was. LOL”

“Sorry for the bad news. I gotta come down with Geobeet and Ewker. Cut the losses and run. In the end, can you live with the betrayal? I couldn't. I am not strong enough run a 4 min mile, bench press 350, or deal with that low behavior in someone I need to respect. I tried for 3 years after a very similar situation. Be thankful there aren't kids invovled. Mine went thru it with me and no real visible scars, and are doing well.

Run UP, Run.
Tthat'll be $02., please pay on your way out.”

“&*&^^, I read this whole thread and UP isn't around. WTF?”

“thats whats being asked -where is up?-”

“hopefully up is not too down to post”

“I sent him an e-mail. Maybe he'll check that from work?”

“Sorry guys for the lack of response. I'm posting from work and might get in trouble for it. She took the cable modem and I don't have internet right now. Alot has happened since I last posted. Too much to get into from work. Her boyfriend came with her from SC and has been living with her at her mother's. I will post more when I can get to my brother's computer.

John, I don't have an e-mail account right now.”

“hey UP - glad you're still hanging in there
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“living with her at Mom's?????


sounds wack man.

Run far far away from this one UP. Sorry man.”

“good to hear from you. thanks for checking in”

“she's really going up in the world now huh, so doesn't the new guy have any self-respect, you'd think they could have managed to rent somewhere.”

“you'd think they could have managed to rent somewhere.”
y2
10:46:26 AM
6/27/05



the guy is taking advantage of everything he can.
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“Well to be honest there's no way at my age I'd move in with a girl's parents of someone I've seen for a month. If I want to be with her then you wait a few weeks to save some cash, then try to rent somewhere.
No-way I'd be living off inlaw's charity weeks into a new relationship.”

“One of the first lessons I ever learned was, "If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat on you.". It's common frickin' sense.

I think whoever is the one who cheats should automaticlly give up the house to the other. Let them live in their car and eat chicken bones from KFC's dumpster. LOL!”

“Maybe he's just a Sensitive New Age Guy.

Irony, folks, just irony.”

“y2 - has any of their other behaviours made sense? Why should moving in with mom be any different?”

“maybe he's just a loser!”

“True Dayhiker.
UP - you're so well out of this one. You might not see it now, but in time you will!”

“it sounds like both are losers-”

“Just checking in from my brother's computer.

Our court date is August 2. I'm making the house payments because she won't why she's not living at the house. I didn't kick her out. She's been living with her boyfriend at her mother's. I've seen her a couple of times since she got back from Myrtle Beach and we've talked on the phone a few times. I've only talked to her twice on the phone in the last two or three weeks and both times she's called me. She calls me when she gets insecure. Her mother was in the hospital and she had to have new tires put on her truck. I guess that was the excuse she used to call me.

I've been getting counsiling and I'm on antidepressants. Don't tell Tom Cruise.

I've been on an overnight backpacking trip and I've helped a friend move the last couple of weeks. I've also been working alot. I need the money and it keeps me busy.

I've lost 30lbs. I run everyday and exercise. I've changed my diet too. I feel good physically but I struggle mentally at times. I have good days and bad days.

I'll just be glad when it's over and she gets her stuff out of the house. I haven't decided whether to keep the house or to sell it. I suppose I will make that decison sometime after August 2 or the judge will make it for me.

I have a restraining order on the assets. Neither her or I can sell, conceal or hide any assets. All she has with her are some of her clothes and personal items. She stops by the house to get her mail once a week while I'm at work.”

“Good luck.

Hang in there - it wil (and you will) get better.

Doug”

“It is good to hear from you! I cannot say what it must feel like, I have never been through a situation like this.

Keep smiling and keep joking like you did above with your Tom Cruise reference. It may not help much, but in the long run it will.

It sounds like you guys are at least talking with each other and it is probably best this way. Keep your chin up and smile!”

“Sounds like you have everything in order. Good job!
Hang in there dude!”

“it's not long UP - you'll get a great sense of freedom come August 2 - suddenly choices are yours and the world is ya lobster.
It wasn't how you planned things, but life would be dull if it wentexactly to plan.”

“UP - Keep up the sense of humor. When I went through my divorce I reached a point where I said I had to either laugh or cry and I am tired of crying! AS for the anti-depressants guys like TOm Cruise don't know what thier talking about - remember he broke up with NIcole Kidman - what a dork. I have found that exercise really has helped me battle my depression. I wish I could lose the 30 pounds but I think I'll find another way (joking). Hang in there. I promise it will get better - it did for me 17 year ago (of course I was dumb enough to get married again LOL)”

“Good to hear from you. Sounds like you've got everything in order. Don't let her try to woo you with sob stories. My ex after 11 months finally broke things off with the bastard she cheated on me with. she had to move out on her own into a little duplex, now she calls me and says she's scared and misses me etc etc....WHATEVER! Never like to see people hurt, but its just reality smacking her in the head finally.”

“It just takes time it may take a lot of time,but it sounds like you are doing all the right things-”