What About Crushes

“HEY STOP DISSAGREEING WITH ME!!!


so honesty can hurt ya, but so can being dishonest to your self and others!”

“So, tell me of your conversations with God and the devil, maple!”

“Sorry, my statements are 20 minutes behind others saying the same thing. They were cutting edge at the time, but work gets in my way of hitting the submit button. I suck.”

“honestly!”

“Ligers are pretty much my favorite animal.”

“Buck - You joke about God confirming things, but the Bible does teach us how to live our lives. (even if we do fall short)

I find it odd that a Christian would joke about consulting God about marriage. Maybe you're just being your normal silly self for laughs, I hope so.”

“Don't listen to Buck, he done went and got married!

Don't damn him Serge!
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“How is a crush while being engaged being "dishonest"? You're not lying, you're not cheating, you're simply dealing with personal emotions that only you can figure out. Once you get a grip on the emotions and deal with them, THEN you can discuss them, but I don't see how it's dishonesty in the meantime. Neither does the Father, Son, or Holy Spirit.”

“So, tell me of your conversations with God and the devil, maple!”
Treebeard
2:23:23 PM
6/28/05

not now tree, its not about ME its about newgirl


so.....newgirl, i bet you feel better getting this off your chest right?
:)”

“Gee, everybody's talking to God except me.


Somebody up there doesn't like me! :(”

“I have a feeling that the fiance may be into a bit of a hike with someone else also. If that is ok with you, perhaps you should explore a bit of Cali, eh! If it isn't ok with you, stay and hike the Big Sky Country.”

“Two items.

1. Kinda sorry you and Buck kissed and made up. I was hoping I would get to see to hard core christians taking swings at each other. Almost like two girls jello wrestling. (well . . .not really).


2. I gotta say . .this definetly caught my funny bone, LOL:

"While you're at it, tell him we said "hi!".”
Sarge"”

“Sarge:

1. Yes, I'm being goofy.

2. Of course we consult God about relationships, and perhaps newgirl is consulting God about these feelings. I'm just saying I don't think the feelings themselves are Biblically bad, she has done nothing wrong. It is not a sin to have a crush on someone. It's how you act upon it and how you deal with it. It wasn't a sin for David to think Bathsheba was a babe, but it was a sin to screw her and have her husband killed. newgirl isn't screwing anyone or killing anyone. She's merely dealing with emotions. Who knows, it could be God's will for her to marry her fiance, or it could be God's will for her to wait for someone else. We can't determine that, which is why I wasn't sure the we-know-what-God-says-about-this comes in to play here. Now if she was MARRIED, that's a whole different thing. Engagements are another step in the do-I-reeeeally-wanna-marry-this-person phase.”

“My phone isn't gettin' any service when I try to call........that god guy.”

“Buck - You may be right, but I think that a "feeling" is different that a "recurring thought" which newgirl seems to be having.

It's like if you had a brief lapse and wanted to shoot your wife because she burnt your toast. It's perfectly natural! But you'd soon get over it and come to your senses. But what if you constantly thought about killing your wife? Is that the same thing? I don't think so. She seems to be daydreaming about this guy. If my fiance was thinking as much about another guy and she was me, I'd hope we would solve that problem before we got married. If she kept it to herself and married me, that would be a big problem. I think you're suggesting figure it out before you get marriage, but in the meantime we're planning a wedding, tasting cake, sending out invitations ... This obviously isn't a little crush because she thought enough about it to put on here for advise.

I'm not saying you should tell your spouse every thought in your head, but you should tell them anything that might affect your relationship at the very least, even if it is difficult to do.

Often honesty is very difficult. Nobody said it was easy.

Regardless ... I think any Christian should consult the Bible and/or pray in a situation like this.”

“MarkO - That's funny man! Your phone isn't gettin' any service ... LOL ... I like how you used hillbilly talk with the "gettin'" without the "g". That was classic!”

“the match may still be on.


You gonna take that jive Sarge???



I think down deep what Buck is saying is that Jesus likes him better. That Jesus is his best friend, not yours . . .

I definetly would straighten his butt out . . .(that was NOT a sodom and gomorrah pun). I know for a fact, (from what you've said), that you are on direct speaking terms with jesus (or at least, you listen to a guy on the radio who is ,. ..or something).”

“I like hiking and taking pictures.”

“I think we have lost sight of stuff here with all this mumbo jumbo.


you are young, attractive, hot, desrable . . .and should be getting as much as you can while you can get it.


If this finacee guy can fill the bill ...great. Go ahead and marry him (this assumes all the other stuff is nailed down . .friendship yada yada yada).

If he CAN'T . . .I am on my way out . .

Mountana babyeyeyyeeyeyyeye[i][u]”

“That's just great.”

“Bottom Line,
Noogie took a page right out of Spirit Coyotes book and started a thread so people would pay attention to her.”

“Buck - agreed.”

“I agree with buck! Romantic and giddy is great! Ive been with mike for two years, and every one who sees us together always asks if we have just started dateing. LOL

none of that has faded at all, it just seems to grow more and more :)

I love love :)”

“Sarge, I think we're in general agreement. And on a sidenote, I would DEFINITELY consult with God before I shot my wife. I just don't think God would want me to shoot my fiance, that's something you should wait until marriage to do. My wife burned my toast once but I didn't shoot her. I just stabbed her multiple times. I just couldn't bring myself to shooting her. Lord, forgive me.”

“Ahhhh... but maybe this isn't "temptation" for newgirl, that's where we differ, Sarge. If she was MARRIED it would be temptation, but since she's not she's free to determine who she WANTS to marry.”

“newgirl, go talk to your priest in private”

“I'm having trouble believing where this has gone!”

“unless of course your priest is attractive...maybe find an ugly priest?”

“the first time GOD is mentioned, people get there panties in a bunch

i saw this coming an hour ago.”

“god shmod! do what ever the hell you want :)

its easier to ask for forgiveness then to ask for permission :D”

“You might consider postponing the marriage for a while - at least until you decide if you want to be in a sexually 'cool' relationship for the rest of your life. Things don't generally heat up after the wedding.


I don't mind when my wife confesses to be attracted to various celebrities (heck, I know Ricky Martin is gay anyway), but I'd be upset to learn that she felt emotionally drawn to someone she knows. It would probably erode some of the trust that is so important in a committed relationship.

My stock answer whenever she asks me if so-and-so is attractive is "a little, but not compared to you". Seems to have worked OK so far.”

“sexually 'cool' relationship

LMAO do they really exsit outside of porno and girly mags?”

“I think he meant "cool" as opposed to "hot", Maple...”

“Newgirl,

You gotta da gooda heart.*

When glancing at the pics of TTers, I sometimes wondered about you, Newgirl...

Now, I know...

You are warm, generous, honest, unpretentious and genuine.

Your beau will be lucky to have you in his life in marriage and all that it brings to the table.

Your beau gets extra points too for being willing to be an "instant stepfather" to your child.

Goodaluckatoyou!*

Highcountry

*the words, oft spoken, of my Sicilian grandmother, called Home many years but in my heart forever.”

“Newgorl,
read the 'I'm hurting' thread for possible motivation to do what you might need to do.”

“One thing's for sure, that Ricky Martin feller is HOT!”

“You guys are all awesome and funny and sincere. Thanks for helping me learn more. I will talk to my man about some of this when he gets home this wkend. At the very least, I need to have a conversation w/ him. Highcountry, thanks for what you said about me. If there is one true thing about me, it is that I'm geniune. I lay it out there plain as day, even when some people think it is too much.

Aside from that, I start my new job tomorrow. I will be doing sales for a local, small, family-owned and operated freight company. I'm excited to give it a try, although I will miss dispatching and getting to work w/ the truckers.”

“Wow! Precision, thank you for telling me about the "I'm Hurting" thread. I really needed to read that.”

“Also, we have been trying not to get it on before we wed and holding back on that has added some frustration ......

newgirl
3:13:49 PM
6/28/05

If dude scores tonight, he owes everyone on TT a beer.”

“Chili, dude is working out of town. He'll be home on Thurs. I'll let you know if he scores and tell him he owes alot to my net friends. LOL! I'm telling you, my engine is pretty revved up. It might be retardedly good stuff! And I'll be honest, w/ only 2 months to go, I'm not feeling terribly motivated about waiting anymore. It's like getting to eat only 1 potato chip or something. Hoover damn, I got needs.”

“its all newgirl, all the time.”

“Like eating one potato chip.....



Holy crap! Be still my beating heart.”

“Five pages of comments, that means its "Limerick Time!"

Newgirl was engaged to be married
But found she was feeling quite harried
She met a hot dude
Who made her feel lewd
And wondered if "married" was "buried"?

Much TT advice was forthcoming
Her erstwhile suitors were bumming
Our newgirl to wed?
She might as well be dead!
Wedding garb can be so unbecoming!

Certain people can get our hearts beating
But those kinds of emotions are fleeting -
Who will always be there
If I don't do my hair
Or I stay at work late for a meeting?

Her heart hears a still and small voice,
Telling her, that her love is a choice.
If she marries a friend
Her love will have no end
In commitment, her soul will rejoice.

No offense intended here, I'm no expert on marriage, but when I married my best friend four years ago (after being abandoned twice by guys I was "in love" with) it was probably one of the best decisions I ever made.
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“LOL! Nice Omahiker. Thanks for the input.”

“I applaud you for holding out and waiting. I did the same. It made me very very potent. My wife is already preggers. It sounds like he's a good guy if he wants to wait, it's an honorable and respectful thing to do. Dump the shallow crush and marry this dude. - Buck Forester (circa late June 05)
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“Newgirl, DON'T DO IT! Save it for the wedding night.

And when did Utah become an awful place?”

“Gawd, I don't have the energy for this, 250 posts in two days.”

“"Chili, I do not intend to tell him that I had a crush. Everyone was right, it would be hurtful and cause doubt that he does not need to have. I am sure of myself and I will not cheat on him ever." -newgirl

Being honest is not hurtful.

Never say you won't cheat. 60% of all marriages have one or both spouses cheat during the marriage. Keeping all of your feeling out in the open with your spouse (soon to be spouse) will prevent that.”