What About Crushes

“crushes are normal, what you do with them is key.

Think about all of the crushes you have had in the past that didn't work out, compare with the one that is working out. That should get your priorities straight.”

“i was just about to say isnt it bad enough that we give the beautiful people way too much attention in real life, we gotta do it in cyberspace, too? but then it looks like this thread has turned into a real honest to god bull session”

“I have a crush on Stormbringer, is that a bad thing?”

“long live crash! bang!”

“"stormbringer is dead"

Dang, wish I woulda known. I would have sent flowers or something. I never liked that guy any how. LOL!”

“What have i missed? No way I can read all this.”

“newgirl's marriage is falling apart before the wedding and stormbring is dead.”

“Oh, Okay. Thanks Path!”

“And newgirl has a crush on me. or some guy in Cali...or something like that : )”

“and crash! likes newgirl and wants her if she stops the engagement”

“Buck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 minutes!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

newgirl - I thought Four Square was Charismatic, not Evangelical...perhaps that could be a discussion for another thread.

Realizing you have posted this on the internet where hundreds of TTer and hundreds more lurkers have seen it, I would suggest you not spread it around your friends and relatives...stories change as they go from person to person. You are still trying to analyze the situation at this point.”

“All of the TT chicks have a crush on me and no one's ever done anything, so clearly it's possible to have a crush and just not act on it. Right?”

“Fiance got home. We arranged some time alone (small miracle) and the discussion went really well. I'm way reassured and happy. Thanks to all you wonderful TTer's that gave me good advice and even all of you who think I'm a jerk for posting. A girl needs info when she's sweatin' something out!”

“Glad we could help!...or at least you think we did!!

So, what that charismatic or evangelical?
last edited: 7/01/05 3:38:15 AM”

“So, grape or orange?”

“maybe I missed it but was it ever mentioned that the "newguy" had a crush on her? Or was it a figment of her imagination.”

“Did you fully disclose the details to him, newgirl? I can't say it enough, complete honesty is they KEY. Listen to anyone that's been married 50 years and constant communication (i.e. complete honesty) is always #1 on their list of why they are still married.

I'm very glad you 2 talked about it.”

“I can't believe you spilled the beans about us, Newgirl!”

“What? She told him she gets relationship advice from internet-axe killer-hikers?”

“aero - I wondered about that!!!”

“It's been my experience that every time I find myself in newgirl's position of examining a crush, I always start to find fault where none exists in my marriage, merely to justify my feelings. This can be somewhat a self fulfilling prophecy so to speak. The more I examine the "latest and greatest", the more I find fault with my wife and my marriage, thereby escalating what could possibly be a disaster. It's a slippery slope that should be avoided at all costs.”

“One word...

COMMITMENT

If you don't want it, don't do it (marriage). Once you make the commitment, keep it, make it work and don't even entertain the thought of crushes. Focus on your marriage. That is, of course, if you get married. Now's the time to bail if you're gonna do it.”

“Are we still gonna do it . .or what?????”

“bumped for dhutch's edification.”

“Wow, 7 pages. My brain can't comprehend past the first two. Did anyone mention that the crush may not be a red flag against this particular marraige but the product of a subconcious realization that newgirl is entering a new phase of her life. An intrinsic fear of change. I say the crush is a byproduct and is unimportant compared to coming to grips with these natural doubts.

Whew that felt good.”

“Ah dhutch, the voice of reason.”

“yada yada yada ..

Am I gonna get to mount her or what???


Dhutch . .. .hey babbbyyeyeyeyeyee


Whachyou doin'?????”

“Hey lee! I'm doing everything but biking. :-( Can't wait to get moved and hit all the bike trails in Illinois.

Aaaaw bit I'm rarely called reasonable, thanks :-)

Uh Oh, I think I'm developing a couple of crushes here...Ooops and I'm not married but they are ;-)”

“I'm sorry dhutch, but if you get a crush, even if you're not married, then you need counseling.

Please report to your nearest counseling agency so they can tell you where you went wrong.”

“N/M”

“Huh?”

“Check your email...”

“That's one for the stupid files anyway!”

“Thought you'd like it...lol”