Serious Trouble

“LMAO. I think Fridge's "lemonade" musta hit him pretty hard... OR... the wife did.

LOL!”

“Apparently no internet service out in his tent.”

“He may not remember posting.”

“I thought that tent had service? I know it has a built in coffee maker so at least he will have his joe this morning.”

“I don't blame her for being mad. Even if you have enough money to pay for it easily, it's still a major purchase that should have been discussed before you sent the check. You two are supposed to be partners - you acted as if you live alone.

My husband and I have about a $100 limit for solo/undiscussed purchases. There is never a problem with buying what we need, because we both are working together for the benefit of both and neither of us is likely to be unnecessarily extravagant, but it still needs to be discussed before we buy gear, furniture, expensive tools, etc. Little stuff can add up quickly enough - it's amazing how much a trip to the hardware store can cost, when nothing purchased is over $50 - big stuff can break the bank even faster.

Your wife will probably get over it, but her trust in you and in your partnership has been damaged. Buying her things won't fix that. A sincere apology and promise to work with her in future might help. An understanding of why what you did was totally wrong would really help.”

“You are both adults. It's not the end of the world. I wouldn't dream of telling my partner how to spend the money she earns and she wouldn't dream of telling me.
As long as you're both paying ya way and not in financial trouble then you've not done anything wrong in my book.
Again it's a control issue some people have.”

““Gemini, I'm in real big trouble!!

No SEX!! You know how I am!!!!!!!!!”
refrigerator
9:27:59 PM
7/26/05

Do tell !!”

“Exactly - CONTROL.

That's why I don't let my wife have access to the check book or charge card statements.

If she questions a purchase, I tell her something is burning in the kitchen.”

“That something burning in the kitchen would be her. One nice thing about living alone is when something's burning in the kitchen, I know that it's dinner.”

“Sure, sure.....
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“It's either that or "don't you have laundry to do?"”

“Besides, there are worse things than eating beanie-weinies and sleeping on the couch, right V?”

“for $850, that tent had better come with internet access...and a computer!
;-)

i've always thought my boss and her husband had a good deal set up...they each put a percentage of their salary into a joint account that's for bills, savings, joint purchases, etc. and then they each have a separate, private checking account into which they put a smaller percentage of their respective salaries...and they can save or buy whatever they want with that w/out discussing it!

however i don't know you, maybe she stays home w/the kids or something...a percentage of $0 income wouldn't be that great of a deal for her.
:-D
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“lyra, the kids are calling you.”

“with 200 baby monkeys, one never gets a moment's peace.”

“Don't let 'em set the dang house afire!!!”

“You peeps just don't understand.
This guy is screwed.”

“Did you see my pix from the WV cookoff trip lyra???”

“Well, "screwed" is the operative word anyway.”

“Yeah, there were a schitload of pictures of some rusty old hulks and smoke-belchers.”

“no i haven't seen them! i will take a peek.”

“Slap her in the mouth and tell her to mind her own damn business.

Then when you regain consciousness and get out of the hospital get on your knees and beg for forgiveness. Offer to take it back. If she says yes spend some of the money on her and put the rest back in the bank. If she says no, god help you. She'll hold it over you for the next 3 years.

What's wrong with you? A big purchase with out the wife's consent. I'm going to the driving range today and will probably spend $5 and I'll probably call my wife first.

I feel for ya. I know what it's like to do something the wife doesn't know about. Good luck.”

“Several years ago I bought an old Epiphone tube amplifier at a yard sale for $225.

I was lucky enough to find a guy who paid $250 for it shortly after.”

“well fridge one possible approach is to go out to the willows and cut yourself a good switch - take it home and give it to your wife and apologize - then turn around bend over and grab your ankles - by the time her arm gets tired she may be in a better mood.”

“Tell her you made a mistake and you are very sorry. Tell her you used poor judgement. Ask her what you can do to make it up to her. Grovel, man!

By the way, you don't have to sleep on the couch - you have a nice new tent, remember? :-)”

“HPM and I have done this to each other a few times, so I can't say much. Just wait for her little s--t storm to pass is about all you can do.”

“Good grief, HOI!!”

“Hahahaha!! Mine hides his buys too. I laugh within myself...knowing that I DO know...and he thinks I am stupid enough not to know!!!

You got to be smarter then your woman Fridge... I know that's hard to do...'cus we women...well...we know!! WE KNOW!!!!

*grins*
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“My wife works part time as a hairdresser. She hands me her paycheck for the household budget but keeps her tip money to spend how she pleases. She's never complained when I spend part of my income on gear or hookers.”

“Oh crap, do what the Aussies do. Throw her a Fosters.”

“Mmmmmmmm ... Fosters ..... { garble garble }”

“well i bet you're very wise in your choice of hookers, Violin...your wife would probably never notice $2 missing here and there.”

“Violin, don't forget the single malt scotch that goes so well with the hookers.”

“ROFLMFAO @ lyra.

That is funny!”

“Well if they are the $2 kind, go with the Mad Dog 20/20.”

“Buying a Hilleberg tent for $850 with disposible income - Not a wise investment considering some of the nice tents you can buy for a lot less.

Buying a Hilleberg for $850 with disposible income and telling the wife- Not within the realm of possibility.

Buying a Hilleberg for $850 with rent money and telling the wife - Not within the realm of possibility.

Buying a Hilleberg for $850 with rent money and NOT telling the wife - Frigging insane!!! For this one some possible excuses are:

a. "It was either the Hilleberg or a Harley-Davison Fatboy."

b. "I forgot to take my psychotropic medications on the day I bought it."

c. "Sleeping in this tent is almost as nice a seven day all inclusive vacation at Club Med Cancun."

d. If you're drunk or feeling real brave try "IF YOU DON"T LIKE IT GO FIND ANOTHER MAN WHO WILL GO TO WORK WHILE YOU SIT AROUND EATING DONUTS AND WATCHING THE YOUNG AND THE RESTLESS!" Then raise your palm like you're going to put her over your knee and spank her.

e. And most likely to work is the classic
"Honey I'm sorry and to prove it your Mom can come live with us." Throw in some groveling while saying this.

Whatever you do don't try the flowers and candy routine. It just makes them madder. But painting the kitchen or a few nights of washing the dinner dishes seems to help. Don't overdo it though. She'll start thinking you should do it every time you want to buy a fuel canister.
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“solitary hiker -- that was classic.

:)”

“I love reading this thread. Reminds me why I'm single.”

“Lol, SH!”

“Dude, I heard those tents aren't even that great. Two friends have 'em and get leaked on!! Send it back. You'd be better off with a siltarp anyways. ;)”

“No wonder sperm counts are going down in America ;o)”

“Sass - those tents are gorgeous. ;op”

“You guys crack me up! LOL! I love TT. : )”

“Love the comments on this thread.

My wife and I don't consult each other for small gear purchases, but $850 is something else.

Windwalker - My son will put in a good word. He thinks Josh would be a great employee...woohoo...discounts for immediate family!!!”

“Dude, I found your solution!

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/sci/tech/4714135.stm

Show her this and tell her she might be replaced! LOL”

“no word from fridge in a while...let us all morn his passing”

“I don't think fridge will be posting for a while. I imagine it's tough to sit and type on the computer with an $850 tent shoved up your butt.”

“he should take the tent back...not sure where he lives but $850 would get a pretty decent apartment in most places, lol”

“850 is almost a house payment for me”

“It's more than my house payment!”