how to stay calm & relaxed

“i haven't felt this angry and frustrated for a long time. i need some suggestions on how to keep my cool before i kill someone.”

“Rant about the situation on TT (unless of course you are po'd at a TT'er which may provide entertainment and diversion for many, but not for you).

Work out and then take a hot bath.

Or----s can help. And if they don't, they are nice to have anyways.”

“thanks ped, for the suggestions.
i don't know if i'm ready to entertain tt with my personal life, although it might be good for a few chuckles and a lot of WTF's.

unfortunately i can't do my usual technique, which is to take a timeout. your cryptic feelgood suggestion is about where i'm at right now. as soon as i get my sick kid settled i'm going outside for a bit of me time.”

“ok...maybe you guys can help me with this little trivia question. and it is only slightly related to my problem up there.

just how many episodes of Family Guy can you watch in a row before your brain turns to mush?”

“Get outside...find some grass or a tree. Lay on your back and stare at the stars.

If there are no stars, close your eyes, imagine your favorite place in the woods, remember the wind on your face, the sounds, the smells....be there.

Killing people is not like it use to be....way too much paperwork now.”

“"just how many episodes of Family Guy can you watch in a row before your brain turns to mush?"

6 or 7, tops.”

“well, the stupid show has been on the tv since 7pm, and before that there was a whole afternoon spent watching it on youtube or somewhere like that - from at least noon - thats when i first noticed anyways.

so i'm guessing if the brain in question wasn't mush to begin with, it certainly is now?”

“A walk or ice cream.”

“nah, i have to stay around here cuz a kid is really sick. so no walks, no running away and no drinking myself into an alcoholic stupor.
ice cream sounds good but an allout knock'em down fight sounds even better. unfortunately since mush-brain is still watching that stupid show, i'm gonna opt for a relaxing cup of tea in a far away room so i don't have to hear the television anymore.”

“Yoga - Lay flat on your back arms about 4 and 8 oclock palms up feet a little wider than shoulders.let your muscles go and Relax breath deep. 5 or 10 minutes and think about what mountainsteve was talking about. Dont fall asleep. Youll be amazed”

“just how many episodes of Family Guy can you watch in a row before your brain turns to mush?”
helinka
8:29:50 PM
6/03/07

.001% of 1 episode!

Put on a stout pair of boots and kick something then kick it again!!!

Then think about how great your life is compared to some and give thanks. Your not worried where your next meal is coming from and you don't have to think about when you last ate. You have a roof over your head and you are not afraid that your children will be kidnapped in the night and made into child soldiers.

Good luck!”

“i HATE that show, anyone who finds that crap entertaining certainly has a mush brain, most of my family apparently. although every once in a while it goes over the top and then my husband turns it off.”

“thankyou Tango for bringing life back into perspective.
and things are looking up!...mushbrain has turned the tv off! sick kid is soundly sleeping with two vaporizers beside his bed. terribletwosome are sleeping, FINALLY! and me and Trixie are going for a very short stroll down the street in the rain. that will cool me down quick.”

“Is mush brain a teenager by chance?”

“nope.
my ex. he lives in my basement in a bedsitter (a little quasi-apartment for all you non-english speakers) but shares bath and kitchen with us upstairs people.
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“that does not sound good to me!”

“see - i told you my personal life is full of WTF's
:)”

“Tango must have read my book.”

“Grab a glass of wine or a vodka martini. Try not to think about anything, just watch the sun go down and the stars come out.”

“Probably not practical due to it being costly, but have you ever considered flooding the basement?”

“I don't know if I could live with my ex in my basement!!!!!!

In fact...I KNOW I couldn't...”

“The issue might be privacy...sounds like you don't have any with the troll in the hole..........”

“Isn't there anything up there that you could put in a pipe and ignite?”

“or put in a pipe and light.”

“I always like to go for the fight, (but it sounds like you have more sense than me). ;)”

“I'm with you Sass, go for the fight! You'll feel better. Sounds like it's been a long time coming.
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“Family Guy is some of the worst crap on TV.

Got Canadian Hydro?”

“Ok I’ll admit it. I like the show and think it’s funny. You can all start hating me now.
;-)”

“You're a sick puppy, Zac.”

“It's a funny show, along with Reno 911 and Simpsons. Too much of a good thing is still too much.”

““Tango must have read my book.”
Pamela
10:34:52 PM
6/03/07

What book is that Pamela??”

“a long way gone Memoirs of a Boy Soldier by ishamel beah”

“The problem is not the show, but why is the ex still around? A little more distance between you two sounds like the cure.”

“Girl, what are you thinking? Just kick him out. Problem solved.


Perhaps that isn't practical in your situation. So my next suggestion is to insist that he watch tv/computer on his own set in his bedroom.


And if that isn't feasible, here's what you do: Hide the remote (probably won't work in this situation). Or set the tv with the parental codes. Make it require the secret password on every show. Then pretend like you forgot it when asked for it. Or cancel the cable. How do I know all this? I used to be married to an ass who was married to the tv so I used to fantasize about taking a Louisville Slugger to the tv. (Another option for you.) And if you share a computer, set the computer up with an administrator password. Kindly suggest that computer usage is available at the library for free.”

“So what's going on today, Helinka?”

“probably sick of all of us buttinskis.”

“helinka....wow...I have found that I really can't control other people but I can control the way I respond. I had to deal with some rather inconsiderate A$$holes this past weekend. They wanted to use my stuff to drive me bananas....so I simply took MY stuff away.”

“well. nobody has been killed...yet.

but give it time.”

“With this thread next to the Cannibal Thread, it's kinda like... "how to stay calm & relaxed while someone is gnawing on your arm...."”

“go do something really physical and sweat it out. i have was known to go do intervals at a local park until I almost puked (actually did once). lately i have been doing this at the rock gym except that the cost of injury is a lot higher.”

“I think about tomorrows stock market and get as calm and cool as a brush fire in a dry wind.”

“jim, i tried going out with the dog first, then i came home and went straight for the b&j's cherry garcia.

lol. typical girl-goes right for the chocolate.”

“I always try to remember this;

How do you eat an elephant?

One bite at a time!”

“Speaking of Elephants, I just spent the week in a cabin with my relatives. The book "Water for Elephants" was my escape. Works everytime (if you can your kids to leave you alone long enough to read a chapter).”

“Im going to explore Staten Island on my kayak :)”

“I sit out on my deck, put my feet up on the table, slowly drink an ice cold beer, listen to the brook and think of all the people with all their money who live in all those cities that would kill to be where I am. I smirk.”

“haha, well that's like my 2nd or 3rd favorite ice cream. i love phish food also, and not just because of my phish addiction. My all time favorite is this pistachio ice cream that is made at an ice cream place down the street from my house.

you feel better! life is stressful but you are a good person and the tough times always pass.”

“Go to the farm, or something to get out of contact.”

“what the hell is phish food?

now that the weekend's over, i only see the household for a few minutes in the morning and a few more before i go to work at 4. i miss my kiddies all week but the hours are good for keeping the peace around here. btw, another little wtf factor of my life: ex's girlfriend and daughter are here for the week. i don't like such a full house!(hence my stress over the weekend) although having another female in the house is kinda nice...i'm usually totally outnumbered”

“It's way past time for you to change all of the locks, Helinka.”