What would you do, Guys?

“Sorry, it was Slap my ass.”

“I thought you were trying to say that Slappy is Sirpete, not that Bear fella.”

“One name all the time.”

“Woah! somehow my question was slightly misinterpreted. I had to go back and check to see what I wrote. I said "How would you feel" NOT "Would you *LET* her.."

I do take his feelings into consideration when I do things and I think that's one reason for my question. I don't think it's a matter of him *LETTING* me. I really don't know how to express what I'm trying to get across. By throwing it out here for your input I am really just looking for a reality check (Am I being a fool or reasonable? Are his fears and level of protectiveness normal or not?)”

“I don't think I'd let my wife do something like that.”

“Without going back to look, the best I can make of this is:

1)Plan my trip well
2)Make sure I have a good contingency plan
3)Probably best to camp in one place and do day hikes
4)Make sure we both have a way of contacting each other (Both have contact information on us in case something serious happens to one of us).
5)carry a beacon or ELT! :)
6)Make sure I have another way to get home such as Amtrak, Greyhound Bus, etc. (I will probably never hitch--too risky!)
7)hike with a bud, if possible

Anything else?”

“MukTuk,
sounds like your got it. Although I would add.
8) Increase your life insurance policy, so when discussing this with your husband you can had the point if any thing would happen to you he would be set. (I know money can't replace a wonderful wife, but a new boat and Harley might ease the pain a little.)”

“I would have no problem dropping her off....

I just may decide to NEVER pick her up again!”

“Let, might not be the proper term for me to use, but I'm old school. If my wife really wanted to go on a hike like this she would. In my case the term let means it would be ok with me, she wouldn't need my permission (geesh don't take the term so literally). Twigeater - Compromise is everything, instead of calling it compromise call it working together, my sweety and I have found that if you put each other's interest ahead of your own (and this goes both ways) everything always works out, and you both get to do the things you really want to do, and if your lucky you get to do them together. Usually you turn out to be best friends.”

“I wouldn't drop my girlfriend off by herself at a trailhead in a strange part of the country. Even if she was experienced hiker and "street smart." Just wouldn't do it, sorry.

In the company of people I knew and trusted, yes. In an area I was familiar with, probably. But not if we were far from home in a strange place.”

“I have been married now 22 years to the greatest man in the world. I dont ask him if I can go. I ask if there is any reason I need to be home (That I might have forgot about) then if theres nothing I have to be home for, I tell him my plans. there is no questions asked. he knows Im going. but I respect him He respects me. we both hike so sometimes we go together. and my advise is find a friend to hike with. just for your own comfort and safty. then If he trys to say no. go anyway. If he doesnt like it, to bad. but be ready to pay the piper if he walks out the door. and then you didnt need that one anyway.”

“ROFLMAO..Stalker you da man!!! That's one way to talk the guy into it, huh?

"Yeah, my wife died hiking solo, but I got a new bass boat and custom Harley out of the deal..AND, as you can see, I'm still in morning, since both are black!!"

I tell ya, the bitch of being a woman is not having the same freedoms as men..this topic is right on the money..

If we women wait to hike with someone, we'd hardly ever go..

Muk - you're doing all the right stuff..one thing to add..if it is a state or federal area..make sure to check in with the Rangers so they know what you're up to as well..whatever you can do to give hubby additional comfort level!

Good Luck, I'll be keeping you in my thoughts!! You go Girl!!

WW”

“Sounds good, Y'all!
I am ready to put this thread to rest now. 8) As far as the bass boat and Harley... The bass boat-yes. The Harley-no. His dad just got stomped by one of his stallions in a fit of rage (had to put him down--the horse, not Dad) and now everyone is trying to talk him into selling all the horses and buying a bass boat. The Harley? Well, some years ago I expressed an interest in buying motorcycles and riding cross country. He said "NO WAY! too dangerous...and helmets and leathers don't help. They only mean the difference between a closed or an open casket funeral..."

Well...OKAY! erg.”

“Muktuk, I'm a woman, Hyperpacker is my husband and Abby is our 5 mo old daughter. I was quoting hyper on the first post.”

“Hey, Joy I just happened to check in here after a few weeks to see what I might haved missed.

So sorry about that... I was just teasing you a little. For someone who doesn't know anything about you, just to take the post as is, without any background information, it just sounded kind of humorous. My sense of humor doesn't translate well in writing. Most people don't get it anyway...just my little brother who keeps me in stiches himself. He's the only one who amuses me more than I amuse myself :)”

“So, Muktuk, what has been happening with your hiking plan? I'm trying to plan some small backpacking trips alone, just one night, two days out. I'd rather go with people but then I wouldn't go much. My husband is very tentative about this. He may decide not to embrace this activity for himself. He hasn't said much about my involvement, but I think that is because he doesn't actually think I'll go alone. Any fight will probably be a last minute one. On this issue, though, I have to do what I want.”

“LyndyS- You go, Girl! (not to be cliche') I agree that sometimes we just have to stand up for what is really important to us in the face of opposition (or lack of enthusiastic support).

I haven't gone on any more business trips with hubby in the past month so it hasn't really come up yet. As for now, I am just walking on the bike trail behind my house for about an hour and a half or two hours a day (M-F) just to get in shape. It's pretty nice- an old railroad track that goes through the woods for the most part. There are plenty of forest preserves around here for day hikes, too.

I still have my sights set on the JMT next spring. But for the most part I need to stay pretty close to home right now, getting things in shape around here. I have a lot of work to do around the yard and in the house to get it ready to sell in the next 2 years...We are planning on buying some land in western Nevada so I can be closer to family and then our primary residence will be back in Alaska (YEA!) on the Kenai peninsula most likely. It will be so easy for me to get out and BP when we move there and I'm hoping Hubby will want to come, too.”

“Wow, you guys get around! Too bad you are selling your place, it sounded so nice, even with the work. Good luck with Nevada and Alaska I can't even imagine. I've only been as far as Vancouver. Have fun!”

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“I thought you were trying to say that Slappy is Sirpete, not that Bear fella.
Violin
6/22/01

Not quite pusshead. If I want to hear from the string section I'll ask for ya but until then put down the bow.”

“OK Violin seems as though I might have over reacted on ya a little here......maybe a lot! Sirpete is Sirpete and thats all. I don't need an alais to speak my mind and put my foot in my mouth.”