Really Hurt

“I started a thread about how excited I was to have met a guy over the 3rd and 4th. It wasn't particularly exciting, but I was pretty stoked to let you guys know. Bacpac, decided to make a really nasty comment about my "getting pregnant before the summer was out" or something to that effect. I want to say that it hurt my feelings. I'm not a feminist, but if I was a man talking about this . . . I'd be encouraged and congratulated. I haven't "been with" anyone in 18 months. Before that I was faithful to my daughter's father for 2 and 1/2 yrs. Mnutz made the comment that most adults (regardless of gender) crave sexual contact from time to time. Thank you Bacpac. It is narrow, offense people, like yourself, that make single mothers afraid to feel (let alone express) those needs. Lipstick Hiker, you are a really nice gal and alot closer to reality than Bacpac.”

“Newgirl. You have to realize that BP is an a$$, and to just ignore his rude obtuse comments. You might also want to use him as a learning experience - you should avoid any guy that has a personality like BP, so watch the things he says, and if you hear them from other guys, you'll know to steer clear.

Bacpac thinks he's funny, but there is always something malicous behind his weak unwitty comments. Don't get uspest, and the joke will be on him.”

“Hey Newgirl! Don't let it get you down. Take BacPac's nastiness to you as a badge of honor. If you'll notice, a lot of people enjoyed your posts and your spunk. The fact that he has maligned you puts you in wonderful company.

He bragged about some cockamamie story in which he services multiple ex girlfriends and their vibrators. His moral judgements and posts about sexual judgement count for nothing.

You deserve your flights of fancy. And, you seem to have the judgement and the patience to know when to act and when not to - and the wisdom and experience to take appropriate precautions when you do.

I agree that Lipstick offered a post that was nice and was "a lot closer to reality."

I have no idea what BacPac is like in person, but his posts are worth getting hurt over. They are just nasty and carry no useful information about anything but the poster.”

“Ooops... I meant his posts aren't worth getting hurt over (but you knew that).”

“Thanks! You guys are really sweet. I admit that right now I am overly sensitive and touchy about this particular subject. I have been astounded at the stigma that is still attached to single motherhood. Until I was in the position I hadn't realized how much ridiculous crap women in my situation have to deal w/. From now on I am will just plain ignore Bacpac. He is malicous.”

“I like your spunk and honesty, newgirl. Stick around and don't let the negative comments get to ya.

Lipstick offers some good comments. Listen to those, not the flames.”

“newgirl - This site is a lot of fun if you can ignore some of the insensitive comments. I think we have all had our detractors from time-to-time. I know I have.

Spunkiness is fun, but does open itself up to lots of inuendos and sexual banter. Regardless of the some of the comments like BP's, you girls still have the upper hand. Lipstick, Mel, Sunshine, mtn gal and others shove it right back at them. The double standard is pretty much standard fare on the internet because guys can hide behind their e-personna (hey, I just made that up...PedXing-what do you think?).

Have a nice day. I hope you find a nice companion!”

“bacpac is really a large, slutty, hairy, Bulgarian woman named Svetlina.
Don't let her see you sweat.”

“E-personna. Now that is cool! Good one, Phil.”

“You're pretty popular in the "spunk" department, newgirl. You sound like a very nice person.

But I can't imagine anyone judging someone by there posts here. We are all such diverse people that it's hard to tell when someone is being serious so it's good to just shrug off comments that appear to be hurtful.

I try to have an open mind about others. Tarpy has hung around for a long time. Hard to tell what kind of a person he is but I wouldn't judge him by his posts here.

You seem like a good person, newgirl. Don't let other people's comments control how you feel. You seem like you deserve more than that.”

“I think Phil is a smart man with a lotta insight and common sense.

"E-personna" has a good ring to it, it might just catch on.”

“To be honest, I could really care less about reading about your sex life or anyone elses, male or female. My opinion on the matter is if you post about it, you are open to comments from any direction. If it hurts your feelings, you should have kept it to yourself. To be honest, I think mtngal is now trolling from Montana instead of Idaho.”

“I for one enjoy the way you look at life and love and it`s great seeing the pictures you paint with your words.

If it`s heart felt, it can can come back to that and hurt you, if you let it. Just be you and don`t let the world change you to fast. You have something special that you don`t even know about going for you right now.

You have youth on your side and maybe time to learn a thing or two and time yet to teach and preach about your love.

Be YOU....... nothing else matters.”

“Again, I am not mtngal. I have no idea who the lady is. I agree that if I post about it, than I should be prepared for whatever comment comes my way. However, Bacpac is clearly out to be mean. I've read him doing it to Buddha Bear and others. There is no point in purposely seeking to hurt. At least that is not my objective.”

“You haven't been insulted until you been insulted by Gentle Ben.

Now, he was a true artiste'.

BP is really a big huggable redneck, and you just gotta' go with the flow.

Stick your neck out too far around here, and you're likely to get nicked a little.

Common sense, m'dear. Common sense.”

“Noogie, its not like you weren't warned.
Thick skin, its not just for the feet.”

“There was once a person that said "Let Me Be Who I am..."

I think that everyone should be able to say what ever it is without "crossing the line". Did bacpac? Depends on how you look at it. Reading the above responses. I agree with every one of them.
baume66 has a good take. This "board" is a double edge sword. In a way, you can think of bacpac as that grumpy old uncle in the corner, gripeing (sp?) at the family party about the way things used to be and should be. To be honest myself, I would be honored to be insulted by bacpac. It's sorta a right of passage. Take it with a grain of salt. Opinions are like a@#holes, everyones got one....”

“I suspect bacpac is just a little jealous 'cause it's not him getting attention from a sweet young thing. I was too ;)

That's just his way of expressing himself. You get used to it. I've learned to (usually) admire his directness, though sometimes it makes me wince.”

“Geeeeez, Big Foot. That was so sweet. You're a real heart melter. Thanks for the up! I like all the different opinions, I'm just the sensitive type and in regard to this particular subject I am super-sensitive. I guess I need to (as we say in MT) "cowboy up."”

“I,m not for trashing anybody, light kidding is o.k. But mel is right, watch your neck.”

“I believe mtngal is married. So unless she was 'trolling' I don't think they are the same person.”

“The other thing I need to look at is Bacpac's situation. Even though I've had 18 long months of newgirl gettin' it on w/ newgirl, my sex life appears to be more fulfilling than his. Bacpac is probably just repressed and he needs a hottie about my age to %^&* the hell outta' him. How was that for dishing it right back, Phil? Would Lipstick be proud?”

“There ya go!”

“chief, same story different angle.”

“What a whiner. What you need is a sense of humor and moral fibre, not another Johnny cum lately.”

“Thats the problem, too much moral fibre in BacPac's diet!”

“You just need some fiber, period. God, when was the last time you felt crazily attracted to someone? When was the last time you let your imagination go over all the sexual possibilities w/ some beautiful woman? I don't act every time I get turned on, but a girl can do some serious flirting and have a few sensual kisses. What about that, Bacpac, honey? When was the last time you had a really hot kiss?”

“No one cares when I had my last hot kiss anymore than they care about your last kiss.

If you want to post your most personal and intimate feelings in a public forum, go ahead, but when someone comments on them don't start belly aching.”

“Ped, a little moral fibre may help loosen up that stool in your head.”

“If I'm too soft, than you are too hard, Bacpac. I think that most of the people on TT are geniune. I think that they do care about each other. I have gotten lots support and encouragement here about everything from bping to gettin' some to weight lifting to parenting. Maybe I am being to innocent about it, but I'm interested. I like to see pics. of Phil's family, I like to hear how Joy and Hyper's baby did on her first pack, I want to know if Gojo had fun on his trip out west, I want to read Big Foot's poetry, etc., etc. And yes, dolly, I even want to know about your last kiss.”

“I think Le Subtil and Newgirl hit it right on the head. Bacpac is jealous cause it's not him gettin a young woman's attention.

Newgirl you can bet, if it was him who got that smooch from you a few days ago he wouldn't be raggin ya.

Maybe you should invite bacpac up for a hike. The Arkansas heat is gettin to him. A few days out in the clear Montana air, enjoying nature at its finest and spending some quality time with a cute young chick ... he'd come back a changed man.”

“Oh, come on. bacpac didn't mean any harm. If you're going to post about f*cking guys you meet in a lumberyard, you shouldn't let an off the cuff comment like that bother you.”

“The punch line is a close cousin of the punch in the face.”

“Steve Hiker, I think we should try to start a fund and pay a nice woman to visit Bacpac. Preferably on company time. HeHeHe”

“Sweetheart...

Discussing your sex life here is going to get you some attention you may not care for.

We may all joke around about rolling naked in jello, and everyone gets into the fantasy act, but this place is still a public place, and not one where we actively discuss when we get lucky, the details (unless in oblique terms), or how jammy are our underpants.

There are still more guys here than gals, and you might get your little sensiblilities burned if you aren't a mite more circumspect in your conversations to all of us "strangers".

Just a little advice to the lovelorn....”

“If she had any sensibilities that is.”

“e-persona is a good term for most people.

However, for some it should be e-asshola.

Hey Newg. it is better to be innocent than only speaking up to make yourself feel better by insulting everyone else.”

“Sooooo how's about them Yankess hu?”

“sonrisas, Knock off the sugar coating, tell us how you really feel.”

“newgirl, I try to keep my head off of bacpac's chopping block. I do get his sarcastic, and sometimes honest posts.

In one thread, he mentioned that there were some skeevy women here. Who knows, he may have been including me in that statement, but I laughed so hard. I'm not sure if the word was actually skeevy, slezoid, etc., but it was something close to that. Maybe he will enlighten us again.”

“The word was skeezer and I think it applies to most women at some point in their lives.

The irony of this whiney 'poor me' thread are the nasty names and indignities from the self righteous. You folks take yourselves way too seriously.”

“What does "skeezer" mean?”

“know what really hurts? getting my finger caught in the chain and sprocket while changing a flat on my bicycle this morning.......ouchie!

Don't feel bad newgirl.....at least you got over forty responses to this thread......I asked a question about a day hike in the Monarch Wilderness a day or so ago and got nary a response......i would have welcomed responses....even if they hurt!”

“Know what relly hurt for me this morning?

Waking up to find the girl that really dug me and got along with me sooooooo well, like we were soul partners...was just a dream!

I could've/would've married that girl!”

“I'll bet that hurt, Buddur. Did the swelling finally go down?”

“I don't believe I actually read this big steaming mushy pile of crap. What was I thinking!!!! Now I'm hurt!!!

Ironic, somethings are just better off not said.

Newgirl, sounds like you need to spend more time in the hay loft!!! wink wink{}”

“Phil, Come on, you know what it means. Don't make me define it in front of them. Weren't you ever a member of the, 'HeMan Woman Haters Club'?”

“At the feeding frenzy of trashing bacpac...NO ONE on TT goes away hungry....”

“Kewl!!!! Mr. BacPac thinks I have a fertile mind! (He just has funny ways of expressing his admiration for people)”

“Searched the web for "skeezer" and came up with references to a dog (Movie called "Skeezer"), reference to drug culture (also from a movie), and "Skeezer Lake" in the book "Glinda of Oz" (same author as Wizard of Oz).

Well, bacpac, which one is it?

Maybe skeezer is a regional term. Never heard it here in California.”