She Did It!

“This is going to be a gushing story about my beautiful daughter so . . . This morning when she got up I kinda' tried to act like I didn't hear her for a minute, so I could catch a few extra winks. She started to cry pretty hard so I went over to get her (her crib is in my bedroom). When I bent over to pick her up she hugged me! I mean she put her arms around my neck and laid her head on my shoulder and squeezed back! As a parent I had accepted the fact that it was going to be awhile before she was going to be capable of showing affection back, but at 9 and a 1/2 months I get my first big payback. I know this is a stupid thread, but it felt wonderful.”

“Newgirl, it's NOT a stupid thread. That's a very sweet moment and brings back some very fond memories for me. Thanks for sharing. ENJOY that little one...they don't stay little for long.”

“That isn't stupid at all - it's great.

Enjoy every minute of it; I know it's been said a million times, but it does go by fast. My babies are 11,13,16,17 and barely want anything to do with me LOL.

Thanks for sharing!”

“As part of a generation that followed a lot of dead ends in search of 'self-fulfillment', I have to say that I never felt true bliss until I held my baby daughter to my chest for the first time and connected.

We spent so much energy rebelling against the things our parent's valued only to find them the most satisfying.”

“Thanks guys! It was soooo cool. I was like, "You did it . . . You did it!" She looked at me like I was some kind of nutball, but it was adorable. I love her. I write in a jounal I'm keeping for her and this little event is definitely going down in the "recorded" history! Things like this make waking up alone (w/out a bf or hubby to snuggle) seem like retarded things to fret over. My love for my daughter is 100% more pure and real than any love I have ever experienced before.”

“A little story, since we're sharing...

My first kid was born in Traverse City, Mi., a city a little more progressive than most. We had a "birthing room" which was new, at the time. When my son was born, they did a few quick things, then handed him to me, and then they all left the room. The theory was to encourage our bonding. Kids are very alert when first born for a little while. I do believe he was looking at me and comprehending. That was the coolest thing I've ever experienced in my life. After a few minutes mom got him and fed him so they could bond.
None of the other hospitals did that, too bad.
PS - that kid walked at 7 months!”

“newgirl, cherish these moments because your little one will be grown up so fast. But actually it feels good to when there grown up and they still hug your neck.This was not a stupid thread. thats what real humans are all about!”

“kids are so amazing. they give you the ultimate feeling of acomplishmentm and the fulfilment of knowing that you are raising a person with your own morals.. i wish i had some (kids that is .. not morals). i was raising my girlfriends daughter with her but we have since broken up. we now live 300+km apart, so it is hard to see them.”

“That brings back some great memories. I still get lots of hugs from my kids (now 24, 22, 19, 14) because we are a hugging family, but those baby hugs are special.”

“Absolutely Kewl Newgirl!!!

There is something that can be life changing about the love you feel for your child and about the physical connection.

These kinds of things help us remember why we put our kids first.”

“She had her 9 month check up on the 12th and the dr. told me that it was "a delight to see such a happy, healthy baby who was obviously so well loved." Now that was a compliment. It made me feel like being a single mom was just fine.”

“I don't have kids, but the last time I visited my 2 yr. old niece, she ran into my arms screaming Uncle Jay, Uncle Jay. It was a damned good feeling!”

“Damned good is just the beginning Buddha. Wait 'til you have your own.”

“I'm so jealous of you newgirl!! I want kids so bad it's just the wrong time for us right now. Thanks for the post, it really brightened my day.”

“i'm waiting until i'm 35.

then, i'll wait until i'm 40...”

“ooopseee, I'm outtta heres.... yikes!”

“Do yourself and her a favor and READ to her every day. I have two young daughters 5 and 8 and read to them nightly from six months old. Good bonding stuff for dad and they could both read before kindergarten, great vocabularies, etc. Little girls are great.”

“Yeah, like mtnman said. I read all the Little House books to all 4 of mine at bedtimes. Good stuff.”

“Soak it all up newgirl.

My baby girl turns 16 a week from today. I was lucky enough to be in the operating room when she was delivered C-section and got to spend the first hour or so with her while her mom went through the rest of the surgery and recovery. Then, because of my schedule we had a lot of bonding time over Sesame Street and Mr. Rogers for a couple years. Now that I only see her every few weeks, those hugs are ever more special. When I go to her gymnastic meets, and I see her leap onto the balance beam, I remember that little girl who would run and leap into my arms when I'd get home.”

“A special day, for Newgirl and Newergirl. Enjoy everyone, of those little rewards. They are what will keep you go going and growing together.”

“every one
keep you going
'duh on' me”

“Thats awesome newgirl. I have no kids of my own but I love kids. And cant wait until I have some. You must be a great mom”

“I used to read books to my kids almost every night also. With my daughters I would sing a particular song to them every night (I can't sing, but there was one song I had learned to sing on key). Anyway, a couple of weeks ago my 22 year old daughter said she had the occasion to sing that particular song at school and she didn't miss a word. She had remembered the words vividly for almost two decades! That shows the impact of interaction with our children.”

“I do read to her daily. I have for about 4 months now. She's pretty into the touch and feel board books. There's one that has wild animals, including a treefrog w/ sticky toes. She loves it. LeSubtil, I loved the "Little House" series. I read the whole thing in around 4 or 5 months when I was about 10. I was sooooo inspired to be a pioneer girl.

Speaking of Mister Rogers . . . did any of you catch the interview of him a few nights ago on NightLine? Wow! I used to think the guy was kinda' a weirdo, but after I saw that interview I was blown away w/ respect. He alone gave Congress the reason to give public television $20 million in the 70's. In '68 after Bobby Kennedy was shot (the "old folks" can check my facts here, HeHeHe!), his program did a ground breaking special to help very young children understand what assination was and cope with it. They showed a clip of that broadcast where he sat down and begged the parents of the nation to be watchful of the kind of violence their children were witnessing on t.v. Very Cool Guy!”

“Sorry about the long post.”

“Mr. Rogers spoke from the heart. He told me I was special and he liked me just the way I am.

And then he scared the crap out of me with those freaky puppets with the motionless mouths!”

“The guy really cares how the children in our nation feel about their world and it's evils and themselves. However, have you ever seen the episode w/ the "racing" towel? LSD, anyone?”

“My kids are almost 5 & 3 and they are growing fast! I spend as much time as I can with them.

Quantity beats the pants off of quality any day of the week. (quality is certainly to be strived for, but my point is just being there as much as possible is VERY important)

The little things, (their smiles when I teel them I love them, crawling on my lap and snuggling in while watching cartoons, the pictures they colored just for me), those are the things that make me feel I'm doing things right.

Enjoy her newgirl, don't let anyone get in the way of you and her. Thanks for this thread, it made my day hearing all the stories.”

“Lady Elaine Fairchild and King Friday looked like they could be the stars of a low-grade horror flick about killer puppets.”

“puppetmaster!”

“A slinky letter carrier on a children's show name Mr. McFEELEY???”

“LeSubtil, My very best memory is of opening my eyes just long enough to see Hyper holding Abby so I could see her. He got to be one on one with her for an hour +. He just looked so pleased and surprisingly comfortable with the tiny little babe.

Newgirl, baby hugs can't be beat! Big ol' open mouth wet baby kisses on your cheek are pretty neat too. I bet she made your weekend didn't she?”

“Definitely! I've been smiling all day. It is making everyone around me happy. My baby helped contribute to some good vibes!”

“Aaaaaah! There's nothing like baby hugs and there's nothing like seeing your kids nurture their siblings, either.

Phil, That's great! I'm a huggy person, too so I'm hoping that my kids carry on the tradition. I'd hate to see the hugs end.

Thanks for sharing, newgirl!”

“We were never "huggy" people in my family, nor was my wifes, but somehow, our kids are. They taught us that, among many other things. I hug my kids at least every night (they still want to as teens!) I hug my mom and dad everytime I see them.”

“Has anybody got a hug for ol bacpac?”

“even YOU deserve or at least need a hug, bacpac!
(((((((HUG))))))”

“Now you're talking!!

I got this itch I can't scratch. Can you help me with that? :-)”

“Watch out cindy lu!!

bacpac is like a rattle snake. He'll mesmerize you with his rattle and then when you least expect it, he'll bite!


bacpac, Why don't you ask your girlfriend for a hug? Or is she too busy with the BOB you bought her? ;o)”

“Thanks for sharing, made me think of my kids when they were very small. My youngest Jourdan, she has to hug all the time. She is 10 now and hope she never stops.”

“Little moments like you will remember always. My family are huggers, we can't go to the store without hugging good bye. The latest little gem that my son gave me to remember is when he graduated college. He lost his scholorship in his second year, I blame that on organic chemistry, beer and some girl named Amy that we never met. Anyway we worked real hard and paid as we went so there wouldn't be any college bills after he graduated. We were so happy and proud, we did without and streached things as far as we could (college is expensive) and one year after he graduated he bought a BMW. Now I'm thinking we did without spent 30K getting him through college and he buys a BMW, where's the justice. But we're still proud.”

“Sunshine, My current friend is liberated enough to purchase her own sex toys. Don't fault me for helping other unwed mothers. The double dildo incident occured several years ago with two friends who at the time appreciated my support. I would perform the same act of charity again if need be, but thankfully the advent of the internet has provided a new venue for bashful women seeking sexual satisfaction.”

“My siblings and I all live within 5 minutes drive, of each other. One sister has a daughter turning 13 (same as mine). The other is 9.

Now that my bro' (the oldest) has a 1 year old son (and twins on the way), it's been so cool watching our 'young ladies' playing with and baby sitting my nephew.

I'm gonna love being a Grandpa! Just not too soon... I hope”

“Newgirl, that is sooo sweet! As you know, I don't have any babies yet, but when we were visiting friends recently, there little 2 yr old (who has Shirley Temple curls and big brown eyes) put her arms around my neck and said "I WUV you!" She was so sweet. I told her later that she is the most adorable little kid I had ever seen in my life! and without missing a beat, she replied, "Yeaaah!"”

“Newgirl, God chose you to have that little girl at that time, so she is a gift, not a mistake. Don't let anyone hurt you about the circumstances of your daughter (referring to past threads). You have every right to enjoy her baby charm.

My husband and I had a lot of trouble having our kids. We were very sick with colds at one point and it was THE TIME. We said "Nah", and then my husband changed his mind. My oldest daughter was born and she is incredibly beautiful. Her art teacher says she is the most talented artist in the school, and she scored better than 99 percent of the kids taking the Terra Nova 2nd grade test. And we almost missed having her. The younger one has a tough act to follow, but has a friendly, outgoing manner that everyone loves.

Our kids are so much fun, I can't imagine not having them. They are learning to garden, cook, spend money!!! They choose good kids for their friends and avoid the catty ones. They hold me back from doing some of the things I want to do, but I wouldn't trade them for the world.”

“Thanks LyndyS. I know she's a blessing.”

“Newgirl, from one single mom to another... I know how lonely those nights can be. The absolutely precious gift you have wrapped up in that 9 1/2 month old girl is something to be infinitely proud of.
Whatever the circumstances were that lead up to the way things are now, really are inconsequential when you look in her eyes, aren't they?
My only advice(since you're doing such a wonderful job already!)... hug her and tell her every day(as many times as you can) how much you love her and how much she means to you. :o)”

“I say those words over and over and in other languages and through physical demonstration (hugs, kisses) and through play and by spending as much time as I can w/ her and by exposing her to other people who will show her the same. I think that if she is 100% certain of my love, she will grow up to be a very secure woman.”

“Way to go Newgirl. Write it all down. I wrote down my kids' antics, first words, funny things they say when they are small. Now we read it and laugh for hours. It is a great thing for a family to have. Mine are 6, 7, 10, 12. The 12 is starting to get teen'tude but the younger two will still do the little-girl big hug thing. Its nice. My three brothers have no kids. They chose other lifestyles and now they are regretting it.

Mr. Rogers: America's last great and worthy TV role model!”

“Sonrisas, four kids! That's a LOT of cinnamin toast! Do they backpack with you?”